Hi, just reposting because I could really do with some advice on this issue, and I didn't get a reply last time.
I am going on a year abroad next week, and I will only be able to see my boyfriend three times in the whole year. He has already booked plane tickets to see me for £700, so I think he's serious about being long distance.
Recently I have just been having doubts about the relationship, wondering if I trust him enough to be long distance. He is a lovely boyfriend, and I've always been very happy with him, apart from this nagging feeling I can't trust him, especially around his ex. I know he was crushed when they broke up, because he thought she was 'the one', and it's always made me feel slightly second best. He's still friends with her, and I am not comfortable with the level of contact they have.
The reason I feel so uncomfortable is because he's lied to me several times about her. First he said she was a friend, without mentioning that they ever went out - I only realised when I saw how they acted together. Then he lied to me about some texts they exchanged in which he told her he still loves her as a friend - when I asked him about it, he said he'd never said that, even though her texts clearly stated that he did. I can't believe he outright lied to me as if he thought I was stupid.
Once, a girl asked him on facebook how things were going with me, and he replied 'So so, still in love with you though.' This was early on in our relationship so I didn't let it bother me. I asked him about it and he acted like it was hard to remember who she even was, and said he couldn't remember saying that and didn't know why he said it. Eventually he admitted he did remember her and said he'd 'just had some fun' with her after he broke up with his ex.
I love him to bits, and I have really put a lot into this relationship. I just get the feeling I'm not his number one. I'm not sure whether I can really have a long distance relationship for a year, with someone who's been dishonest with me like that. What should I do?