I would like to start by saying that although I might be being a bit flippant about what happened now, it was a long time ago and by being like this I feel like I can get over it with a bit of dark humour as it something I try to push to the back of my mind.
I would like people's opinions here on whether this would constitute rape, I am not doing it so much for me but more as an experiment to see how people's beliefs vary based on the scenario, although this is 100% true, I will answer any questions that are asked in order for people to form their opinions.
I am a male, and this happened 6 and a half years ago, I still remember it like it was yesterday.
I was in the early stages of a relationship with a girl that I was relatively attracted to but we were quite young (15). She was a virgin, I was not.
She had mentioned sex a lot but I was quite wary of it because I didn't think I was ready for that part in our relationship yet, she felt like she was. I was very wary of how complicated things could become if the relationship ended as she would be losing her virginity to me, and I didn't feel like I wanted that.
One morning when we were in my room (she stayed over but we didn't have sex in the evening, pretty innocent really) she decided now was the time. I told her I think we should wait and that I didn't really feel like it because it was morning and my parents were around etc, but she told me to stop being an idiot. She put a condom on me and had sex with me, and I was kind of distant throughout. It happened and afterwards I felt really weird, almost sad for quite a while. After a few days I ended up breaking up with her because she became someone I wasn't comfortable being around, which led to me being accused of using her for sex and taking her virginity, being a monster etc, but I can handle that.
My questions are.
1) Was I raped?
2) Would your answer be the same if the roles were reversed and I was a woman?
3) Depending on your answers to 1/2 do you think women can rape men?
If you have any questions please ask them