My "one night stand" is behaving like a fool. What's his problem?

Maybe he likes you and thought it was mutual while you were continuing to talk lots, got worried about how to proceed so went quiet, and now that you seem to have made it clear you only want to remain friends he's withdrawn again. He might have attached more to the sex than you did, particularly as he isn't usually one for casual sex.

How do you feel about him? Do you really just want to be friends?

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He doesn't do it often and has started to like you.


Is it really that hard to see?

Seems a bit beta..

what part of this situation actually makes you think he likes me in any way??

Over the past week he has been messaging my flatmate and inviting her out (albeit with other people), again without asking me. This is definitely making me think he likes her. If so very shady.

pardon my ignorance.. but what does that mean? I've read it couple of times around here but never figured it out ;/

Yes!

He has invited all of my friends out and excluded me. Over the past week he has been messaging my flatmate and inviting her out (albeit with other people), again without asking me. This is definitely making me think he likes her. If so very shady.

yo radical one, what part of this situation actually makes you think he likes me in any way??

I don't think he likes her. I also considered that, but it does not make sense to me. If he liked her, he might indeed be awkward about it which could lead to misunderstandings, but 1) he would have actively tried to be friends when she offered (in the hope of taking it further). This would have nipped the awkwardness pretty soon, because OP doesn't sound awkward to be around / seems a quite chatty / open person. And more importantly, 2) he would not want to actively hurt her. He must be aware that excluding her is hurting her, yet he does it quite openly.

There are several possibilities (religious hypocrisy is one of them), but I think the simplest explanation may be this: he wants to date her friend, and wants to make it very obvious (for her friend's benefit) that he has absolutely no feelings for OP. OP, maybe he even already liked your friend before and so considers the ONS a huge mistake, for which he partly blames you (as he "normally doesn't do them")?



I disagree a little bit here. ONS are supposed to be no strings attached, so should also not limit choice of future partners. Getting hurt over something like this sucks, but that's a risk with one-night-stands.