How sexually liberated are you? Which of these categories do you fall into?

One!



Edit: 'both partners' should really read *all* partners.

I don't fit into any of those. I only want sex in a monogamous relationship with someone I love but that in no way means it's bland and vanilla. I've done stuff that I don't think I'd ever want to do with a ONS, not because of any particular principles but I just wouldn't trust them enough.

I believe sex is a natural human thing which is there to be enjoyed, but that doesn't mean I want to enjoy it with someone I don't love.

Sex and love are two very different things.

Well clearly. Sex is a physical act, love is an emotional bond. That's as clear as saying stars and the flavour of a banana are two very different things. I fail however to see what relevance is has to what I said.

The point I was making was that you don't need to love someone to experience good sex with them. You've actually contradicted yourself because you said you don't want to enjoy sex with someone you don't love, yet you agreed with me that sex and love are two very different things.

You may not need to love someone to enjoy good sex with them, I do. That doesn't mean I'm some frigid person who has boring sex though, or am embarrassed by it in any way, hence I don't fit into any of your categories. Also I never said I don't want to enjoy sex with someone I don't love, just that I don't. There's no want about it, it's just a fact of life for me. (edit: ok, I see now where I said want, that was bad use of english and I'm sorry for the misunderstanding. What I meant is I don't want it with someone I don't love because I don't enjoy it)

Look at is this way. I don't enjoy bread. Add heat and you get toast, which I do enjoy. Bread and heat are two very different things. I'm perfectly fine with the fact that some people like bread, that's great for them; it's sure easier to get than toast, but it's just not for me.

Have you ever had sex with someone who wasn't your monogamous boyfriend (or girlfriend)?

Yes.

Then you've contradicted yourself there again. You said 'I only want sex in a monogamous relationship with someone I love', but then when I asked you if you'd had sex with someone who you weren't monogamous with, you said yes. So which is it?