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Can you be born shy/quiet?

It might be a silly question but from a young age I was always a quiet shy kid. I'm still the same now. It makes me wonder if it's because the way my parents raised me or if I was born that way..

Reply 1

FutureUoBstudent

Ahhh the classic nature vs. nature argument. There’ve been studies to prove both. I personally believe that a person CAN be born shy/loud/etc. In the same way that people can be raised to be that way

Reply 2

Analyst89

Original post by Anonymous

It might be a silly question but from a young age I was always a quiet shy kid. I'm still the same now. It makes me wonder if it's because the way my parents raised me or if I was born that way..

I've been shy and quiet for most of my life.

Their is nothing wrong with that. Maybe you just are naturally shy/quiet?

I hope this helps:

1) Relax, imagine you're just observing or there as a traveller. For example, if you are on holiday, you go there to experience and observe the attraction, you're not going to get anxious doing that are you?

2) Smile, smiling in contagious.

3) Be confident, respect yourself, accept yourself, work out, wear good clothes, feel good, focus on your passions, know you are a good person who treats people well, think positively, be proud of yourself, do things that make you happy, remember your happy times, what makes you confident? What makes you proud? Do you have a skill you are good at? Do things like cooking, driving, learning that increases your confidence daily.

Have good posture, body language, improve your appearance.

4) Dress well, have good grooming, hairstyle, have good posture.

5) Just say hi or hey to people in your vicinity, who cares if they don't say anything back?

6) Ask how they are, how's everything, what made them choose this course, their plans for the future, their plans for the rest of the day, weekend, how was their weekend, what they will get up to, what they got up to, ask them about their hobbies, talk about what's happening.

Talk about the weather or did you see that sports game? Just mingle with them,

compliment them, say "I like your jacket".

If you know they went on a holiday or somewhere, ask them about it etc.

7) Be passionate about life.

8) Lighten up, have a laugh, laugh easily, be friendly, approachable, interested, relaxed.

9) Look outside!

Reply 3

Muudeey

Original post by Anonymous

It might be a silly question but from a young age I was always a quiet shy kid. I'm still the same now. It makes me wonder if it's because the way my parents raised me or if I was born that way..

Don't worry. I trust people who quite and shy a lot more since they can hold secrets and are a lot more thoughtful. Plus when they do someting amazing it's quite a surprise