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How old are you? I'm going to guess under 25. You have your whole life ahead of you, don't judge it on the few years you have been mature enough to consider relationships.
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(Original post by Mancini)
What made you decide to stop using the anonymous function or was this just a mistake you not pressing it this time? If you are not physically ill or have some other medical condition I struggle to understand how you find yourself so lonely. Perhaps you should start thinking about what you like doing and find other people who like the same and make new friends. Whether it's a specific sort of club/ activity just start communicating with new people. Really though I think anyone in good health should find making friends easy.
i am not in good health and I don't have friends.
I guess I'm damned for all eternity then. personally I don't see where physical health comes into it, why should it stop you from having someone to talk to?
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Just make make money and get escorts on a payroll.

If you make around 30k a year its not too hard if you arent retarded and have n other commitments.

Personally I would also get ripped its fun and makes you love yourself more.

We are all gonna make it brah
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(Original post by sherlockfan)
i am not in good health and I don't have friends.
I guess I'm damned for all eternity then. personally I don't see where physical health comes into it, why should it stop you from having someone to talk to?
I thought the health bit was self explanatory but I will explain it for you. Yes sure with a debilitating disease/illness some people can talk to people day to day but others may have an illness so bad that this is all they can do just talk, so in the end cannot form close relationships cause of fear of embarrassment and shame. Therefore causing them to be lonely not for lack of trying but because they just find themselves in a very bad situation.
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(Original post by Mancini)
I thought the health bit was self explanatory but I will explain it for you. Yes sure with a debilitating disease/illness some people can talk to people day to day but others may have an illness so bad that this is all they can do just talk, so in the end cannot form close relationships cause of fear of embarrassment and shame. Therefore causing them to be lonely not for lack of trying but because they just find themselves in a very bad situation.
they can talk to other people with similar illnesses? there are support groups practically everywhere in this country.
I know some illnesses can make people feel very isolated. but it can be overcome.
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(Original post by sherlockfan)
they can talk to other people with similar illnesses? there are support groups practically everywhere in this country.
I know some illnesses can make people feel very isolated. but it can be overcome.
Yes true but I think people with illnesses want to be cured and live a healthy normal life otherwise at some point depression will just kick in. Support groups are nice but they are not exactly friends in the normal sense, another reason for the person to be depressed. Nor is it just feeling isolated, they are isolated or become isolated from society and their community.
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Yes true but I think people with illnesses want to be cured and live a healthy normal life otherwise at some point depression will just kick in. Support groups are nice but they are not exactly friends in the normal sense, another reason for the person to be depressed. Nor is it just feeling isolated, they are isolated or become isolated from society and their community.
some illnesses are chronic and cant be overcome. and what do you define as "normal"? Normal doesn't exist.
honestly I think your point of view is very black and white. anyone in this world is very likely to develop a chronic disesase (e.g cancer) at any given time.
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Tinder is your friend
Not if you're ugly lol
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You don't just wait for a girl to come to you... Does a Fisherman wait idley and hope a fish jumps into his lap? You need to go out there and actively search, thats the only way

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Just make make money and get escorts on a payroll.

If you make around 30k a year its not too hard if you arent retarded and have n other commitments.

Personally I would also get ripped its fun and makes you love yourself more.

We are all gonna make it brah
What's a good website to get escorts?
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Tinder is crap and the matches never respond. I'm 24 and i have given up like OP.
Tinder is amazing for me haha! Always have someone to talk to or meet up with and stuff, all the guys on there are desperate as **** so it's great. Have you actually tried speaking to them? Or being original rather than just a lame hi or dumb ass pick up line?
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I always think if ur desperate u wont find anyone, when u r happy with yourself you will find someone
try internet dating? and no not tinder, how about match.com? its how I met my husband
he had given up and thought he was going to be alone forever until I came along and bugged him lots and lots, he was 26 when we met and hadn't had a gf ever before, I know people in their 30s + who havnt found their special someone but they still have relationships and dates.
it might just mean the right person for u is currently in the wrong relationship for them and u just have to wait till they r single
there are a lot of people in the world for each other - its just a case of finding one
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I know the feeling. I just feel like I have no luck at all when it comes to the relationship department, and that I will probably be single for a very long time, BUT at the same time I have realized you shouldn't NEED anyone. There is a difference between wanting and needing a relationship. It's a bad thing if you are looking for a relationship to fill a gap in your life. So maybe you aren't ready for one if you are not happy with yourself right now.
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(Original post by sherlockfan)
some illnesses are chronic and cant be overcome. and what do you define as "normal"? Normal doesn't exist.
honestly I think your point of view is very black and white. anyone in this world is very likely to develop a chronic disesase (e.g cancer) at any given time.
It's nothing to do with me being black and white. If you have a chronic diseases/ illness which you hope to heal from it's clearly not normal and the person wishes to get back to normal health. By normal health I mean dealing with normal everyday health issues that do not change your life for good like a cold, a cough, something easily overcome. I really should not even have to explain that but you're the sort who needs a full explanation for everything.
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Oh let me get a tissue for you :sleep:
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Hey guys, so Im starting to come to terms with the fact that I'll never find anyone to be with. I say starting to come to terms but really I just mean that I've been single for so long with absolutely no hint of attentiont from any females whatsoever and in fact plenty of rejections that I just feel like I'm destined to be alone. I don't even believe in destiny but you get the picture. It's kind of sad really because I absolutely love the thought of having that someone to make feel special and treat them amazingly and share moments with etc. I just, well I don't even know anymore I suppose posting in here might give me some release but k would wager my next salary that you people don't really care either. Awh well. Life goes on.
You seem to have a poor me mentality..... and I am going to tell you now, no one is going to come into your life if you keep thinking that you are not good enough. Stop focusing on pass rejections. Focus on all the good qualities you have to offer a woman or why any woman would be glad to have you as her man. If you can't think of much, you have some personal development and self-reflection to do buddy.

So don't give up, take it as an opportunity to get to know yourself and love who you are, and one day hopefully you'll meet someone who appreciate you just for you.
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(Original post by Mancini)
It's nothing to do with me being black and white. If you have a chronic diseases/ illness which you hope to heal from it's clearly not normal and the person wishes to get back to normal health. By normal health I mean dealing with normal everyday health issues that do not change your life for good like a cold, a cough, something easily overcome. I really should not even have to explain that but you're the sort who needs a full explanation for everything.
You said that friendships formed from support groups are not normal. I asked what you meant by that. It seems you are unable to answer a simple question.
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You will find someone but you need to either
a) Make yourself a more valuable person
b) Decrease the offer that you are willing to accept
For many it's easier to understand this in terms of a business transaction.

Watch 'Coach Corey Wayne' videos on youtube, he will help you to understand camouflaged and underlying signals, both that you give and receive. You can not do this, but as he says, this stuff only comes perfectly naturally to 3% of men. Hence his book 'The 3% Man' which I am not arsed to read.
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You said that friendships formed from support groups are not normal. I asked what you meant by that. It seems you are unable to answer a simple question.
You really need to look back at what you wrote instead of taking irrelevant digs. You did not even write that question in your last reply. So now you are asking me to answer simple questions that were not even written lol.

A support group for me is not a group I would define as friends, ooh look at me hanging with people with the same condition I should be happy, this is the life. Not.

For me that would just be people you associate with, who yes some you may make close friends out of but it's not exactly ideal.

While you reply to me consider learning how to form a simple question.
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You really need to look back at what you wrote instead of taking irrelevant digs. You did not even write that question in your last reply. So now you are asking me to answer simple questions that were not even written lol.

A support group for me is not a group I would define as friends, ooh look at me hanging with people with the same condition I should be happy, this is the life. Not.

For me that would just be people you associate with, who yes some you may make close friends out of but it's not exactly ideal.

While you reply to me consider learning how to form a simple question.
That was what I asked, maybe if you learned how to read you would have figured it out.
the key phrase here is "for you". Support groups are there to help people make friendships with other people who are in a similar situation.
you are lucky that you've never yet suffered from anything and your life has been relatively easy. but you are not the authority on what is normal. so just bear that in mind next time you post.
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