We don't know who initiated it so it is impossible to say at this current moment.(Original post by geometrix)
Whoever initiates it is the rapist.
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- 17-08-2014 17:46
(Original post by geometrix)
Whoever initiates it is the rapist. -
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- 17-08-2014 17:49
no its not ****ing rape.
you made the conscious decision to get ****ing wasted. You should know that when you get wasted **** can happen.
You weren't in the clear state of mind to give full informed consent, but neither was he, and thats both of your faults.
If you don't remember consenting, then how is it rape?
For all you know, you could've been the one that raped him if you guys were both that drunk. -
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- 17-08-2014 17:51
If you don't remember, then I don't see how anyone can possibly say one way or the other.
Perhaps you consented, in which case, I don't see how it could be rape.
Perhaps you didn't consent, in which case it would obviously be rape.
As you don't remember what happened, I really don't think anyone can tell you. -
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- 17-08-2014 17:51
(Original post by maria1607)
no its not ****ing rape.
you made the conscious decision to get ****ing wasted. You should know that when you get wasted **** can happen.
You weren't in the clear state of mind to give full informed consent, but neither was he, and thats both of your faults.
If you don't remember consenting, then how is it rape?
For all you know, you could've been the one that raped him if you guys were both that drunk. -
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- 17-08-2014 17:51
(Original post by The_Mediocre_One)
That just isn't strong enough.
100% certain. -
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- 17-08-2014 17:52
(Original post by Anonymous)
in no time i was blacked out and completely lost control -
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- 17-08-2014 17:53
(Original post by geometrix)
From BBC News: In making the ruling, Sir Igor said: "If, through drink - or for any other reason - the complainant has temporarily lost her capacity to choose whether to have intercourse on the relevant occasion, she is not consenting, and subject to questions about the defendant's state of mind, if the intercourse takes place, this would be rape.
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- 17-08-2014 17:53
(Original post by inachigeek21)
I mean, due to the fact that they were both drunk on alcohol they weren't aware of the changes in their surroundings. Implying the matter that her mate got drunk with the intention of sleeping with her. He probably did like her, while she didn't take notice of his actions before or she never gave him chance to say that he probably likes her. I'm just suggesting it's not
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- 17-08-2014 17:56
(Original post by Deteriorate)
She said she got herself drunk. -
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- 17-08-2014 17:56
(Original post by inachigeek21)
I mean, due to the fact that they were both drunk on alcohol they weren't aware of the changes in their surroundings. Implying the matter that her mate got drunk with the intention of sleeping with her. He probably did like her, while she didn't take notice of his actions before or she never gave him chance to say that he probably likes her. I'm just suggesting it's not
100% certain.
Forget 100% certain, the lack of information means 0% certain. -
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- 17-08-2014 17:59
I don't drink but occasionally do go on a night out with friends for a special occasion and many times drunk girls including some of my friends can be ridiculously alluring and start dancing, touching and groping me. I'm usually not interested in these girls and end up telling them to stop or push them away, also I'm too smart to get involved with a girl who might be completely smashed and accuse me of rape in the future even though they are clearly the ones initiating the move. I was in a massively packed and busy club once when a hot girl wouldn't let go of my penis which led to a pretty awkward erection however I was trying to get away from her because she was incredibly drunk and completely out of her senses, in theory I was raped but I never thought about reporting her because she was drunk, more than anything I tried to get away from her for my own safety because I didn't want to be accused of raping a drink girl.
The point is it's not only guys who are making moves and initiating when drunk, the gap between men and women once drunk closes very substantially. -
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- 17-08-2014 17:59
(Original post by Deteriorate)
He's saying if you were both drunk then no because then they couldn't be sure who initiated what and for all they know they both could've consented and it was just drunken sex.
Your hypersensitivity to a guy who is just offering a valid opinion which I'm sure he wouldn't offer if he knew she was raped is what is worrying.
Calm down until we get all the details, stop trying to be a white knight in search of internet pussy.
Nothing I said was hypersensitive, his statements were awful and contrary to UK law.
We need all the details, good point. Oh wait, that's exactly what you just quoted me saying. I didn't say "yes you were raped", I said we are unsure. He said she definitely wasn't, which is totally untrue from what we've been told. He also accused her of trying to ruin this guy's life, even though she's didn't even accuse him of rape, which is what I found really distasteful.
Predictable, stupid "white knight" criticism. One, I'm in a long term, monogamous relationship. Two, I've never private messaged a girl on here, and have no desire to make any personal interactions or reveal my actual identity. Thirdly, I've often expressed my support for men's rights issues on here (yes, you can support men's and women's rights!).
You should stop white knighting this guy and trying to get his internet ****. Let him reply for himself. If I wanted to reply to your incorrect comments, like saying "So by accusing him of doing this without knowing what happened" when she hasn't accused him of doing anything, she just asked for opinions, I will. -
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- 17-08-2014 18:01
(Original post by The_Mediocre_One)
You are making some serious assumptions, no evidence till this point has been provided to suggest he is attracted to her.
Forget 100% certain, the lack of information means 0% certain. -
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- 17-08-2014 18:01
Neither of them were in a situation to give full consent. As the OP can't remember the circumstances fully, I'd say they should ask someone else who was at the party if they know anything about it (but not someone who is going to go crazy and attack someone about it).
Obviously they can't both have been unconscious. If one of them was unconscious, it was rape and the other one is the rapist. If both of them were conscious but inebriated beyond the point of being able to make informed decisions, but both were willing at the time, neither were responsible for their actions and it was not rape. If one of them was conscious but was clearly unwilling, it was rape.Last edited by Aisa; 17-08-2014 at 18:04. -
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- 17-08-2014 18:03
(Original post by inachigeek21)
I didn't mean for it to be serious. -
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- 17-08-2014 18:05
(Original post by joker12345)
We do not know that she was unconscious, she does not state that it remember it, we also do not know that he forced sex. She remembers nothing, so it is not rape - for all she/we know she consented.
Huh? How did you arrive at that conclusion? Like you said, we don't know any of the details? -
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- 17-08-2014 18:08
(Original post by The_Mediocre_One)
I don't drink but occasionally do go on a night out with friends for a special occasion and many times drunk girls including some of my friends can be ridiculously alluring and start dancing, touching and groping me. I'm usually not interested in these girls and end up telling them to stop or push them away, also I'm too smart to get involved with a girl who might be completely smashed and accuse me of rape in the future even though they are clearly the ones initiating the move. I was in a massively packed and busy club once when a hot girl wouldn't let go of my penis which led to a pretty awkward erection however I was trying to get away from her because she was incredibly drunk and completely out of her senses, in theory I was raped but I never thought about reporting her because she was drunk, more than anything I tried to get away from her for my own safety because I didn't want to be accused of raping a drink girl.
The point is it's not only guys who are making moves and initiating when drunk, the gap between men and women once drunk closes very substantially. -
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- 17-08-2014 18:10
May I suggest not to get wasted in the future.
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- 17-08-2014 18:12
(Original post by brownsugar-xx)
Not everyone, my bad. But some people have already decided he's the rapist which isn't really fair.
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