Hi there,
Can I just remind everyone about the dangers of online relationships. Someone privately messaged me today on here that I had never spoken to before:
"Hi there,
I am glad to post today.It was the same with me i am single from last any years and alone working on my self and studying too
I do live and work in London, professional well educated men seeking sweet girl to get in long term relationship or as girlfriend. I was quite busy with my study and work so didn't get time to get in any relationship . now i am settle down I would like to have someone to love and someone to cheer up my and her own life to think about her .
If you really sounds Interested and fun loving cheer up girl Please don't hesitate to contact me.
Can talk further and meet in Person.
I do believe If you will meet me and get to know about me it wont be time waste at all. U will get great response further.
I look forward to hear from you soon
Regards
xxxx"
I have kept the user anonymous for his (I assume) benefit, although I would like to humiliate him.
The part about meeting is particularly worrying. The problem with internet dating, or even internet relationships, is the lack of knowledge about who you are actually talking to. For example, even if I got talking to this 'guy' on facebook, there would be no way of knowing who he really is.
I'll remind you what I was taught at school, by my parents, and by stories on the news.
For all I know, they could be some 40-year-old man living in China who will meet up with me, kidnap me and sell me off for a fortune.
They could be some sick-minded woman who wants to chop me up into tiny pieces and deliver parts of me home in the post.
They could be the same age as me and genuine, but have never thought about how risky it is to have a 'relationship' with someone over the internet.
For all they know, I could be some middle-aged man working in secret trying to gather information for the a TV show about teenagers of today, with a made-up story to make them think I am a teenage girl.
I could be a member of the police force who has just discovered that they're growing weed in their basement, has already worked out that's how they pay their rent, and has effectively caught them red-handed in the middle of research for their overseas prostitution trade.
I think you get the idea: you can never know over the internet that people are who they say they are. Therefore you should never attempt to initiate or accept a relationship online. If you're that desperate, use an online-dating site, but I disagree with those for similar reasons.
Of course, there is also the possibility that the sender had no bad intentions in sending that message. But be careful anyway. Never meet up with people for the first time alone, and make sure you know the place you are meeting. People can be convincingly trustworthy in messages. Even Skyping each other is more trustworthy than just messages, but is still not trustworthy.
There are some seriously dodgy people out there, so be careful!