I have no friends ask me anything

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Reply 20

LadyMcCartney4

Original post by Stinkum

Same here!!!!

How do you cope with silence and solitude?

reading mostly. a bit of studying here and there. a few outings with my dad. walks.

Reply 21

Stinkum

Original post by sherlockfan

reading mostly. a bit of studying here and there. a few outings with my dad. walks.

that's really nice. repped

Reply 22

sabana

Original post by sherlockfan

not really, though I prefer not to be in big groups. I'm normally left to the side.

Oooooh i see. I have social anxiety and have very few friends because of it. I dont like being in groups either. The friends i have it took me a long time to get close to. I guess u're not that weird.

Reply 23

username1118458

Original post by sherlockfan

early 20s, not in school or education. im doing some volunteering work for English heritage.

How long have you been volunteering there, have you tried to make friends, e.g. talking to people?

Reply 24

The vampire

How is it even possible not to have any friends? :eek:

Reply 25

LadyMcCartney4

Original post by yellowcopter

How long have you been volunteering there, have you tried to make friends, e.g. talking to people?

im starting my first shift this week, but from what I saw it's mainly university history graduates or students. I feel so old compared to them and I don't think we'd have much in common.

Reply 26

LadyMcCartney4

Original post by Stinkum

that's really nice. repped

thank you.

Reply 27

LadyMcCartney4

Original post by The vampire

How is it even possible not to have any friends? :eek:

some individuals have traits that other people don't want to associate with eg. a mental illness, which isn't attractive.

Reply 28

Paralove

Original post by sherlockfan

I don't judge anyone or push anyone away. I can generally get along with people but I don't form long term friendships. in my experience it seems that no one can be bothered or no one cares about me enough to want a part in my life. and I cant say I blame them.

Could that not be taken both ways though? If you drift apart, it's because both haven't bothered to keep in touch, not one. If you just let them go then it would appear to them also that you don't care much either.

Reply 29

tonberry

I honestly thought having no friends was a prerequisite to doing an ask me anything

Reply 30

username1118458

Original post by sherlockfan

im starting my first shift this week, but from what I saw it's mainly university history graduates or students. I feel so old compared to them and I don't think we'd have much in common.

Use the experience to make friends! Even if they're of different age don't think of it like that. :smile:

If you talk to people, about your interests and so forth I'm sure you'll find and make plenty of friends.

Reply 31

LadyMcCartney4

Original post by Paralove

I try to keep in touch with people, but often I get no response. I'm tired of chasing after people.
I'm going to bed. any further questions will be answered tomorrow.

Reply 32

LadyMcCartney4

Original post by yellowcopter

Use the experience to make friends! Even if they're of different age don't think of it like that. :smile:

If you talk to people, about your interests and so forth I'm sure you'll find and make plenty of friends.

I don't know if just talking to people is enough to make and keep friends. as soon as I stop volunteering it'll be like I never met them.

Reply 33

The vampire

Original post by sherlockfan

some individuals have traits that other people don't want to associate with eg. a mental illness, which isn't attractive.

That's stupid, I'd be your friend whether or not you have a mental illness. :smile:

Reply 34

AR_95

Original post by sherlockfan

Yes all the time. If theres something I want to see I dont depend on other people to go see it.

Good on you

Reply 35

ThatGirl276

Is this a result of dropping out of uni (or rather the reasons for doing so)?

Reply 36

username1118458

Original post by sherlockfan

I don't know if just talking to people is enough to make and keep friends. as soon as I stop volunteering it'll be like I never met them.

Of course it is, the more you talk to people the more you get to know them - leading to making friends. If you don't talk to them, nothing will happen. You can't wait for people to talk to you, sometimes you need to take the initiative. :smile:

How do you know it'll be like you never met them once you leave. If you keep predicting the worst, you're just making a wall for yourself. But that will be the case if you don't make friends in the first place.

If you don't give making friends a chance, you won't be able to make friends with anyone during your volunteering. So technically you just don't want friends. Which is fine - but I assume isn't what you want.