I do feel incredibly uncomfortable with it- almost as though I'm giving emotionally and practically to a girl other men have blatantly used.
I'm of the opinion that you get together with a person on the basis of who they are. For example, I would never ask a girl to lose weight if she was of that physique when I started the realtionship. Yet unklike physical and to a great extent personality traits, it is very hard to have knowledge about the sexual past of a girl. I feel lucky in a way to have unocvered the truth so soon. Unlike the other things we choose a partner on, this is surely the most potentially destructive to a relationship on account of the delay involved in finding out. Nonetheless, it is an equally valid reason to end a relationship, as although it is a blind factor for a while, it's still an important tenet of *who they are when you meet them*.
Also, even if one does find out irritating habits after the realtionship begins, these can often be worked through. My timekeeping for dates and her driving are both things that emerged and we compromised on. But on sexual past, there can be no compromise. Events are written, set in time, and either acceptable or not.
I know that I could never marry a girl with pride, look at her every day and raise a family with her in the knowledge I now have. It therefore seems pointless carrying on a realtionship that I know will hit a ceiling at one point or another.
That's my reasoning and I know many of my friends feel the same way. The disagreement lies in what is the kindest way to let her down. Can this be done without hurting her feelings?