Met online on POF, dating for 5-months - his profile shows as online today

Thanks for your advice. Hm in terms of defining the relationship, I just think if you are seeing someone exclusively and you refer to each other as being together and things are progressing, do you need to rush to put a label on the relationship? I just feel that progresses and comes with time

As I said, although I have the account I haven't logged in for months
Did you ever suggest both deleting your accounts/ app?

I think I might struggle to not say anything. So I will just explain what happened when we see each other next (although this is likely to be for his birthday thing) so unsure what to do?

That is really shocking of your friend.

I really don't feel comfortable doing something like this. Mainly as it just shows a complete lack of trust in someone who I otherwise have no reason not to trust or be suspicious about.

Surely it would just be better and more mature to explain what happened? That I was sorting something out for his birthday, checked something on his profile and then saw that he had been online.
- If its just something to do with the app rather than actively messaging other girls, then it will be obvious as he wouldn't be expecting that
- If he is, then he wouldn't be keen to take down his profile or delete the app if I suggest this. And if he does want to shop around then he can, and I won't really want to be with him

why does he still have the app at all if he is 5 months into a relationship? i met someone on one of these things and de-activated my account straight away (as did she). i see no honourable reason to keep a dating app if you are no longer available to date

well i have a pof account and a bf but i dont talk to anyone on there and i saw that my bf was on another dating site so i made a fake account and msgd him on there but he never replied and it says that he hasnt logged in for over a month so i dont know if he ever goes on it or met up with anyone off of there but ive never confronted him about it i just asked if he would go on a dating site and he said no so i just try not to worry about it now but i do wonder why he made it and i wish that i could delete it

Well I don't know now. The more of these messages/ replies I read, the more worried and panicked I am getting

I still have a profile but I never log on. I don't have it on my phone. I would have to log in through the website rather than an app

When we talked about being exclusive and not seeing or sleeping with other people, I assumed that also meant not actively looking online or responding to messages etc. We didn't specifically discuss taking down online profiles. I also don't much experience with online dating or at least anything which has gone beyond a few dates

I'm getting quite upset now and not sure what to do
I'd rather not message him about this but bring it up in person