ED... please help
Hi, I'm a 20 year old make suffering with bad ED for about the past 6 months.
I was with a girl before for about 2 years, and during this relationship (and in previous ones) I would be able to have sex multiple times in a day and I lay in bed all night every night with a rock hard erection, my sex drive was insane.
Basically, she went away for a year and for 9 months of that year I didn't see her, I went out to visit her and found out she was cheating, however, I slept with someone else where she was with no problems.
I have maintained a few positive sexual relationships since I broke up with her last year but some where nerves have taken over and I can literally not get hard to save my life. Majorly, however, my sex drive has effectively disappeared.
I have been with my current girlfriend since January, and I feel in my brain like I just want to have sex with her all the time, however, my dick just won't get hard most of the time. I'd say out of the times we have had sex, 80% involved my dick getting soft and having to work on it again but the remaining 20% is fine?
I went to the doctor and they said it was in my head and prescribed me with viagra, saying that a couple of times on viagra would give me sexual confidence again, which I tried, and my dick worked perfectly, however, I have problems again when I'm not taking anything.
I used to measure in at 7'3 when fully erect but now my penis is 6'4 erect and my testicles are noticeably smaller... however, all blood tests at the doctors are fine, and they tell me the loss in size is in my head, despite me using an actual ruler...
I worry because I'm ashamed of how my penis is now, compared to the trusty sidekick it used to be. I don't want it to drive my girlfriend and I apart, despite the fact she is so understanding on the matter and loves me for me. I want my old dick back... someone help!!!
I should mention I am a really active guy too!! Play football twice a week and in a the gym a few days a week!! My resting heart rate is 44 and my blood pressure is perfect!
I was with a girl before for about 2 years, and during this relationship (and in previous ones) I would be able to have sex multiple times in a day and I lay in bed all night every night with a rock hard erection, my sex drive was insane.
Basically, she went away for a year and for 9 months of that year I didn't see her, I went out to visit her and found out she was cheating, however, I slept with someone else where she was with no problems.
I have maintained a few positive sexual relationships since I broke up with her last year but some where nerves have taken over and I can literally not get hard to save my life. Majorly, however, my sex drive has effectively disappeared.
I have been with my current girlfriend since January, and I feel in my brain like I just want to have sex with her all the time, however, my dick just won't get hard most of the time. I'd say out of the times we have had sex, 80% involved my dick getting soft and having to work on it again but the remaining 20% is fine?
I went to the doctor and they said it was in my head and prescribed me with viagra, saying that a couple of times on viagra would give me sexual confidence again, which I tried, and my dick worked perfectly, however, I have problems again when I'm not taking anything.
I used to measure in at 7'3 when fully erect but now my penis is 6'4 erect and my testicles are noticeably smaller... however, all blood tests at the doctors are fine, and they tell me the loss in size is in my head, despite me using an actual ruler...
I worry because I'm ashamed of how my penis is now, compared to the trusty sidekick it used to be. I don't want it to drive my girlfriend and I apart, despite the fact she is so understanding on the matter and loves me for me. I want my old dick back... someone help!!!
I should mention I am a really active guy too!! Play football twice a week and in a the gym a few days a week!! My resting heart rate is 44 and my blood pressure is perfect!
Original post by Anonymous
Hi, I'm a 20 year old make suffering with bad ED for about the past 6 months.
I was with a girl before for about 2 years, and during this relationship (and in previous ones) I would be able to have sex multiple times in a day and I lay in bed all night every night with a rock hard erection, my sex drive was insane.
Basically, she went away for a year and for 9 months of that year I didn't see her, I went out to visit her and found out she was cheating, however, I slept with someone else where she was with no problems.
I have maintained a few positive sexual relationships since I broke up with her last year but some where nerves have taken over and I can literally not get hard to save my life. Majorly, however, my sex drive has effectively disappeared.
I have been with my current girlfriend since January, and I feel in my brain like I just want to have sex with her all the time, however, my dick just won't get hard most of the time. I'd say out of the times we have had sex, 80% involved my dick getting soft and having to work on it again but the remaining 20% is fine?
I went to the doctor and they said it was in my head and prescribed me with viagra, saying that a couple of times on viagra would give me sexual confidence again, which I tried, and my dick worked perfectly, however, I have problems again when I'm not taking anything.
I used to measure in at 7'3 when fully erect but now my penis is 6'4 erect and my testicles are noticeably smaller... however, all blood tests at the doctors are fine, and they tell me the loss in size is in my head, despite me using an actual ruler...
I worry because I'm ashamed of how my penis is now, compared to the trusty sidekick it used to be. I don't want it to drive my girlfriend and I apart, despite the fact she is so understanding on the matter and loves me for me. I want my old dick back... someone help!!!
I should mention I am a really active guy too!! Play football twice a week and in a the gym a few days a week!! My resting heart rate is 44 and my blood pressure is perfect!
I was with a girl before for about 2 years, and during this relationship (and in previous ones) I would be able to have sex multiple times in a day and I lay in bed all night every night with a rock hard erection, my sex drive was insane.
Basically, she went away for a year and for 9 months of that year I didn't see her, I went out to visit her and found out she was cheating, however, I slept with someone else where she was with no problems.
I have maintained a few positive sexual relationships since I broke up with her last year but some where nerves have taken over and I can literally not get hard to save my life. Majorly, however, my sex drive has effectively disappeared.
I have been with my current girlfriend since January, and I feel in my brain like I just want to have sex with her all the time, however, my dick just won't get hard most of the time. I'd say out of the times we have had sex, 80% involved my dick getting soft and having to work on it again but the remaining 20% is fine?
I went to the doctor and they said it was in my head and prescribed me with viagra, saying that a couple of times on viagra would give me sexual confidence again, which I tried, and my dick worked perfectly, however, I have problems again when I'm not taking anything.
I used to measure in at 7'3 when fully erect but now my penis is 6'4 erect and my testicles are noticeably smaller... however, all blood tests at the doctors are fine, and they tell me the loss in size is in my head, despite me using an actual ruler...
I worry because I'm ashamed of how my penis is now, compared to the trusty sidekick it used to be. I don't want it to drive my girlfriend and I apart, despite the fact she is so understanding on the matter and loves me for me. I want my old dick back... someone help!!!
I should mention I am a really active guy too!! Play football twice a week and in a the gym a few days a week!! My resting heart rate is 44 and my blood pressure is perfect!
Original post by Anonymous
Hi, I'm a 20 year old make suffering with bad ED for about the past 6 months.
I was with a girl before for about 2 years, and during this relationship (and in previous ones) I would be able to have sex multiple times in a day and I lay in bed all night every night with a rock hard erection, my sex drive was insane.
Basically, she went away for a year and for 9 months of that year I didn't see her, I went out to visit her and found out she was cheating, however, I slept with someone else where she was with no problems.
I have maintained a few positive sexual relationships since I broke up with her last year but some where nerves have taken over and I can literally not get hard to save my life. Majorly, however, my sex drive has effectively disappeared.
I have been with my current girlfriend since January, and I feel in my brain like I just want to have sex with her all the time, however, my dick just won't get hard most of the time. I'd say out of the times we have had sex, 80% involved my dick getting soft and having to work on it again but the remaining 20% is fine?
I went to the doctor and they said it was in my head and prescribed me with viagra, saying that a couple of times on viagra would give me sexual confidence again, which I tried, and my dick worked perfectly, however, I have problems again when I'm not taking anything.
I used to measure in at 7'3 when fully erect but now my penis is 6'4 erect and my testicles are noticeably smaller... however, all blood tests at the doctors are fine, and they tell me the loss in size is in my head, despite me using an actual ruler...
I worry because I'm ashamed of how my penis is now, compared to the trusty sidekick it used to be. I don't want it to drive my girlfriend and I apart, despite the fact she is so understanding on the matter and loves me for me. I want my old dick back... someone help!!!
I should mention I am a really active guy too!! Play football twice a week and in a the gym a few days a week!! My resting heart rate is 44 and my blood pressure is perfect!
I was with a girl before for about 2 years, and during this relationship (and in previous ones) I would be able to have sex multiple times in a day and I lay in bed all night every night with a rock hard erection, my sex drive was insane.
Basically, she went away for a year and for 9 months of that year I didn't see her, I went out to visit her and found out she was cheating, however, I slept with someone else where she was with no problems.
I have maintained a few positive sexual relationships since I broke up with her last year but some where nerves have taken over and I can literally not get hard to save my life. Majorly, however, my sex drive has effectively disappeared.
I have been with my current girlfriend since January, and I feel in my brain like I just want to have sex with her all the time, however, my dick just won't get hard most of the time. I'd say out of the times we have had sex, 80% involved my dick getting soft and having to work on it again but the remaining 20% is fine?
I went to the doctor and they said it was in my head and prescribed me with viagra, saying that a couple of times on viagra would give me sexual confidence again, which I tried, and my dick worked perfectly, however, I have problems again when I'm not taking anything.
I used to measure in at 7'3 when fully erect but now my penis is 6'4 erect and my testicles are noticeably smaller... however, all blood tests at the doctors are fine, and they tell me the loss in size is in my head, despite me using an actual ruler...
I worry because I'm ashamed of how my penis is now, compared to the trusty sidekick it used to be. I don't want it to drive my girlfriend and I apart, despite the fact she is so understanding on the matter and loves me for me. I want my old dick back... someone help!!!
I should mention I am a really active guy too!! Play football twice a week and in a the gym a few days a week!! My resting heart rate is 44 and my blood pressure is perfect!
Hoping this is a troll but assuming it's not:
Seems like you have an anxiety problem which has now associated itself with erectile dysfunction.
You have become quite attached to your current girlfriend and want the relationship to become closer and long term. That may be where the problem stems - that somewhere in your sub-conscious, you are terrified the new gf will hurt you the same way your ex did by cheating.
However, instead of focusing on developing the shared interests, values, security and stability a relationship brings which allows you both to build confidence, love and bonding with each other, you seem to have concentrated on male physical attributes and sexual gratification as the major part if your identity.
During your grieving period, you also probably seriously thought that you were to blame and not good enough - which is displayed by your obvious pride in masculinity and not just penis size although clearly, that is a major deal with your personality and a tad unhealthy as you have now witnessed.
You may well need some form of counselling and cognitive behavioural therapy to help gain back confidence and disassociate enjoyment of sex with physical prowess and performance.
NB Porn is not real life. The people who perform in front of the camera as 'stars' are as damaged and dysfunctional as people can be and so often end up the subject of a coroners suicide verdict, drug abuse or HIV.
(edited 6 years ago)
Dear all,
Me again; this is 100% genuine.
I think it may be psychological; however, I've heard such therapy is expensive.
I do think the way I was treated by my ex was something to do with the way I can't seem to muster up the self-confidence to have sex properly.
I just find it hard because I'm a 20 yo male and realistically I should be in the prime of the sexual life, however, i seem to have lost everything!!!
The measurements were in inches for those who didn't quite understand
I've tried with my doctor at least 4 times but everytime it seems viagra is the only option they offer me, and they almost hurry me out the door. I accept my problem is minute compared to the genuine health issues patients other to myself have, but if theraputal services were available, would they not have been offered?
Thanks,
J
Me again; this is 100% genuine.
I think it may be psychological; however, I've heard such therapy is expensive.
I do think the way I was treated by my ex was something to do with the way I can't seem to muster up the self-confidence to have sex properly.
I just find it hard because I'm a 20 yo male and realistically I should be in the prime of the sexual life, however, i seem to have lost everything!!!
The measurements were in inches for those who didn't quite understand
I've tried with my doctor at least 4 times but everytime it seems viagra is the only option they offer me, and they almost hurry me out the door. I accept my problem is minute compared to the genuine health issues patients other to myself have, but if theraputal services were available, would they not have been offered?
Thanks,
J
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