I'm a student nurse and I have fallen for a consultant surgeon, HELP ME!!

I'm a student nurse and I have fallen quite badly for the consultant surgeon, who I may add is a silver fox. I have never spoken to him and neither will I ever be able to since he is really one of top surgeons in the entire hospital.

I am abit ashamed that I like someone almost twice my own age and that he may be married with kids. I don't want anything from my feelings for him but I want to sort of end it here. I'm going crazy thinking about him as soon as I wake up or before I sleep or when I'm doing a task. He's literally on my mind 24/7 but he doesn't even know me.

I fell for him when I saw him looked at my name badge... I had butterflies as I got to see just how gorgeous he was. He's really one of the most handsome doctors I've come across.

Long story short, he doesn't even know me, I see him in the hospital and it's super awkward when we walk past eachother (atleast for me anyway because my heart is going crazy.)
ONCE We had a small eye contact and I kept smiling and it seemed as though he smile so just a little bit though I can't be certain because I couldn't look him in the Face for more than a few seconds, My heart started going crazy and I felt an adrenaline rush as well as my morning became beautiful.
Sigh.

What do I do? I want to stop liking him because I'm the end I know I won't have anything. He's too way out of my league.


Someone please help me. I am losing it. I've never felt this strongly about an older man.

If he's an orthopod, just keep dropping words like bone, nailing, screw etc into casual conversation. It doesn't matter how tenuous the link is either. He'll get the message eventually.

Was this on Scrubs?

Send that to the writers on Holby City.
/sarcasm

Yes I know my life is so screwed that it now sounds like ********/drama.

I posted here to get some help/views not comments like yours.

Sigh. :/

I'm sorry if you cannot see the humour in it.

Realistically, can you even fall for somebody that you haven't spoken to?

You've got a crush, it happens and it will pass.

Sorry i wanted some actual advice etc.

Yeah, you're right. It's a crush but one that is literally so big that it's taken over everything I do. It's not healthy.

Does he wear a wedding ring? Have you ever spoken to him before? Try to speak to him if you can, even casually.

Also, leagues aren't a thing so stop thinking about that.

If you're smart enough to be a student nurse then I think you're smart enough to get past this.

And you're right it's not healthy... because it's inappropriate while you're trying to get your grades - but it's totally normal to dig a silver fox.

What's more attractive than somebody who's already got their life together when you're trying to get yours going- PLUS they're hot. Honestly- it happens to us all.

You need to switch up your focus, if you're feeling relationship deprived maybe arrange some nights out with the girls and go meet some new people.

What you said does make sense to me and I can't deny what you said is wrong because it's not. It's so hard to just stop thinking. I have been trying for weeks and I see no results. My mind somehow always diverts everything to him.

The thing is I DO know some stuff him. Not personally but from various sources an drew even things online. The things that I know make me more attracted. I wish I had not fed this infatuation in its initial days.

But thank you so much for your comment.

I agree with @Friffinghell. It's just a crush you have because you are sexually attracted to the way he looks. Don't worry, we've all been there ! But just remember, apart from knowing he is a Consultant [ which probably sounds very glamorous to you], you actually know nothing about this man. You can't possibly develop strong feelings for someone you don't know. What are his tastes in music and films? What are his political views? What type of sense of humour does he have? What are his values and morals? You only develop really strong feelings for someone when you get to know them in real life; private life away from work. Seeing as the two of you have never even held a conversation you cannot possibly know anything of importance about this man. EDIT . If he's very good looking, he's probably used to younger female members of staff drooling over him. You're probably not the first in his career he has encountered who feels this way about him, and he probably knows this.

It's really easy to fall in love with the idea of a person but you need to be able to separate the idea from reality.

It is getting tougher because in this day and age where everyone has a cultivated social media persona- it is easier to think that you know and understand somebody's likes and interests from what they have curated online. IRL people are a lot more complex - They still leave towels on the floor and they still have to deal with the same nonsense that the rest of us do!

I can highly recommend Game of Thrones. Jason Momoa is a wonderful way to take your mind off things!

Hey I know some stuff about him even which made me even more atrracted. I am not saying this is love but i know this is first time I've time that I have been so crazy for a man twice my own age.

It's so embarrassing