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I'm getting treated like I'm not human, and It really upsets me.

So...I've been bullied all year long by other students, but lately...my teachers, are manipulating me and patronizing me, when I ask for help that I'm getting ''bullied'', so now they think I'm making it up... >.< called me nuts....so....now a lot of students around me think I have something wrong with me, because I'm being talked to in a high pitched voice, people would say to younger kids. ''HIIIIIIIIII KIIIIIIDSSS, LETS SAY *High pitched, excited monotone* OUR ALPHABETS!!!'' if that's the best example I put it, and if I told a counselor anything, she would quickly tell me everyone is being nice when clearly they see me come in every day, get ganged up on by students... >.< I'm always being treated like I'm a slow kid.
Reply 1
I'm in my sophomore year, I am getting made fun of for being the quiet kid that doesn't talk much, so people see me as the easy-going type. I even notice how these kids, who think of me as being slow, who also calls me worthless, and ugly everyday I walk into the classroom, behind my back, I would hear my name or pronouns. (They, she, girl, them). I'm the only girl in that class that isn't high social status, I'm pretty much considered a loner, the lowest social class on the spectrum. I would be drawing or writing a poem in class after finishing a class assignment, kids would purposely hit my back no matter where I sit at, bump my desk, scorn and gawk at me, slam their shoes harshly onto the floor, as if I were something, "mentally challenged." For not speaking. Sometimes I would say like, "What's your problem?" If they act up towards me, which no one likes me at all in my socially aware school, cause I stick to myself.

When I ask for help on bullying, teachers think I'm making it all up, especially when I tell them about getting patronized, etc. Teachers then perform manipulation, say they believe me, then say the next thing. "It's hard to believe if these kids keep coming up to me, they are telling me a different story, you always come up to me about this all the time! You're just hearing things.." Like it really bothers me a lot, because I notice how everyone is covering up the truth, no one wants me to know anything, but besides the adults in the building.

It's an everyday thing...it's annoying. >__< I feel so down on myself, like yeah, despite, being introverted, sometimes would feel nice for once if people didn't avoid me like I carry some kind of bacteria, say I smell funny, and there's so many rude opinions and comments of me.

"You look twelve, everyday you come in, your such a plain jane!" Like I can understand, everyone is having heck of a day, or whatever is going on with their lives...I know they intentionally don't mean to put anger on other students, but it's making me feel depressed.. so many rumors about me, teachers and staff members calling me a lunatic...I guess it's what you get when you ask for help about getting bullied, called slow, scrap, ******, ugly, freak, ghost girl...etc.. everyday at lunch, I use to eat alone in the cafeteria, but feel like it's awkward enough if I'm getting stared down at, so.....I hide in the bathroom stalls to eat lunch, get on my phone, watch funny videos or draw.. to distract my head.

And also, today, there's this teacher in one of my periods, who changed her tone of voice you would use to speak to a four month old infant, and said. "Did you lose weight?!" In front of the whole class, I gave her a funny look, and nodded, which is obvious, as I'm on a healthier diet. She went, "aww you did lose weight! Ohhh didn't yoooouuuu? Yeah, you lost weight..*sarcastic voice change*" -sighs- sorry I went onto, too much details, just explaining a little easier for a school advice, since I can't do anything about the bullying part, other than ignore, fake it til I make it, pretend I'm dumb as I'm not hearing anything--but I feel stupid doing that, makes me feel like I'm really "dumb" because so many kids bad enough, thinks something's wrong with me...

No body in the school wants anything to do with me, Everyone is too stuck up and snobby, so is the teachers and the staff members, they don't care about anyone, but about themselves, and who they are seen hanging out with, despite, I'm the most known loner in my school, everyone knows my name, where I stand into which is me, myself, and I, alone.

I like to be alone, because I feel comfortable that way, it's just..that...I want to blend in. I can camouflage well, but it's hard if people assume they know you, as the loner girl, or rumor girl, that has a lot of rumors onto her. Even my teacher's, they think I'm mentally challenged and coocoo, they would kind of say embarrassing things out loud, about me when they push the button to ask questions. Like, "I'll monitor you..", "You need to do your work, only two minutes left of class" I would be done with my assignment by then, but they would assume I'm not working or call out my name to solve a problem knowing I suck balls at math..so being in an extra help class for that also plays a role on me of why I'm getting bullied. Even guys pick on me because I'm a below average plain Jane, who barely talks, is in extra help, patronized like I were to be mentally-challenged-- even the preppy girls who knows me..(I'm notorious for being an unpopular loner throughout grade school. Been bullied all my life, teachers think I'm making it up.) Thinks something's wrong with me, I would hear people in the class, bits and pieces. "Something's wrong with her, something's bad..."

And don't like the idea of "You should get a counselor" thrown up to my face, those professionals brain-wash and manipulate..to get me to say the wrong words..don't even help, especially, that..I found out my personality isn't like anyone else's... so, I get made fun of for being myself, etc..

So much to say...words are a bit jumbly.. >.< I'm like really uncomfortable with the school I go to, I'm so upset, and sad...I'm a held-back sophomore student, I'm getting bullied, no one takes it seriously, I'm embarrassed badly, I hate seeing how everyone thinks of me as a walking "something's wrong with me" on my face. There's only one girl who will talk to me when she feels like it, but I don't trust anyone..as I know if I trusted, I will have more things said about me around the school.

So.. that's what's going on and have no clue how to handle it, done told the school, tried to stick up for myself, came off as socially awkward, tried to befriend, or get along, too many bad vibes and discomfort... I just hope I'm not the only human being going through this, I'm depressed over it, and my parents are trying to stop it, but it's difficult to prevent "teacher and student bullying". I'm just a Highly Sensitive Person...
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Original post by Savageo3o
I just hope I'm not the only human being going through this

Don't worry you're not the only one. Plenty of people go through situations like this during school years.
If you are not interested in finding a professional to help you, there's a few tips I can offer:

1. befriend someone. I know you said you've tried it before, but its pretty hard to befriend people who are well-off in their social lives when people like you and me are a sprawling social mess. But understand that you're not the only one going through this, even in your school or class, and there should be someone else who's having trouble finding friends too. Try to talk to them, help each other. It's really hard to go through tough things alone, even if you're someone who prefers being alone, you should find someone to share your troubles with, rant, have fun, spend time with. This will help you in a number of ways. You will eventually change, don't worry, getting comfortable around others is not an easy task but it happens eventually.
Might I suggest befriending an upperclassman? They're usually friendlier and mature enough not to listen to rumours.

2. Pay attention to your image. That is how you project yourself. Keep yourself clean etc, do your work on time. People don't like to associate with people who can't even do that properly. Be on time to school. Don't miss homework. Improve your grades. Overall, try to focus on the things that will benefit you. Eventually you'll get the respect of others for being self-sufficient. It is even more important to have self-respect. There's nothing innately wrong about you. Not being able to socialise is something you should fix, sure, but that doesn't make you any less human than anyone else. If anyone starts talking sh*t to you, stand your ground. Always. Don't disrespect teachers, but make them understand when they're crossing lines. Respect yourself, and you'll gain the respect of everyone else.

3. Find something you're good at/passionate about, and focus on that. If you're lucky this would be an EC at your school. For one, this will take your mind off things, plus this will build your image as well as your self-confidence. It should help you find more friends, you'll find it more comfortable to talk to people with whom you share common interests. Sometimes it's easy to lose your identity in a big place like school, and these things will help you get it back.

Good luck, and please understand that you're in a place that's generally filled with snakes, people can be really fake so don't stress too much trying to blend in with others and most of the friendships you see in your school today probably won't have a trace a few years down the line. If you're comfortable being alone, power to you; but find at least one person to share happiness and sorrow with. Have self respect, and focus on what you like. Should work. :wink:
Original post by Savageo3o
I'm in my sophomore year, I am getting made fun of for being the quiet kid that doesn't talk much, so people see me as the easy-going type. I even notice how these kids, who think of me as being slow, who also calls me worthless, and ugly everyday I walk into the classroom, behind my back, I would hear my name or pronouns. (They, she, girl, them). I'm the only girl in that class that isn't high social status, I'm pretty much considered a loner, the lowest social class on the spectrum. I would be drawing or writing a poem in class after finishing a class assignment, kids would purposely hit my back no matter where I sit at, bump my desk, scorn and gawk at me, slam their shoes harshly onto the floor, as if I were something, "mentally challenged." For not speaking. Sometimes I would say like, "What's your problem?" If they act up towards me, which no one likes me at all in my socially aware school, cause I stick to myself.

When I ask for help on bullying, teachers think I'm making it all up, especially when I tell them about getting patronized, etc. Teachers then perform manipulation, say they believe me, then say the next thing. "It's hard to believe if these kids keep coming up to me, they are telling me a different story, you always come up to me about this all the time! You're just hearing things.." Like it really bothers me a lot, because I notice how everyone is covering up the truth, no one wants me to know anything, but besides the adults in the building.

It's an everyday thing...it's annoying. >__< I feel so down on myself, like yeah, despite, being introverted, sometimes would feel nice for once if people didn't avoid me like I carry some kind of bacteria, say I smell funny, and there's so many rude opinions and comments of me.

"You look twelve, everyday you come in, your such a plain jane!" Like I can understand, everyone is having heck of a day, or whatever is going on with their lives...I know they intentionally don't mean to put anger on other students, but it's making me feel depressed.. so many rumors about me, teachers and staff members calling me a lunatic...I guess it's what you get when you ask for help about getting bullied, called slow, scrap, retard, ugly, freak, ghost girl...etc.. everyday at lunch, I use to eat alone in the cafeteria, but feel like it's awkward enough if I'm getting stared down at, so.....I hide in the bathroom stalls to eat lunch, get on my phone, watch funny videos or draw.. to distract my head.

And also, today, there's this teacher in one of my periods, who changed her tone of voice you would use to speak to a four month old infant, and said. "Did you lose weight?!" In front of the whole class, I gave her a funny look, and nodded, which is obvious, as I'm on a healthier diet. She went, "aww you did lose weight! Ohhh didn't yoooouuuu? Yeah, you lost weight..*sarcastic voice change*" -sighs- sorry I went onto, too much details, just explaining a little easier for a school advice, since I can't do anything about the bullying part, other than ignore, fake it til I make it, pretend I'm dumb as I'm not hearing anything--but I feel stupid doing that, makes me feel like I'm really "dumb" because so many kids bad enough, thinks something's wrong with me...

No body in the school wants anything to do with me, Everyone is too stuck up and snobby, so is the teachers and the staff members, they don't care about anyone, but about themselves, and who they are seen hanging out with, despite, I'm the most known loner in my school, everyone knows my name, where I stand into which is me, myself, and I, alone.

I like to be alone, because I feel comfortable that way, it's just..that...I want to blend in. I can camouflage well, but it's hard if people assume they know you, as the loner girl, or rumor girl, that has a lot of rumors onto her. Even my teacher's, they think I'm mentally challenged and coocoo, they would kind of say embarrassing things out loud, about me when they push the button to ask questions. Like, "I'll monitor you..", "You need to do your work, only two minutes left of class" I would be done with my assignment by then, but they would assume I'm not working or call out my name to solve a problem knowing I suck balls at math..so being in an extra help class for that also plays a role on me of why I'm getting bullied. Even guys pick on me because I'm a below average plain Jane, who barely talks, is in extra help, patronized like I were to be mentally-challenged-- even the preppy girls who knows me..(I'm notorious for being an unpopular loner throughout grade school. Been bullied all my life, teachers think I'm making it up.) Thinks something's wrong with me, I would hear people in the class, bits and pieces. "Something's wrong with her, something's bad..."

And don't like the idea of "You should get a counselor" thrown up to my face, those professionals brain-wash and manipulate..to get me to say the wrong words..don't even help, especially, that..I found out my personality isn't like anyone else's... so, I get made fun of for being myself, etc..

So much to say...words are a bit jumbly.. >.< I'm like really uncomfortable with the school I go to, I'm so upset, and sad...I'm a held-back sophomore student, I'm getting bullied, no one takes it seriously, I'm embarrassed badly, I hate seeing how everyone thinks of me as a walking "something's wrong with me" on my face. There's only one girl who will talk to me when she feels like it, but I don't trust anyone..as I know if I trusted, I will have more things said about me around the school.

So.. that's what's going on and have no clue how to handle it, done told the school, tried to stick up for myself, came off as socially awkward, tried to befriend, or get along, too many bad vibes and discomfort... I just hope I'm not the only human being going through this, I'm depressed over it, and my parents are trying to stop it, but it's difficult to prevent "teacher and student bullying". I'm just a Highly Sensitive Person...


I agree with the advice above. I also think that when you finished your work you should tell you teacher and then start drawing etc. I understand what you are going through when I learn English and even when 4 years after they would talk to me like I was stupid and couldn't understand anything. I have to admit some people are like that. They think

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