Hey! My boyfriend of 6 months (both 20) has been texting a girl who he had a past talking stage with and sending streaks/having conversations. I'm really not too fond of things that she has said in these messages including that he's a 10/10 and I'm a 3/10, telling him he could do so much better, sending him pictures of her in a bra as 'streaks' and calling me controlling and manipulative. When I first saw these messages as we often when watching a film will go on our phones, I spoke to him about who she was as he'd never mentioned a friend with her name before and he initially didn't really want to go into it but eventually did say that they'd had a talking stage and now just sent streaks.
However, it clearly isn't just streaks as they have regular conversations. I am fine with him having female friends but I draw the line at being ****ged off by another girl who's never met me and her sending him half naked streaks. I'm not happy with the context of their conversations and despite not knowing the girl personally it's quite clear that she has no respect for those in relationships, one of the conversations was about sleeping with a guy with a GF and asking my partner about how she could get away with doing it again.
He seems to think this is an overreaction, I've been really upset lately about it as he initially blocked her a few months ago when I first questioned who she was but has since unblocked and they are communicating again. She's clearly been in daily contact with him for years and I feel like she's always going to be in the background. Do I insist he blocks her or chooses her over me or do I just need to ignore it? Aside from this girl, we get on really well, my family like him, he's got a lovely family who are kind/care about our relationship and I find him very attractive.
Before anyone jumps on it too... I have male friends myself but have never had an issue with keeping to boundaries and I would never stand for my partner being ****ged off by another guy nor would I continue contact with someone I'd have a talking stage with. Any advice would be amazing! I really want this to get sorted but discussions about it just seem to lead to me becoming more upset and being made to feel like I'm overreacting. I've also been cheated on in my first long term relationship so that's also an anxiety inducing factor!