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Erection difficulty

So my boyfriend and I have been going out for a long time ( we are 18) and we are both still virgins and we both seem to be ready for our first time having sex. He has no issues with getting erect during foreplay and can hold the erection but when we decided we should try sex he goes soft when I attempt to put the condom on.
He wouldn't be a big talker and hates to talk about things more than needs be. I'm not angry or frustrated I try and comfort him but I just worry about him and how he feels. Has anyone experienced this before? Is it just something that happens or is it nerves? I'm going to wait a while until we try the next time I don't want him to get more frustrated.

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Maybe you could try other methods other than a condom like the pill or implant

Reply 2

esralled

Yeah this happened to me too. It's not uncommon on your first time. Just take it slow and relax and when he gets a stalk on don't waste any time.

Masturbation makes it harder to get an erection for sex. If he watches porn, tell him to give it a rest for a week or so.

Reply 3

Amy06

It could well be the condom, my boyfriend always lost his erections putting it on as its uncomfortable and frustrating, I used to lose my lady boner too because it took a while and felt horrible 😂

Reply 4

JTfoxlove

Try building condoms into all sexual activity. Even for masturbating he should use one. Ideally, he'll get used to it and re-associate it with sex.

Talk about it too - it's about intimacy and confidence. Sex is a whole new skills set and condoms are a new experience too.

I'd agree that moment can be tricky though. :biggrin: