Little backstory: I currently study Mechanical Engineering, I am the only female on the course. Whether I talk to a lecturer or course 'mate', my gender is the topic of conversation. During my first few weeks in 2016, the minute I mentioned my boyfriend to a male on my course they would lose interest in the conversation. Even during group work, I have been ignored, I am constantly being 'mansplained' to and I am constantly battling to prove I have some intelligence. The lecturers do not make my life easier. I got marked down on a poster for using 'feminine colours' (light blue and purple). Some make jokes like, "I would swear but there is a lady in the room." Which causes everyone to look at me and me to go beetroot red. I got added into a group chat early on by a female civil engineer who has since left the Uni, I rarely looked at it but it was often at the top of my inbox because they were/are quite active.
Anyway, nothing has been too awful, those things have been frustrating but not deterring. However a few months ago, one lecturer asked a question to the class. No one answered but he caught my eye contact and pointed me out. I didn't answer correctly which is crippling for me. It is difficult to explain how embarrassed I was because it is just me proving what everyone thinks. So feeling humiliated I sank into my seat with my red face and pulled out my phone to try look busy. I looked through my emails, sent a text to my sister and then clicked onto Messenger. The group chat was at the top again and I clicked on it. There was a picture of me! So this is pretty common, that members of the course, take pictures of students who have fallen asleep, students who look bored or have funny shirts or whatever. So people were saying that my face was like a tomato, which made me more embarrassed but it was okay, I just felt like another student, I knew it would be over.
Then one student (all have nicknames so I don't know who is who) pointed out I was the only female in the class and that I 'wouldn't be able to put up a fight' if they 'worked as a team'. I was taken aback, and my heart started racing but I sat there and I waited for someone to say something. But all that happened was that they started to continue to describe all the force they would use against me. Some even calling dibs to my body parts or which order they would assault. I sat there and at some point, felt like I had lost the ability to breathe. I left the group, the lecture theatre and I ran home. I have since been completely unable to go to campus. I have nightmares, I freak myself out about most young men. I have been getting help from my tutor and counsellor and doctor and despite my severe anxiety I do feel hopeful.
HOWEVER, I have missed a lot of Uni, I have been offered the chance to re-take the year as a part time student (but I can't afford it- even with a job) or the chance to retake these modules in August (which is obviously hard because it is all self-studied). This all requires to go back to campus. Now I am a pretty logical person, so logically I obviously need to go. But logically I am putting myself in danger. And illogically when I try to force myself to go, I physically, cannot move. I can't get out of the door. I cry, I lose it, I start to think of all the scenarios there are that could happen. I am concerned I will agree to this and then not be able to go out the door. A new start seems an incredibly good option, my current Uni is 5 hours from my family, so I could choose to go a little closer. But would anyone accept me? Am I leaving my course in a bad state for the next girl? I don't want to be weak, but I don't know if I can convince myself to go back. What should I do? Who should I talk to?