Anyone else? I'm sure everyone has had a different experience growing up, but it seems that in my culture, being quiet is extremely looked down upon, it's go big or go home. Unfortunately, I happen to be a shy, quiet introvert and because of this, am constantly labelled by extended family as "slow" or "dumb." My own grandmother has said that I "won't survive in this world," thinking that I don't understand Cantonese. Apparently the volume of your voice dictates how successful you will be.
Family gatherings are horrendous; everybody is screaming and laughing at the tops of their lungs, while I'm just sitting there while somebody comes along every five minutes to ask me why I'm so quiet. After a while, I begin to be treated as though I have actual issues, people start petting my head, talking to me softly. If you don't talk very much in this culture, you clearly have some mental health issue. I have grannies saying that I'm very "still" but in Cantonese, the word has negative connotations. I end up sitting there awkwardly for the next few hours in humiliation.
There is this constant need for extroversion and sociability and although I am an introvert, I consider myself sociable toward friends. However, at this point I'm wondering if I should just cut my extended family from my life? Obviously, I don't plan on completely cancelling them but I don't see the point in actively trying to get along with them when the culture difference is just too wide? Every single outing with them is without fail, awkward.