Is love supposed to be transactional?

Love isn't supposed to be transactional, but it's also not supposed to be one-sided. Also, your boyfriend clearly doesn't care about skincare - maybe just accept that? He doesn't have to care about everything you care about.

i’ve accepted that, i’ve also apologised and asked to move on. He said

“ It’s not bringing it up, cos idm, I looked at what u sent, it’s the acting like I don’t care, I’m busy at work. You know this... , and it’s not I don’t want to discuss it either , it’s that I know nothing yet, a discussion will happen when I open it at my house and try it, and talk to you about it, but ofc you’re gunna think I don’t care when you bring it up so often when I’ve said this is when I’ll get some. Yeah Ok love you too”

He doesn’t understand my main issue is with his tendency to make things transactional.

Then tell him that's your main issue. It's also possible that he isn't trying to make things transactional and you're misunderstanding.

and i did and he said
It’s not transactional for me, I just don’t like to be constantly told how I need to act when I’m not even happy about things myself, despite voicing them . It frustrates me to hear u tell me I don’t care . I know you try , I not claim you don’t, but there are times you don’t, just as I.

How do i reply to this ?? and also i’ve apologised but i don’t think i’m getting an apology. Is that fair in this situation and i am the one wrong or would that be unfair too?

If he doesn't think he did anything wrong, he won't (and shouldn't) apologise. You should have a conversation with him without trying to read into everything.

so i’m just meant to move on? without some acknowledgement ???

so i’m just meant to move on? without some acknowledgement ???

Are you happy in this relationship?
It doesn't sound like the two of you are having much fun or many positive conversations.