Can one suddenly turn asexual?

If you resurface too fast, after diving, it turns you A sexual.

I love you too, Clive. Fancy a casserole?

I was talking to an asexual woman on another forum a while ago. She'd been with her husband for 17 years and they didn't have sex. She said he got his needs satisfied elsewhere and that she trusted him. They had an adopted daughter too.

It depends on the people whether a sexual/asexual relationship can work. I don't think I'd be able to be with a sexual guy, I'd always feel like I couldn't give him everything he needed.

This is an almost constant worry between my partner and I. However, he reassures me and I feel more secure that between my leniency to his actions and the kind of relationship we have, he is 110% happy.

This is actually pretty interesting.

I'm a very sexual person and I find that, if I have to go without for some time I get quite aggressive and fall out with my other half more. It's always been a big part of our relationship. I feel for him on a much deeper level also, but I find that the two go together extremely well and make for a greater connection. In all honesty, I wouldn't find the relationship to be emotionally fulfilling without it.

I think it's unfair for RightSaidJames to suggest that those of us who do consider sex in a relationship a massive deal to be odd. I've never suggested that Spotty Dog is weird, I just wondered how a relationship like theirs would work and I find it really interesting that they have managed to find a way around such a big issue and make it work.

If it works for them, great. I've never been one to say that one size fits all with sexuality. It's a bit stupid to judge anyone base upon theirs.

Thankyou, Ven.

As I've said before, I've no problem with curious minds, but it's aggressive minds (such as pretz) that really upset me. I don't get why people make it their business to have a problem with the way that I, and other asexuals, lead their lives, you know?

Everyone works differently, everyone has different drives and wants and needs. No one, no matter what their situation, has a right to say that what they have is right, or better than anyone else, whether they have a sexual relationship or not.

I do wonder though, he clearly must feel sexual desire for you specifically. Does this never get him down? Though, I'm sure it's not a huge deal since you've made it this far.

Yes, it does. It frustrates him, particularly if he's come home from a stressful night (when he can't arrange to see the other girls because of time etc) and wants to 'let out his stress' with me.

And yes, occasionally we do have sex. Because it makes him happy and all the rest. But more often then not I tell him politely to shove it, and he sulks for the night. (and then apologises in the morning. XD)

Yes, it does. It frustrates him, particularly if he's come home from a stressful night (when he can't arrange to see the other girls because of time etc) and wants to 'let out his stress' with me.

And yes, occasionally we do have sex. Because it makes him happy and all the rest. But more often then not I tell him politely to shove it, and he sulks for the night. (and then apologises in the morning. XD)

I think you're very lucky, your situation sounds almost ideal for what it is.

Did he have troubles making arrangements to "see" the other girls, or did it just come about over time?

It's quite complicated for you then, it must not be easy for you. Like, there must be times when you'd like to spend time with him and he's really in need of a release... that must cause conflict.

But, all credit to you... three years is good going for any relationship.

Well, we have a friend whose very.. 'no strings attached' sex, and has a history with my partner, so he approached her with the idea, and she introduced lady 2 after some time.

I'm almost jealous

Do asexuals lack some kind of hormone or something?

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No - Or certainly, I don't.

I was just wondering because I should imagine that biologically-speaking, people are programmed to have sexual desires, just as they are programmed to desire food or drink as a means of human survival. Hence, I'm bemused as to why a person can be 'innately' asexual, rather than making a concious decision to adopt that orientation, unless they have a slightly different biological make-up.

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I was just wondering because I should imagine that biologically-speaking, people are programmed to have sexual desires, just as they are programmed to desire food or drink as a means of human survival. Hence, I'm bemused as to why a person can be 'innately' asexual, rather than making a concious decision to adopt that orientation, unless they have a slightly different biological make-up.

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If you resurface too fast, after diving, it turns you A sexual.