How to not let past relationships affect potential / present ones?

It actually annoys me so much when people claim that they have 'been hurt in the past'. We have all been hurt in the past. Don't use that as an excuse to be a **** to someone else.

Girl, I can relate to you on some level. you've been through some nasty **** and i'm not surprised you're still hurting. my anxiety has caused me to avoid relationships for a while, and i've only just started to beat my commitment issues after 'playing the field' for over two years. my advice: give yourself some space and time to work on loving yourself. you need to find a way to block all the negativity away and try and erase those unnecessary feelings that the guys have caused you. maybe start with the little things, like putting a cute but comfy outfit on a lazy day where you just cba to do your hair and makeup. eventually it will grow and you won't worry about what they used to say about you because, not only will you be aware that it's not true, you'll gain the self confidence you deserve! you don't deserve to be name called like that and i'm so so sorry for you.

although, if you don't wanna do that, then you can start forming a friendship with a guy you like. once you start realising that you trust him, try making subtle moves.

i wish you the best girlie! (hope this helped at least a little bit)

Aww thank you so much for your kind words! Really means a lot to me...and no you’ve said absolutely nothing wrong not sure what the other user means ... but thank you so much! I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been hurt too

...is this about me? if anything, i was only trying to be helpful and to let the person know that they're not alone. i meant no harm.

No it wasn't about you. Didn't even read your post until you responded.

oh haha that's a relief