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Boyfriend wants by butt to be bigger

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Original post by the bear
tell him you do not like testicles the size of grapes

LOL 😂
Original post by chopingirl
What's the point of getting into toxic battles? It's better to just dump the guy and find someone better.


Right on girl!

Y do some girls dignify this kind of manipulation/negging with any consideration? We can all see he's an immature frat dude who isn't ready for a gf irl. Don't allow him to brush this aside as a "joke" - u know that jokes that involve negging other ppl's body parts r not rlly humorous, they are a window to his real feelings and r immature, demeaning and unnecessary. Can't u find a boy who at least doesn't have this level of immaturity?
leave him sis
Original post by CyclinZH1
No, nice straw man. What else you got? Or just don't reply, someone who equates hitting the gym with surgery can't possible come up with anything worthwhile.

I never said need to. But in a relationship you can do things. Why not this.


no, you said if you care about someone you should do things for them. i just applied your logic tf. why should she change any part of her body just to please him?
Just ditch him, he sounds insensitive towards the OP also.
Original post by CyclinZH1
So hit the gym.

If you care for someone do stuff for them. Plus, it's a good hobby to pick up, healthy, productive.

i get what ur saying but when u get into a relationship u shouldn't be expecting that person to change parts of themselves for u ygm

like watching a show they like that u don't or listening to their music is different to changing a physical part of urself yk like she's still her own person regardless of whether or not she's in a relationship & she seems to be happy with herself rn
I hate men who put pressure on women to change their body according to their standards. Period.
Original post by bethwantsdeath
no, you said if you care about someone you should do things for them. i just applied your logic tf. why should she change any part of her body just to please him?


Your logic would work if I had said "should do anything" for them.

Do you disagree that in a relationship you should do things for your partner?

If you do disagree, I feel sorry for your partner.
Thank you all for your replies, they've really helped! Made me realise that I wasn't being oversensitive. I had a small, calm convo about it with him but if he starts making jokes again I'm going to get mad and just tell him to shut up. Maybe mention in a couple parts of HIS body that I want him to change so he knows how it feels. :rolleyes: Again, thank you all!!
Original post by Bang Outta Order
Tell him you want his **** to get bigger 👍


I'm a tits man for sure. I notice the last couple years big arses have been the new thing but I don't let porn cue the type of women I'm into 👍 like the woman could look like a dog but have a big fake arse and she's considered hot. Someone running porn sites or social media must have this weird fetish and is ascribing it to society. Ugh.

might be an obvious question but does being a tits man mean you like them big?
Original post by CyclinZH1
Your logic would work if I had said "should do anything" for them.

Do you disagree that in a relationship you should do things for your partner?

If you do disagree, I feel sorry for your partner.


doing things for your partner means things like giving up bad habits, learning from your mistakes, showing affection. not changing parts of your body so they can get a boner. youre supposed to appreciate people’s bodies the way they are, they werent made for you. if you dont like it, get with someone who has your ideal body type to begin with, simple. imagine encouraging people to change their bodies for validation off of their partner. i feel more sorry for yours. you sound toxic.
Original post by bethwantsdeath
doing things for your partner means things like giving up bad habits, learning from your mistakes, showing affection. not changing parts of your body so they can get a boner. youre supposed to appreciate people’s bodies the way they are, they werent made for you. if you dont like it, get with someone who has your ideal body type to begin with, simple. imagine encouraging people to change their bodies for validation off of their partner. i feel more sorry for yours. you sound toxic.


Are you? Says who?

And I sound toxic? How about you get with someone for who they are, not their body?
Original post by CyclinZH1
Are you? Says who?

And I sound toxic? How about you get with someone for who they are, not their body?


and what do you think “youre supposed to appreciate peoples bodies the way they are” means? LOL thats literally what ive been saying
Original post by bethwantsdeath
and what do you think “youre supposed to appreciate peoples bodies the way they are” means? LOL thats literally what ive been saying


No you said get someone whose body you like to begin with. How about you fall in love with someone because of who they are, but would prefer a bigger ass. Something that if someone was interested in it, could easily be achieved. So why not do it? That's all I am saying.
Original post by CyclinZH1
No you said get someone whose body you like to begin with. How about you fall in love with someone because of who they are, but would prefer a bigger ass. Something that if someone was interested in it, could easily be achieved. So why not do it? That's all I am saying.


yeah, i said that if you put such importance on such physical features, find someone who has what you want. and this isnt build a b*tch, you will not find someone who ticks every box, especially if its physical features. you really think a girls gonna step in the gym and come out with a bum like nicki minaj? thats not how it works. it takes hard work and dedication.

my point is if the only reason a girl works out to get a bigger bum is for a guy, she doesnt need to do it. it doesnt benefit her in any way. doesnt matter what he prefers. i like abs, yet i would never make a guy go to the gym for me, doing all that hard work for what, just to impress me? id appreciate him the way he was.
Original post by bethwantsdeath
yeah, i said that if you put such importance on such physical features, find someone who has what you want. and this isnt build a b*tch, you will not find someone who ticks every box, especially if its physical features. you really think a girls gonna step in the gym and come out with a bum like nicki minaj? thats not how it works. it takes hard work and dedication.

my point is if the only reason a girl works out to get a bigger bum is for a guy, she doesnt need to do it. it doesnt benefit her in any way. doesnt matter what he prefers. i like abs, yet i would never make a guy go to the gym for me, doing all that hard work for what, just to impress me? id appreciate him the way he was.

Yes hence why I said it's a good hobby. That implies time spent (i.e. dedication). Hard work is self evident in the gym.

I never said she needs to do it. I suggest she just do it. Most people definitely have time for it so why not choose something that would make your partner happy and happens to be a good way to spend your time. You have gone way off target.
Was your boyfriend Stephen Tries?
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Original post by glassalice
How rude.

you need to dump him. this is not normal. Hes not the right one if he does not like you the way you are.

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