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College or Sixth Form with Social Anxiety — Help!!

I've got really bad anxiety and had to drop out of sixth form this year. In September I have to go back into education, but I'm absolutely petrified.

I don't know whether to do A-Levels at college or sixth form. I'll have to repeat Year 12 anyway so I'll already be a bit older than most of the other students. I'm really worried and scared, to be honest. I'm terrible at making friends and my anxiety is debilitating.

I just want an education and some friends.

Any advice on whether to choose college or sixth form would be massively appreciated.
Hi! College and sixth form both have different strengths, so it really depends on your preference. Sixth forms are a bit more like high school than colleges. Specifically, colleges don't have the same are restrictions, though you'll still probably be grouped with people around your age, and the timetable is quite different (colleges won't require you to be on-site between lessons, for instance, and may be more spread out).

In terms of making friends, you'll probably see people more often in sixth form (without specifically making plans), which can certainly help building friendships. In college you can't rely on seeing people in class to become friends, but you can exchange numbers/social media for study purposes, which helps build a foundation for hanging out as friends.

Personally, as someone with anxiety I found college more bearable than high school largely due to not having a be in class all day and the smaller class sizes, but that's specifically for what set me off. My friend also has anxiety and went to sixth form, and she seemed to find it ok, so I wouldn't definitively say one or the other is better for anxiety.

Also, don't worry about being a bit older, I knew plenty of people in my college that were re-doing year 12. You're in good company, and I doubt it'll affect your ability to make friends.
Original post by noxspell
I've got really bad anxiety and had to drop out of sixth form this year. In September I have to go back into education, but I'm absolutely petrified.

I don't know whether to do A-Levels at college or sixth form. I'll have to repeat Year 12 anyway so I'll already be a bit older than most of the other students. I'm really worried and scared, to be honest. I'm terrible at making friends and my anxiety is debilitating.

I just want an education and some friends.

Any advice on whether to choose college or sixth form would be massively appreciated.


I hope this helps with your social anxiety:

0) You can try nlp exercises, meditation, breathing techniques, visualisation. You can read books on this subject and there is a wealth of resources on the internet, youtube regarding this subject.


1) Relax, imagine you're just observing or there as a traveller. For example, if you are on holiday, you go there to experience and observe the attraction, you're not going to get anxious doing that are you?

2) Smile, smiling in contagious.

3) Be confident, respect yourself, accept yourself, work out, wear good clothes, feel good, focus on your passions, know you are a good person who treats people well, you have got as much right as everyone else.

Think positively, be proud of yourself, do things that make you happy, remember your happy times, what makes you confident? What makes you proud? Do you have a skill you are good at? Do things like cooking, driving, learning that increases your confidence daily. Relax.

Have good posture, body language, improve your appearance. Be happy with yourself.

4) Dress well, have good grooming, hairstyle, have good posture.

5) Just say hi or hey to people in your vicinity, who cares if they don't say anything back?

6) Ask how they are, how's everything, how's it going, what's the latest, what made them choose this course, their plans for the future, their plans for the rest of the day, weekend, how was their weekend, their day, what they will get up to, what they got up to, ask them about their hobbies, talk about what's happening. You could read up on current affairs.

Talk about the weather or did you see that sports game? Just mingle with them,

Compliment them, say "I like your jacket".

If you know they went on a holiday or somewhere, ask them about it etc.

7) Be passionate about life.

8) In group discussions, relax and talk to someone close or if someone says something you know, you can talk then. Stay relaxed.

9) Lighten up, have a laugh, laugh easily, be friendly, approachable, interested, relaxed.

10) You can write things down and come up with a rational reframed response, keep a journal of your thoughts, reach out to people slowly
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Original post by Jumpybananas
Hi! College and sixth form both have different strengths, so it really depends on your preference. Sixth forms are a bit more like high school than colleges. Specifically, colleges don't have the same are restrictions, though you'll still probably be grouped with people around your age, and the timetable is quite different (colleges won't require you to be on-site between lessons, for instance, and may be more spread out).

In terms of making friends, you'll probably see people more often in sixth form (without specifically making plans), which can certainly help building friendships. In college you can't rely on seeing people in class to become friends, but you can exchange numbers/social media for study purposes, which helps build a foundation for hanging out as friends.

Personally, as someone with anxiety I found college more bearable than high school largely due to not having a be in class all day and the smaller class sizes, but that's specifically for what set me off. My friend also has anxiety and went to sixth form, and she seemed to find it ok, so I wouldn't definitively say one or the other is better for anxiety.

Also, don't worry about being a bit older, I knew plenty of people in my college that were re-doing year 12. You're in good company, and I doubt it'll affect your ability to make friends.


Thank you so much!! I had a hard time in my secondary school so I was thinking a different environment might be more comfortable, but I'll definitely take what you say about getting to know people into account!!

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