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why is being asocial seen as such a terrible thing?

I'm not talking about anti-social like people who commit violence or can't follow rudimentary rules of society like don't shout like a hooligan at 3 am in the morning.

I'm just talking about people who prefer to do their own thing, who don't bother anyone but are maybe less outspoken and more quiet.

Why is it even seen as a bad thing? and don't tell me it's not btw I live on this planet too.

Reply 1

GabiAbi84

Mostly because those that are social can’t imagine someone being Asocial by choice so they assume that there is something wrong with them that no one wants to hang out with them or that they’re weird to not like what “everyone” else does.

Reply 2

black tea

Original post by GabiAbi84

^ This

Reply 3

Tanya Marie

Krisis, I think there may be many things going on. On the one hand people are threatened by mystery and people who don't seem to be like them. On the other hand they are aware that mystery is very attractive, so they could be jealous, and some want to know you but feel snubbed by you because they can't get anywhere close. They also may think you are judging them, which isn't necessarily so. Also, people describe this quality as aloof even though you may be the furthest thing from aloof. I have had this issue my whole life and I get the superior vibe back. I've had cliques of women gang up and spread rumours about me that have no truth in them whatsoever. People who think they are adults who I've never even had one conversation with. It's like they see it as a competition. Meanwhile I was minding my own, thinking about something else entirely. Also, I have always been super shy and I don't feel comfortable in groups. I'd rather get to know people one on one. And one more thing that I realized at one point is that I didn't even know how quiet I was. I'd just slip off somewhere and stop talking, but I didn't think anyone even noticed, because I didn't really notice. It just was natural to me. I don't know if that helps you but I think it's a good thing we are all different. I hope this doesn't bother you too much. It can be very tricky T

Reply 4

Chronoscope

Volunteer Section Leader

Because people over time seem to have cateogorised personality types into stereotypes and when they don’t relate to a stereotype its unfamiliar and can’t / find it difficult to relate to it, thus causing other people to have differing views bc unfortunately human beings are judgy.

Reply 5

username5173262

Honestly man, in educational settings anyway, the most asocial kids are the weird kids.

Reply 6

MrSoloDolo

most people are social and like to talk with others, if you’re shy then you’re probably not the best person to exchange ideas with. i know this because as a kid i was more shy and it made me less open to seeing social cues and conversations, a lot of shy people are just socially inept too and people sense this

Reply 7

username5326522

same I’m not loud at all and during school years, being quiet was seen as being grumpy and strange. it’s not nice. But honestly there are so many people like you so let people think what they want

Reply 8

CaptainDuckie

Study Forum Helper

Ummm, to be honest, most of what everyone said here is true. But I’d just like to add that you’re a pr’ck if you think this. To say there should be assumed difference between people, it really shouldn’t be seen as a terrible thing. Not everyone will be open to socialise with everyone they meet because of how f’cked this world is.

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