Do I keep in contact?
Right so in 2020 or so I started to like this girl, she was still figuring out her sexuality so she kinda pushed me away, but after a few months she realised she was bi and had feelings for me.
We started to date on and off for two years, it became toxic as I couldn't trust her with her friends and she was too clingy whilst I wasn't great at keeping my emotions in.
We still loved each other unconditionally, sentimentally, and sexually, until one day I got super mad about this guy she was super close with who liked her and wanted her but she kept reassuring me that she didn't want him. I ended up walking away and she followed me because she wanted to sort **** out but I was having none of it. She gave up and I called her apologising but it seemed to have been too late.
A few months later, she confided in me about a guy threatening her and her family. I wanted to help and then she subtly dropped hints at him having her nudes, which was weird as we had been together the entire time she lived in the country..?
He then found me on Lobby and sent me her nudes, a few of which I had already seen (from her). I got mad at her for cheating but she said we weren't together at the time, but the guy confirmed the times and we were most likely together. He found people from our school (I accept no responsibility for that icl) and leaked her nudes to everyone.
She kept spamming me and asking me to go to her house so we could "sort stuff out". I kept blowing her off using stupid excuses like "oh my mum wants me home" or "oh I don't wanna walk in the rain" (knowing damn well her house is 10 mins away from mine LOL).
The next day, her little brother texted me on Discord (I didn't see it) and came up to me in person, and said the following
"Shiloh I found something worrying on ****'s computer can you come over and help please?"
I was reluctant but also thought about how it could be her nudes and how he was legit 11 so I felt obligated to help.
So after school, we walked to their house and I talked to him about how me and his sister had a thing (I'm sure he had a feeling from the number of times he had walked in on us) and he acted surprised and ****
He snuck me in through the back so the doorbell wouldn't show me, then took me to her room, which I found strange because he had said prior she wasn't home and that he wanted to sneak me in. He then pushed me into her room and threatened me with a taser telling me to "try nothing funny". He left the room. I sat down on the bed (I did try to leave prior), and she asked me if I thought that her nudes getting leaked was funny, me, being the joker I am, said 'yes because you cheated on me' and smirked. She grabbed me and I grabbed her back (keep in mind I am taller than her but I still loved her) and we began to 'tussle'. My objective was getting the **** out of that house whilst hers was getting me on the bed to do what she pleases (she didn't SA me or anything by the way, so don't think you need to click off). I eventually gave up and she slapped me and told me to say sorry, I did. She slapped me again and told me that if I ever do anything like that again she'll kill me. I told her to get the **** off of me cus I wasn't gonna fight back against an untrained girl when I was MMA trained and she instead spat on me and began to choke me. Her mum was awoken by all the commotion and stepped in between us. She made me stay and explain the situation, and me being too good for her, I defended her. In some sick and twisted way, I still loved that ***** man. Then I went to leave her house and she begged me to stay so that her mum wouldn't do anything. I said I'm sorry but I'm gonna be late home (I was being honest this time) and then I think I gave her a kiss on the forehead or cheek or something it's all kinda a haze.
Long story short, my best friends went and confronted her, and because of that the school found out about everything.
It's been 6 months since that happened and now me and her talk a bit. Not once have we actually talked about that day, because she denies it happened. I don't like her again but she was my first and only love, and I was her first love also. I guess I miss what we had? I have a feeling she does too, because she seems to be super random in her excuses to have contact with me, and her second-best love left her.
Do I keep talking to her? I know you lot are gonna immediately say no, as I would, but actually be fair in your explanations and put some thought into it.
Thanks,
Shiloh.
We started to date on and off for two years, it became toxic as I couldn't trust her with her friends and she was too clingy whilst I wasn't great at keeping my emotions in.
We still loved each other unconditionally, sentimentally, and sexually, until one day I got super mad about this guy she was super close with who liked her and wanted her but she kept reassuring me that she didn't want him. I ended up walking away and she followed me because she wanted to sort **** out but I was having none of it. She gave up and I called her apologising but it seemed to have been too late.
A few months later, she confided in me about a guy threatening her and her family. I wanted to help and then she subtly dropped hints at him having her nudes, which was weird as we had been together the entire time she lived in the country..?
He then found me on Lobby and sent me her nudes, a few of which I had already seen (from her). I got mad at her for cheating but she said we weren't together at the time, but the guy confirmed the times and we were most likely together. He found people from our school (I accept no responsibility for that icl) and leaked her nudes to everyone.
She kept spamming me and asking me to go to her house so we could "sort stuff out". I kept blowing her off using stupid excuses like "oh my mum wants me home" or "oh I don't wanna walk in the rain" (knowing damn well her house is 10 mins away from mine LOL).
The next day, her little brother texted me on Discord (I didn't see it) and came up to me in person, and said the following
"Shiloh I found something worrying on ****'s computer can you come over and help please?"
I was reluctant but also thought about how it could be her nudes and how he was legit 11 so I felt obligated to help.
So after school, we walked to their house and I talked to him about how me and his sister had a thing (I'm sure he had a feeling from the number of times he had walked in on us) and he acted surprised and ****
He snuck me in through the back so the doorbell wouldn't show me, then took me to her room, which I found strange because he had said prior she wasn't home and that he wanted to sneak me in. He then pushed me into her room and threatened me with a taser telling me to "try nothing funny". He left the room. I sat down on the bed (I did try to leave prior), and she asked me if I thought that her nudes getting leaked was funny, me, being the joker I am, said 'yes because you cheated on me' and smirked. She grabbed me and I grabbed her back (keep in mind I am taller than her but I still loved her) and we began to 'tussle'. My objective was getting the **** out of that house whilst hers was getting me on the bed to do what she pleases (she didn't SA me or anything by the way, so don't think you need to click off). I eventually gave up and she slapped me and told me to say sorry, I did. She slapped me again and told me that if I ever do anything like that again she'll kill me. I told her to get the **** off of me cus I wasn't gonna fight back against an untrained girl when I was MMA trained and she instead spat on me and began to choke me. Her mum was awoken by all the commotion and stepped in between us. She made me stay and explain the situation, and me being too good for her, I defended her. In some sick and twisted way, I still loved that ***** man. Then I went to leave her house and she begged me to stay so that her mum wouldn't do anything. I said I'm sorry but I'm gonna be late home (I was being honest this time) and then I think I gave her a kiss on the forehead or cheek or something it's all kinda a haze.
Long story short, my best friends went and confronted her, and because of that the school found out about everything.
It's been 6 months since that happened and now me and her talk a bit. Not once have we actually talked about that day, because she denies it happened. I don't like her again but she was my first and only love, and I was her first love also. I guess I miss what we had? I have a feeling she does too, because she seems to be super random in her excuses to have contact with me, and her second-best love left her.
Do I keep talking to her? I know you lot are gonna immediately say no, as I would, but actually be fair in your explanations and put some thought into it.
Thanks,
Shiloh.
"We started to date on and off for two years, it became toxic as I couldn't trust her with her friends and she was too clingy whilst I wasn't great at keeping my emotions in"
OK - Just read your second paragraph (I've copied it for you) - I couldn't trust her
You are the problem here. If you play with fire you get burnt. Burnt from her, her family and her friends.
Stay away and don't have any further contact because if it's not you it will be some other useless idiot who maintains her weird and deceitful life. You are lucky she didn't cry rape.
OK - Just read your second paragraph (I've copied it for you) - I couldn't trust her
You are the problem here. If you play with fire you get burnt. Burnt from her, her family and her friends.
Stay away and don't have any further contact because if it's not you it will be some other useless idiot who maintains her weird and deceitful life. You are lucky she didn't cry rape.
Thank you.
You couldn't trust her.
She cheated on you - or at least send nudes to some other guy whilst she was with you, which sure as hell sounds a lot liek cheating.
She didn't seem to accept your apology over a bit of jealousy (which is natural and just means that you give a damn, as long as you weren't toxic/abusive).
She then tried to get you to sort her problems out for her months later which SHE CAUSED and by doing what she did, disrespected you and showed a complete lack of care for your feelings or relationships.
She couldn't take no for an answer so she kept harasssing you.
She (most likely) sent her younger brother to you to guilt trip you into going to her place.
She then ASSAULTED YOU and demanded an apology (for what??) whilst you were at her place.
She threatened you.
She shamelessly let you lie for her just so she doesn't look bad instead of being responsibke and honest.
She begged you to stay, not becasue she missed you or wanted to apologise, but because of her mum.
She denies it ever happened (gaslighting).
She makes up random excuses to talk to you (feeding you crumbs in a way, won't let you move on with your life and forget about her because she keeps reminding you of her existence and your past relationship everytime she speaks to you).
That is what I understood from your post. I'm sorry but she sounds toxic af. I know it's hard to move on from your first love but she ain't the one. You deserve better. I honestly think you should cut her off completely so she can't abuse or take advantage of you further but if it's too difficult/painful, then just DO NOT get back into a relationship with her. She's already shown you her true colours, why let yourself get heartbroken all over again? You've been given many reasons as to why you shouldn't even maintain contact with her anymore. It's up to you now to listen to your head and not your heart.
She cheated on you - or at least send nudes to some other guy whilst she was with you, which sure as hell sounds a lot liek cheating.
She didn't seem to accept your apology over a bit of jealousy (which is natural and just means that you give a damn, as long as you weren't toxic/abusive).
She then tried to get you to sort her problems out for her months later which SHE CAUSED and by doing what she did, disrespected you and showed a complete lack of care for your feelings or relationships.
She couldn't take no for an answer so she kept harasssing you.
She (most likely) sent her younger brother to you to guilt trip you into going to her place.
She then ASSAULTED YOU and demanded an apology (for what??) whilst you were at her place.
She threatened you.
She shamelessly let you lie for her just so she doesn't look bad instead of being responsibke and honest.
She begged you to stay, not becasue she missed you or wanted to apologise, but because of her mum.
She denies it ever happened (gaslighting).
She makes up random excuses to talk to you (feeding you crumbs in a way, won't let you move on with your life and forget about her because she keeps reminding you of her existence and your past relationship everytime she speaks to you).
That is what I understood from your post. I'm sorry but she sounds toxic af. I know it's hard to move on from your first love but she ain't the one. You deserve better. I honestly think you should cut her off completely so she can't abuse or take advantage of you further but if it's too difficult/painful, then just DO NOT get back into a relationship with her. She's already shown you her true colours, why let yourself get heartbroken all over again? You've been given many reasons as to why you shouldn't even maintain contact with her anymore. It's up to you now to listen to your head and not your heart.
Thank you so much bro - this made me see **** so much clearer
Original post by KindOfComplex
Thank you so much bro - this made me see **** so much clearer
No worries, just make sure you remember everything. When I wanted to go no contact with someone who broke my heart a few years back, my friends filled a sheet of paper with a ton of reasons highlighting why that person was trash and that I deserved way better than them. They also included a few funny 'icks'. I looked at it every time I missed them and it honestly really helped me get over them much quicker. You should try screenshotting the posts on this thread and looking back at them everytime you're having second thoughts about this girl. Hopefully it might help you too.
Original post by KindOfComplex
Right so in 2020 or so I started to like this girl, she was still figuring out her sexuality so she kinda pushed me away, but after a few months she realised she was bi and had feelings for me.
We started to date on and off for two years, it became toxic as I couldn't trust her with her friends and she was too clingy whilst I wasn't great at keeping my emotions in.
We still loved each other unconditionally, sentimentally, and sexually, until one day I got super mad about this guy she was super close with who liked her and wanted her but she kept reassuring me that she didn't want him. I ended up walking away and she followed me because she wanted to sort **** out but I was having none of it. She gave up and I called her apologising but it seemed to have been too late.
A few months later, she confided in me about a guy threatening her and her family. I wanted to help and then she subtly dropped hints at him having her nudes, which was weird as we had been together the entire time she lived in the country..?
He then found me on Lobby and sent me her nudes, a few of which I had already seen (from her). I got mad at her for cheating but she said we weren't together at the time, but the guy confirmed the times and we were most likely together. He found people from our school (I accept no responsibility for that icl) and leaked her nudes to everyone.
She kept spamming me and asking me to go to her house so we could "sort stuff out". I kept blowing her off using stupid excuses like "oh my mum wants me home" or "oh I don't wanna walk in the rain" (knowing damn well her house is 10 mins away from mine LOL).
The next day, her little brother texted me on Discord (I didn't see it) and came up to me in person, and said the following
"Shiloh I found something worrying on ****'s computer can you come over and help please?"
I was reluctant but also thought about how it could be her nudes and how he was legit 11 so I felt obligated to help.
So after school, we walked to their house and I talked to him about how me and his sister had a thing (I'm sure he had a feeling from the number of times he had walked in on us) and he acted surprised and ****
He snuck me in through the back so the doorbell wouldn't show me, then took me to her room, which I found strange because he had said prior she wasn't home and that he wanted to sneak me in. He then pushed me into her room and threatened me with a taser telling me to "try nothing funny". He left the room. I sat down on the bed (I did try to leave prior), and she asked me if I thought that her nudes getting leaked was funny, me, being the joker I am, said 'yes because you cheated on me' and smirked. She grabbed me and I grabbed her back (keep in mind I am taller than her but I still loved her) and we began to 'tussle'. My objective was getting the **** out of that house whilst hers was getting me on the bed to do what she pleases (she didn't SA me or anything by the way, so don't think you need to click off). I eventually gave up and she slapped me and told me to say sorry, I did. She slapped me again and told me that if I ever do anything like that again she'll kill me. I told her to get the **** off of me cus I wasn't gonna fight back against an untrained girl when I was MMA trained and she instead spat on me and began to choke me. Her mum was awoken by all the commotion and stepped in between us. She made me stay and explain the situation, and me being too good for her, I defended her. In some sick and twisted way, I still loved that ***** man. Then I went to leave her house and she begged me to stay so that her mum wouldn't do anything. I said I'm sorry but I'm gonna be late home (I was being honest this time) and then I think I gave her a kiss on the forehead or cheek or something it's all kinda a haze.
Long story short, my best friends went and confronted her, and because of that the school found out about everything.
It's been 6 months since that happened and now me and her talk a bit. Not once have we actually talked about that day, because she denies it happened. I don't like her again but she was my first and only love, and I was her first love also. I guess I miss what we had? I have a feeling she does too, because she seems to be super random in her excuses to have contact with me, and her second-best love left her.
Do I keep talking to her? I know you lot are gonna immediately say no, as I would, but actually be fair in your explanations and put some thought into it.
Thanks,
Shiloh.
We started to date on and off for two years, it became toxic as I couldn't trust her with her friends and she was too clingy whilst I wasn't great at keeping my emotions in.
We still loved each other unconditionally, sentimentally, and sexually, until one day I got super mad about this guy she was super close with who liked her and wanted her but she kept reassuring me that she didn't want him. I ended up walking away and she followed me because she wanted to sort **** out but I was having none of it. She gave up and I called her apologising but it seemed to have been too late.
A few months later, she confided in me about a guy threatening her and her family. I wanted to help and then she subtly dropped hints at him having her nudes, which was weird as we had been together the entire time she lived in the country..?
He then found me on Lobby and sent me her nudes, a few of which I had already seen (from her). I got mad at her for cheating but she said we weren't together at the time, but the guy confirmed the times and we were most likely together. He found people from our school (I accept no responsibility for that icl) and leaked her nudes to everyone.
She kept spamming me and asking me to go to her house so we could "sort stuff out". I kept blowing her off using stupid excuses like "oh my mum wants me home" or "oh I don't wanna walk in the rain" (knowing damn well her house is 10 mins away from mine LOL).
The next day, her little brother texted me on Discord (I didn't see it) and came up to me in person, and said the following
"Shiloh I found something worrying on ****'s computer can you come over and help please?"
I was reluctant but also thought about how it could be her nudes and how he was legit 11 so I felt obligated to help.
So after school, we walked to their house and I talked to him about how me and his sister had a thing (I'm sure he had a feeling from the number of times he had walked in on us) and he acted surprised and ****
He snuck me in through the back so the doorbell wouldn't show me, then took me to her room, which I found strange because he had said prior she wasn't home and that he wanted to sneak me in. He then pushed me into her room and threatened me with a taser telling me to "try nothing funny". He left the room. I sat down on the bed (I did try to leave prior), and she asked me if I thought that her nudes getting leaked was funny, me, being the joker I am, said 'yes because you cheated on me' and smirked. She grabbed me and I grabbed her back (keep in mind I am taller than her but I still loved her) and we began to 'tussle'. My objective was getting the **** out of that house whilst hers was getting me on the bed to do what she pleases (she didn't SA me or anything by the way, so don't think you need to click off). I eventually gave up and she slapped me and told me to say sorry, I did. She slapped me again and told me that if I ever do anything like that again she'll kill me. I told her to get the **** off of me cus I wasn't gonna fight back against an untrained girl when I was MMA trained and she instead spat on me and began to choke me. Her mum was awoken by all the commotion and stepped in between us. She made me stay and explain the situation, and me being too good for her, I defended her. In some sick and twisted way, I still loved that ***** man. Then I went to leave her house and she begged me to stay so that her mum wouldn't do anything. I said I'm sorry but I'm gonna be late home (I was being honest this time) and then I think I gave her a kiss on the forehead or cheek or something it's all kinda a haze.
Long story short, my best friends went and confronted her, and because of that the school found out about everything.
It's been 6 months since that happened and now me and her talk a bit. Not once have we actually talked about that day, because she denies it happened. I don't like her again but she was my first and only love, and I was her first love also. I guess I miss what we had? I have a feeling she does too, because she seems to be super random in her excuses to have contact with me, and her second-best love left her.
Do I keep talking to her? I know you lot are gonna immediately say no, as I would, but actually be fair in your explanations and put some thought into it.
Thanks,
Shiloh.
You're MMA trained but you still go to school?
I do MMA classes 3 days a week after school. I see why that was confusing tho.
I'm an intermediate, green belt, and specialise in Muay Thai mostly. Don't want people to think this is fake.
I'm an intermediate, green belt, and specialise in Muay Thai mostly. Don't want people to think this is fake.
Atp imma fall in love with you LMAO
But seriously, thank you
But seriously, thank you
Original post by KindOfComplex
Atp imma fall in love with you LMAO
But seriously, thank you
But seriously, thank you
Stopp, that's so funny 😂😂 On a real note tho, you shouldn't go for a rebound when you still have feelings for someone, it won't help. But yeah again, no problem - good luck!
Learnt that the hard way LMAO
What the fudgery have I just read here
the story of me and my ex mate
Original post by KindOfComplex
the story of me and my ex mate
So are you both female?
does that matter?
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