Is it worth asking a gym staff the full name of a member?

Hi all,

I wanted to get your opinion on whether or not this was worth trying.

Last year at the gym, there was a young lady who caught my eye, and I think she may have been interested. We would talk a bit (nothing too deep, just a polite, passing type conversation), and come December I had to stop going to the gym for a bit as we were moving offices. I mentioned this to her, and that I would be back in January; she said she would still be around in the new year and we would catch up then. I should point out I live far from where I work, so it wasn't feasible to travel that distance to go to the gym, when there are several closer to me.

There was a delay in our new office opening, which meant that it wasn't until March when I could return. So when the office opened, I went to the gym again but she wasn't there. I spoke to another guy there who knew her, who said that she was definitely around in January, but hadn't seen her for a couple of weeks. Anyway, I've been going regularly since then and have not seen her around since then. So yeah, I can take it as red she's left the gym now.

If possible, I'd like to try and trace her on Social Media, but I only have her first name. I'm on reasonably good terms with the gym staff there (Not best friends, but they definitely know me as a regular). I know they can't give out personal details such as addresses or phone numbers, but I'm wondering if you think they may tell me her full name?

I know this is a slightly unusual approach, but currently I've got limited opportunities to meet new people (I've got no faith in dating apps, and I can't go to the pub or club anywhere near as much as I would like to). On the other hand, it's now been six months since I last had any contact with her, so there's every chance she may have moved on. But you miss 100% of the shots you don't take don't you.

So yeah, is it worth a shot, or should I just cut my losses?

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samir965

This happened to my buddy Eric one time, he asked the staff and they politely escorted him out the building and revoked his membership. Do NOT try this.