My GF and clubbing…

I’ve been dating this girl for 5 months. I’ve never told her not to wear clothes that might be revealing but it does make me very uncomfortable (especially if she goes out alone). I’ve tried my best to understand why she likes to dress in a ‘sexy’ way but I can’t ignore how I feel. This feeling is made worse when she tells me that multiple guys hit on her in a night. I don't want to tell her what to wear but I also can’t ignore how I feel. Rumours of her past also don’t help with this as well as a history of cheating on partners.
I’ve thought about asking her to wear less revealing clothes when I’m not out with her, until I feel more comfortable but I equally don’t want to give the impression that I’m controlling (maybe I am but I can’t ignore my feelings anymore).
Any advice on how I should go about this?

Hiya,
You obviously have given this a lot of thought and your heart seems to be in the right place so i wouldn’t call yourself controlling- your worries are natural. I get that it could be difficult having a partner who others are attracted to and how that could make you insecure but you have to remember that at the end of the day, clothes are not what make a person loyal or disloyal. I think that unfortunately, if she is going to cheat, she will do it regardless of what she’s wearing. And she could go out in a literal potato sack and someone could still try and hit on her. Even with a huge neon sign that says “i have a boyfriend back off!!!” a woman could still get hit on; it’s an unfortunate part of going out clubbing but it doesn’t mean that she actually is going to cheat yk? Also, if she’s telling you about the guys that hit on her it pretty much means nothing happens and she doesn’t see it as a big deal or a threat to your relationship.
However, saying all that, if it really makes you insecure i would say have an open discussion (free of accusations) about how it makes you feel- but remember that it is totally her choice what she wears at the end of the day you’re just voicing your own insecurities which is equally okay and healthy.
Sorry if that was a bit waffley but hope i could help a bit

Thank you this was really helpful!

I’ve been dating this girl for 5 months. I’ve never told her not to wear clothes that might be revealing but it does make me very uncomfortable (especially if she goes out alone). I’ve tried my best to understand why she likes to dress in a ‘sexy’ way but I can’t ignore how I feel. This feeling is made worse when she tells me that multiple guys hit on her in a night. I don't want to tell her what to wear but I also can’t ignore how I feel. Rumours of her past also don’t help with this as well as a history of cheating on partners.
I’ve thought about asking her to wear less revealing clothes when I’m not out with her, until I feel more comfortable but I equally don’t want to give the impression that I’m controlling (maybe I am but I can’t ignore my feelings anymore).
Any advice on how I should go about this?

I’ve been dating this girl for 5 months. I’ve never told her not to wear clothes that might be revealing but it does make me very uncomfortable (especially if she goes out alone). I’ve tried my best to understand why she likes to dress in a ‘sexy’ way but I can’t ignore how I feel. This feeling is made worse when she tells me that multiple guys hit on her in a night. I don't want to tell her what to wear but I also can’t ignore how I feel. Rumours of her past also don’t help with this as well as a history of cheating on partners.
I’ve thought about asking her to wear less revealing clothes when I’m not out with her, until I feel more comfortable but I equally don’t want to give the impression that I’m controlling (maybe I am but I can’t ignore my feelings anymore).
Any advice on how I should go about this?

I’ve been dating this girl for 5 months. I’ve never told her not to wear clothes that might be revealing but it does make me very uncomfortable (especially if she goes out alone). I’ve tried my best to understand why she likes to dress in a ‘sexy’ way but I can’t ignore how I feel. This feeling is made worse when she tells me that multiple guys hit on her in a night. I don't want to tell her what to wear but I also can’t ignore how I feel. Rumours of her past also don’t help with this as well as a history of cheating on partners.
I’ve thought about asking her to wear less revealing clothes when I’m not out with her, until I feel more comfortable but I equally don’t want to give the impression that I’m controlling (maybe I am but I can’t ignore my feelings anymore).
Any advice on how I should go about this?

I’ve been dating this girl for 5 months. I’ve never told her not to wear clothes that might be revealing but it does make me very uncomfortable (especially if she goes out alone). I’ve tried my best to understand why she likes to dress in a ‘sexy’ way but I can’t ignore how I feel. This feeling is made worse when she tells me that multiple guys hit on her in a night. I don't want to tell her what to wear but I also can’t ignore how I feel. Rumours of her past also don’t help with this as well as a history of cheating on partners.
I’ve thought about asking her to wear less revealing clothes when I’m not out with her, until I feel more comfortable but I equally don’t want to give the impression that I’m controlling (maybe I am but I can’t ignore my feelings anymore).
Any advice on how I should go about this?