Are some guys destined to be alone?
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Original post by Superlogon
You decide your own fate
Lets put that one a bit bigger, it cannot be stressed enough.
Original post by Anonymous
Original post by Anonymous
Well I'm 22 and the title says it all really. Tried and tried.
What more can I do but try?
Anon too.
What more can I do but try?
Anon too.
Don't worry I am in the exact same position, but I'm sure you know better than to expect sympathy on here, I guess its more about putting how you feel out there, thats what you do when you have no-one.
To the rest of you...It is hard to be rational and think, 'Hey well I'm only 22', or 'I must try harder', people get deflated, if this person is depressed, depression often makes you think irrationally, I don't quite see the point in being so dismissive, by the same token as i said I wouldn't expect much help on here either.
Original post by Ich Dien
Lets put that one a bit bigger, it cannot be stressed enough.
Oh come on, most of it is genetic, either you have the characteristics or you don't. Explains why some guys can pull a girl everyweek and how some guys will never pull in their whole lifetime.
Concentrate on something fun like sports or games for a while instead of "I'm going to die alone"; you tend to make more friends and you have more fun. Win win!
Original post by Anonymous
Well I'm 22 and the title says it all really. Tried and tried.
What more can I do but try?
Anon too.
What more can I do but try?
Anon too.
Yes... I'm 18 and a loner. It sucks, people should try to be an outcast and that way they'll know how we feel. Just cba to explain. Nobody understands.
Original post by Anonymous
Yes... I'm 18 and a loner. It sucks, people should try to be an outcast and that way they'll know how we feel. Just cba to explain. Nobody understands.
Yes mate, its everyone elses fault isint it?
You keep closing everyone else out of your life mate. You dig that hole for yourself.
Original post by Anonymous
Oh come on, most of it is genetic, either you have the characteristics or you don't. Explains why some guys can pull a girl everyweek and how some guys will never pull in their whole lifetime.
Guys will never pull their whole lifetime because they are Fatalistic.
What you do drives me up the ****ing wall
You self pity yourself incessantly, yet through all of it you cant even realise its you making yourself that way. So you can never change. You cant help yourself!
What your doing now, what your feeling is Self Inflicted. You need some self belief, because nobody is gonna give it to you mate.
You need to take responsbility, accept yourself for who you are and what you are like, then live it. Girls wont matter to you half as much then.
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Original post by Ich Dien
Guys will never pull their whole lifetime because they are Fatalistic.
What you do drives me up the ****ing wall
You self pity yourself incessantly, yet through all of it you even cant realise its you making yourself that way. So you can never change. You cant help yourself!
What you do drives me up the ****ing wall
You self pity yourself incessantly, yet through all of it you even cant realise its you making yourself that way. So you can never change. You cant help yourself!
Alright what should I do? Are you saying change who I am??
Why is this thread only about guys ? Surely if some men are meant to be alone (not saying they are) then some women are too ?
I don't think anyone is destined to be alone. I know some people choose to be whether that be unintentionally or simply by withdrawing too much from society to get a chance to not be.
I have a friend who is good looking, studying a good degree at one of the big London universities yet even when he really likes a girl and she really likes him too then he just pushes her away and fills his time with one night stands and hookers. It really hurts me to see him emotionally destroy himself like that but he went through absolute hell with his family (easily the worst divorce I've ever heard about). Last time we had a proper chat he said "people that start out like me aren't meant to find happiness" which made me quite sad. So yeah he's chosen to be alone and trust me we've all tried to get him to change but he doesn't believe in happy endings.
I don't know if you're choosing to be but until you can come on here and say "I tried it on with 20 girls of varying levels of attractiveness and they all rejected me" then in my opinion you sort of are. You have to try in life, the things that matter the most are that way because people have to fight to get them.
I don't think anyone is destined to be alone. I know some people choose to be whether that be unintentionally or simply by withdrawing too much from society to get a chance to not be.
I have a friend who is good looking, studying a good degree at one of the big London universities yet even when he really likes a girl and she really likes him too then he just pushes her away and fills his time with one night stands and hookers. It really hurts me to see him emotionally destroy himself like that but he went through absolute hell with his family (easily the worst divorce I've ever heard about). Last time we had a proper chat he said "people that start out like me aren't meant to find happiness" which made me quite sad. So yeah he's chosen to be alone and trust me we've all tried to get him to change but he doesn't believe in happy endings.
I don't know if you're choosing to be but until you can come on here and say "I tried it on with 20 girls of varying levels of attractiveness and they all rejected me" then in my opinion you sort of are. You have to try in life, the things that matter the most are that way because people have to fight to get them.
Original post by Anonymous
Alright what should I do? Are you saying change who I am??
you want to change so u can pull?
Fine just go to clubs get drunk and there you are.Problem solved.
Original post by Anonymous
Alright what should I do? Are you saying change who I am??
You should be yourself, because your not now.
You need to change your outlook, accept and embrace yourself. Because your not getting another shot at life.
You are sitting back thinking, 'ohh im ugly' so you act like it. You wallow in the background, not talking to girls and you wonder why they dont approach you? Because your some crying wallflower with no self respect? You are what you think!, you become what you believe.
Life is just drifting by you. Your wasting your own time by not making a difference to your own life. Nobody can do this for you. You have to make yourself feel good about yourself.
This fatalistic attitude HAS TO GO!. If you never try, you cant succeede and failure isint a ****ing issue when you've had to make such a difference to yourself just to get to the point of actually trying.
Its your life so damn well live it like you want to live it, and **** everybody else (to a certain extent) Why does it matter what other people think?
Original post by Anonymous
Yes... I'm 18 and a loner. It sucks, people should try to be an outcast and that way they'll know how we feel. Just cba to explain. Nobody understands.
The difference between me and you is my belief that theres somthing more out there for me. And thats all it is.
(edited 13 years ago)
You'll find someone eventually 
im another guy like you, OP. Ive noticed a few guys have posted saying 'im in the same position as you...' but have posted anonymous - it puzzles me why youd post anonymous
Well, im in the same position as u and im 21.
People in this thread are going against what u say op, ie saying you make your own future etc
But...
I kind of see where your coming from and i see both sides of the arguement.
I cant imagine myself being anything else but alone. It would feel very strange, the notion of me having a gf/partner. I dont talk to or socialise with girls, girls dont like me and never have done.
I done really see myself being with a partner, as ive spent so many years alone. And never had a gf or any experience with women. Its difficult, some guys attract girls naturally like bees to flowers, im one of the guys whos practically invisible to girls
Well, im in the same position as u and im 21.
People in this thread are going against what u say op, ie saying you make your own future etc
But...
I kind of see where your coming from and i see both sides of the arguement.
I cant imagine myself being anything else but alone. It would feel very strange, the notion of me having a gf/partner. I dont talk to or socialise with girls, girls dont like me and never have done.
I done really see myself being with a partner, as ive spent so many years alone. And never had a gf or any experience with women. Its difficult, some guys attract girls naturally like bees to flowers, im one of the guys whos practically invisible to girls
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Original post by Ich Dien
You should be yourself, because your not now.
You need to change your outlook, accept and embrace yourself. Because your not getting another shot at life.
You are sitting back thinking, 'ohh im ugly' so you act like it. You wallow in the background, not talking to girls and you wonder why they dont approach you? Because your some crying wallflower with no self respect? You are what you think!, you become what you believe.
Life is just drifting by you. Your wasting your own time by not making a difference to your own life. Nobody can do this for you. You have to make yourself feel good about yourself.
This fatalistic attitude HAS TO GO!. If you never try, you cant succeede and failure isint a ****ing issue when you've had to make such a difference to yourself just to get to the point of actually trying.
Its your life so damn well live it like you want to live it, and **** everybody else (to a certain extent) Why does it matter what other people think?
The difference between me and you is my belief that theres somthing more out there for me. And thats all it is.
You need to change your outlook, accept and embrace yourself. Because your not getting another shot at life.
You are sitting back thinking, 'ohh im ugly' so you act like it. You wallow in the background, not talking to girls and you wonder why they dont approach you? Because your some crying wallflower with no self respect? You are what you think!, you become what you believe.
Life is just drifting by you. Your wasting your own time by not making a difference to your own life. Nobody can do this for you. You have to make yourself feel good about yourself.
This fatalistic attitude HAS TO GO!. If you never try, you cant succeede and failure isint a ****ing issue when you've had to make such a difference to yourself just to get to the point of actually trying.
Its your life so damn well live it like you want to live it, and **** everybody else (to a certain extent) Why does it matter what other people think?
The difference between me and you is my belief that theres somthing more out there for me. And thats all it is.
This guy is right, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take
I'd also recommend a book called Mastering your hidden self by Serge King
Original post by bloomblaze
I cant imagine myself being anything else but alone.
Why? Why isint there a girl whos exactly the same?
Original post by Ich Dien
Why? Why isint there a girl whos exactly the same?
I dont know how to answer 'why'. I just cant imagine not being alone- it would seem strange otherwise
What are u implying/trying to say? Please elaborate
Original post by Anonymous
Read the game, research the PUA community, it works trust me
OP, as a woman I LOL in the face of pickup artists and the "game"
OP, please don't. Girls (and men) will just think you're a retard.
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Original post by bloomblaze
I dont know how to answer 'why'. I just cant imagine not being alone- it would seem strange otherwise
What are u implying/trying to say? Please elaborate
What are u implying/trying to say? Please elaborate
You cant imagine loving the people you know, sure.
But its ridiculous to believe that you never will, That you wont find somebody as 'strange' as you, that you wont find any affinity at all.
If you believe that, it will never happen. Because that person will slip through out of your life behind your mask of self pity.
You seem to feel so odd that your denying yourself the potential to love somebody, which is a horrible thing to do to yourself. No girl is gonna come with in 10 miles if your activly pushing them away like that...
What im saying is you have to take control of your own life. Dont let oppertunities pass you by
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