The Long Distance Relationship Society Advice Centre

Aww, I'm very happy for you! guys can be very simple sometimes and even though we may think they should know the way we're feeling at any moment, sometimes they just need a hint or a little push to help them know what we're expecting from them or what we actually need from them in certain situations. Communication is always the best solution to any problem, even more in a LDR, so when you're feeling in a low mood dont ever think it's gonna be a burden for him to listen to your problems or that he's gonna feel forced to help you, remember that before being your bf he's basically your best friend, someone you can trust and someone who is looking for your happiness

We skyped for two and a half hours yesterday and yet today I still feel a bit :| and I don't know why. I just feel really cold and emotionless towards everything today ... probably because of the exam stress.

Sigh.

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Aww, I'm very happy for you! guys can be very simple sometimes and even though we may think they should know the way we're feeling at any moment, sometimes they just need a hint or a little push to help them know what we're expecting from them or what we actually need from them in certain situations. Communication is always the best solution to any problem, even more in a LDR, so when you're feeling in a low mood dont ever think it's gonna be a burden for him to listen to your problems or that he's gonna feel forced to help you, remember that before being your bf he's basically your best friend, someone you can trust and someone who is looking for your happiness

Ahem on behalf of my penis id just like to say...................yeah your right, we can be a bit dense at times. But you ladies aint flawless either you know.

haha don't take offense! I know we can be way too complicated btw

Really sorry about your father, I'm glad your gf was a big support for you during the weekend, thats how things should always be Maybe that's the reason why this time you were so emotional when it came to say goodbye. Also, I think that the longer you are in a LDR, the harder it becomes to say goodbye and the wait until you see her again so there will probably be weekends when you feel more emotionals and weekends when it will be easier to go away. One month until you see her again anyway, think positive!

Feel like a really horrible person

Just come back from a relaxing girly hot-spring weekend... feeling refreshed and much more positive now! I really needed the time out. Plus chatting to a good friend who's already gone back home gave me a bit of perspective on the time I have left in Japan.

Feeling happy because the boyfriend went to the Staffs Bike Show at the weekend and bought me some gloves, so looking forward to wearing them when I'm home and back on two wheels. I was so pleased that he thought of me... Little things.

Hope we're all well!

30 days until I leave school
50 days until exams are over
60 days until I fly over again

you're not a horrible person at all! Thats totally natural! We tend to take things like that out on the people who are closest to us! That sucks about college but I guess its that time of year where things start to get really tough! Just take it a day at a time, think about the positives, and if you still feel bad, maybe skype him tonight and apologise?

Thanks only 2 full days left until I see him anyway which is definitely a positive he's coming over earlier than normal on Friday and I can't wait, feels like so long since I last saw him but it's actually only been like 2 weeks

and yeah college will be over in 3 weeks too, can't wait - then I've got summer and time to finally not worry about work and grades and stuff! Hopefully I will go back to my normal self by then haha, not liking this stressed out version of myself, just trying to think stuff like if I don't get my predicted grades then it's not the end of the world, there's always resits etc. but thanks again

Hi I'm in my first year at uni and my girlfriend told me just now she wants a break. What hope do we have for after this? Can we rekindle something over the summer? We met at the start of last year in October when I was in my third year at college and her in her first, so we've just spent about 7 months in a long distance. When I saw her at Christmas she loved me but when she saw me at Easter she felt as if some of the love had gone. She is loaded with tonnes of work and is getting stressed out.

Can we get this back at the summer?

Aw, I know how you feel. I'm spanish, my bf is irish, he doesn't speak a word in spanish and although I do speak English, it's really obvious that Im not a native speaker and sometimes it's hard for me to keep up with the conversation when he's talking to his family or friends, especially when they're talking too fast and using slang or in a very midlands accent. So even though I'm recently starting to participate a little bit more in conversations and it's getting easier for me to understand them, I've had this fear for 2 years that I wouldn't fit in there, and I still think that I'll never be as integrated in the family as other members are, which is really depressing

However you're lucky that you're a native english speaker and english is the most important language at the moment..I'm sure with your english and a basic knowledge of french you could easily find a job in France, even if you couldn't find a job in your field (which I doubt) and you had to end up working in an Irish Pub serving drinks. As for the language barrier, as you have already realized, it's something that disappears little by little, and once you live there your knowledge of french will increase very quickly so I'm pretty sure you'll have no problems at all in terms of forming a new life over there, plus as you said it's worth it and anyway he will be there to help you

30 days until I leave school
50 days until exams are over
60 days until I fly over again

60 days - two months. you can do it hunny

I have

29 days till i see her again
then about six weeks
then another two weeks and i will be there for good

I was going to send a suprise gift of flowers to her, but seeing as i saw her a week ago and im seeing her 1st of June i thought to myself - bit too much. Ill save it till the six week gap i think would be better

you guys agree?

I agree!

And I'll miss you when you leave this thread