Is it because i'm Chinese?

You really haven't looked at the black girl threads then.

Are you kidding me? Did you read what she wrote? She claimed every website she has been on labels women liker her, black women as undesirable of course it's a silly claim and definitely exaggerated it's just the sort of ridiculous line that continues to portray black women as low self esteem.

I have seen websites criticising black women's looks and within the same websites there will be people with positive comments about black women so yes it is a silly claim.

Also once again a black women focusing purely on her physical attributes you seem to have a problem looking beyond your physical selves, men could easily not want to be with a woman because she has not got a nice personality. Problem with women like you and her are you enjoy playing victim any attention is good attention with you.

One thread here and there is not proof that every website shes been on labels black women as undesirable.

Have you realised this thread is not even about black women, no one criticised black women, yet a black woman managed to input her low self esteem issues into it.

In honest opinion, I'm not here fishing for compliments or sympathy, this is a genuine problem that I'm having and some genuine advice would reassure me.
I'm a British born Chinese girl, 5'3 and I wouldn't say I was ugly but I'm definitely not pretty - just below average.
So having been living in the UK for all my life, I've always been a victim of racial bullying that was until I got into university. I think being called 'chinky' n all the **** has literally lowered my self esteem. And I've always felt ugly next to my friends whereby guys always choose them over me like being partners or such. i was always the one left with no partner until a friend's would feel sorry for me and be my partner. I've never really had a boyfriend, been asked out or even kissed. I've tried internet dating, but realistically, I findthey don't work out. I have penty of male friends but I always find myself friendzoned or they end up liking my friend's. I am a sociable person but its like guys never ask for my number or show any interest. I'm already 20 so I'm beginning to feel like there's something wrong with the way I look. I'm fashionable, don't wear tonns of makeup, play games, watch anime, smart. I'm currently studying a respectable degree, I drink n all that but I've literally got nothing and its making me feel like ill forever be alone.
There must be a reason why I'm getting no guys. I'm not desperate, its the fact that everyone around me can easily get someone...I've liked a few guys but they just don't return the feelings and I know it can't be forced.

Yes the every website was the exaggeration I was pointing out

I've seen good comments about black women too but I've seen more bad ones to be honest. Who said I focus more on my physical attributes? I can't change them and I'm happy with them so please don't put words in my mouth. Yes I know men may not want to date a woman purely because of her personality but they could just as easily not want to date a woman because of her skin colour.

Playing victim am I? In my eyes I'm not a victim - but the truths the truth and from what I've seen purely on this website I believe she had a point

When I mentioned the focus on physical attributes, I am talking about black women in general every time a black girl here complains it's about guys not being attracted to their looks they can only focus on the physical. They totally ignore their personality and the idea that a guy may simply not find your personality appealing and therefor have no connection with you so he would have no reason to be with you.

No one put words in your mouth its my observation of some black girls behaviour.

Well you know guys may not want to date you because of personality and you also know they may not want to date you because of your skin colour. People are allowed to have taste, some may simply be racist and not like you cause you're black some may simply be attracted to lighter skinned women at the end of their day its their choice which they are entitled to not everyone in the world is going to be attracted to you.

However , trying to come on here and paint every male as holding of these views is plain wrong and a lie so stop.

Yes I did call you a victim because this is how you are portraying yourself by agreeing with her exaggerated claims, even negative attention is good attention for you.

The poster I replied to was not even writing about this website she was talking about external websites and I know for sure her claims are gibberish. Perhaps you and her only remember the negative views and yes there may be more negative views unfortunately not everyone is going to see you as an example of beauty whether based on personality or physical looks does not mean you are not beautiful or that others won't see it in you.

Everyone makes choices based on experiences or what they perceive, however, people sometimes perceive wrong but you are not helping portray yourself well here by agreeing to her silly claims.

Last point this thread is not about black women.

They're deleted very quickly so I guess you haven't seen the threads the other person was referring to but they pretty much go like the PM I was sent today:



We haven't got low self esteem we're just telling you how it is

Plenty of guys like Oriental girls are long as you are not the complete book worm type who puts no effort into your appearance. The same can't be said about Oriental guys.

She never mentioned any threads once again she was talking about external sites you seem to have reading comprehension problems.

Well you say you haven't got low self esteem I think you do. Also it is not how it is, it's how you perceive it to be and your perception is clouding your judgement.

Have you not realised that you have infiltrated this thread with your issues when you should actually be focusing on the thread starters issues? You are here to advise her not take it over with your problems.

If you want to focus on problems affecting black women you could start your own thread.

Lel no you've missed the point. It's not that people have said I'm not attracted to you because yada yada so on and so forth it's that people have said 'I'm not attracted to black girls' which I think is a preference and not racist as I'm sure she thinks too. She's just pointing out that as someone who feels that she is least desired generally by white guys because of her skin colour, she's been fine and as the OP thinks that it's because she's Chinese that white guys aren't attracted to her she shouldn't feel like it's not going to happen - she was just drawing a parallel.

The only person that has turned this into a thread about black women is you dear.

You started this not me the quote I added was because you said you hadn't seen any of the threads her on tsr, so I thought I'd just show you how they normally go.

I haven't got low self esteem, if someone doesn't like me because of my skin colour that's fine, I'm not going to sit around and cry about something I can't change

I have not missed any point I already addressed the thread starter and questioned her over the fact just like black women she seeks validation from white guys in order to feel beautiful which is a big problem which black girls deal with.

However notice the title of the thread

Is it because I am chinese

Not is it because I am a black women

The only similarity here between some black women and the thread starter who is chinese is the sad fact that you both seek validation of worthiness and beauty from the white male and I have already addressed this. The thread starter has not replied yet but I will leave it at that not interested in this back and forth with you.

I also questioned her like I will question you why do you seek validation from the same group of men who most likely in higher rates are racist to you?

I know part of the answer in terms of the white male being an example of western success and you being with one somehow means you are accepted by society in terms of standards of beauty but I struggle to understand the deeper reasons I can only put it down to some sort of mental issue.

No where have I stated that I have not seen negative threads on TSR about black women what you just did is an example of putting words in my mouth.

I will stop replying to you because as I said before you have reading comprehension problems and also I know you feed off this attention.

Nor did I start anything I replied to a poster and for some odd reason you thought she needs you defending her, she already replied to me you had no reason to write to me except maybe because you like this attention I assume.

Focus on the thread starters problem not yourself this is not a thread about black women's issues.

In honest opinion, I'm not here fishing for compliments or sympathy, this is a genuine problem that I'm having and some genuine advice would reassure me.
I'm a British born Chinese girl, 5'3 and I wouldn't say I was ugly but I'm definitely not pretty - just below average.
So having been living in the UK for all my life, I've always been a victim of racial bullying that was until I got into university. I think being called 'chinky' n all the **** has literally lowered my self esteem. And I've always felt ugly next to my friends whereby guys always choose them over me like being partners or such. i was always the one left with no partner until a friend's would feel sorry for me and be my partner. I've never really had a boyfriend, been asked out or even kissed. I've tried internet dating, but realistically, I findthey don't work out. I have penty of male friends but I always find myself friendzoned or they end up liking my friend's. I am a sociable person but its like guys never ask for my number or show any interest. I'm already 20 so I'm beginning to feel like there's something wrong with the way I look. I'm fashionable, don't wear tonns of makeup, play games, watch anime, smart. I'm currently studying a respectable degree, I drink n all that but I've literally got nothing and its making me feel like ill forever be alone.
There must be a reason why I'm getting no guys. I'm not desperate, its the fact that everyone around me can easily get someone...I've liked a few guys but they just don't return the feelings and I know it can't be forced.