He seems "perfect" in most areas but he's SO judgmental?

Met an older guy (in his 30s, I'm in my 20s) recently who obviously has a thing for me. He's attractive, gets on well with people, we have interests in common like stamp collecting etc. He's given out a lot of signs that he likes me and is always hugging me etc.

Something really worries me though, even more because he's an introvert tho he gets on well with people and is nice to their "faces". He can be really judgmental about people/things behind their backs. He's very smart (he did Architecture and then a Masters, won a scholarship etc) but will say things like "Oh, X (our friend) is really bad at this" or "I hated that restaurant, the food was awful" when it really was quite good. I've said to him I don't like it and he does seem to tone it down if reminded but he has a "judgy" personality even if he doesn't show it.

I am kind of worried that if we got together he would judge me like that TBH. I am not perfect but he seems to have fallen for me too fast (possibly because I take care of my appearance and I guess guys are into looks) but I want someone who is more laid back, advice?

Met an older guy (in his 30s, I'm in my 20s) recently who obviously has a thing for me. He's attractive, gets on well with people, we have interests in common like stamp collecting etc. He's given out a lot of signs that he likes me and is always hugging me etc.

Something really worries me though, even more because he's an introvert tho he gets on well with people and is nice to their "faces". He can be really judgmental about people/things behind their backs. He's very smart (he did Architecture and then a Masters, won a scholarship etc) but will say things like "Oh, X (our friend) is really bad at this" or "I hated that restaurant, the food was awful" when it really was quite good. I've said to him I don't like it and he does seem to tone it down if reminded but he has a "judgy" personality even if he doesn't show it.

I am kind of worried that if we got together he would judge me like that TBH. I am not perfect but he seems to have fallen for me too fast (possibly because I take care of my appearance and I guess guys are into looks) but I want someone who is more laid back, advice?

You have to decide whether or not it's a dealbreaker. That's just him and his personality, if someone has to change themselves for you then they're not right for you in the first place, simple as that really.

Drop him like a sack of s**t.

Met an older guy (in his 30s, I'm in my 20s) recently who obviously has a thing for me. He's attractive, gets on well with people, we have interests in common like stamp collecting etc. He's given out a lot of signs that he likes me and is always hugging me etc.

Something really worries me though, even more because he's an introvert tho he gets on well with people and is nice to their "faces". He can be really judgmental about people/things behind their backs. He's very smart (he did Architecture and then a Masters, won a scholarship etc) but will say things like "Oh, X (our friend) is really bad at this" or "I hated that restaurant, the food was awful" when it really was quite good. I've said to him I don't like it and he does seem to tone it down if reminded but he has a "judgy" personality even if he doesn't show it.

I am kind of worried that if we got together he would judge me like that TBH. I am not perfect but he seems to have fallen for me too fast (possibly because I take care of my appearance and I guess guys are into looks) but I want someone who is more laid back, advice?

Lol this.

Yeah that and the age difference has me wondering if he's just nice to me because he finds me attractive lol. It's about 15 years, usually I wouldn't even consider it apart from the fact we "click."

He does seem to get on with others outwardly but if I heard him saying the same things about me he says about others behind their backs I would be a little offended yes.

I know so many older people who've divorced their (ex) husbands because they thought they were smart and it turned out they were emotionally shallow *******s - just a thought.

He's into stamp collecting good luck finding another guy who is.

You never know until you try

I don't want to be his toygirl Mr Knight, what would you do though

I'd see how it goes, nobody is perfect, but only you can decide whether it's too much to live with. I probably wouldn't be able to deal with that because I'm very open-minded and don't like judgy people.

It's Ser, thank you.

And I'd give it a go, as I said before.

So just date him w/o sleeping?

Also have you challenged the Mountain?

No, since he doesn't exist. I'm actually a medieval reenactor in the Knights of Royal England group, but that's a story for another time.

Just date him for now, and take it slow. Don't just jump into sex. Gauge out his character first, to see his virtues and flaws.

Would you go out with him if he asked? I felt like he was going to do that the other day but then some other people said hi and it stopped the "moment".

I guess everyone has their faults, some of the "open minded" guys I've known I wouldn't get on with either because their open mindedness led them to do things like drink too heavily. Does he sound too judgy to you though?