Should I feel ashamed I dont want to live in Uni halls and will commute ?

I tried freshers week and am doing a medical degree.

I don't think i will be able to cope there ; my flatmates are all quite loud girls who like to party. There is only one guy i get along with.

I am doing a medical degree and have the option to stay at home. Every night i have sat in my room unable to leave my room because i don't have the energy to socialise with my flatmates and i don't have the energy to put on a "formal" social act. What I'm saying is I am never truly comfortable in this building like i would be if i lived out with my close friends or family.

I cant see myself being able to concentrate here and study for 5 hours after a long day. When i am here, i cant wait to just sleep and for the day to end because i have nothing to look forward to staying in this accommodation.

IIt is also £175 a week to stay in this accommodation . its extortionate. I feel guilty everytime i think about how much my parents are paying.

The only problem is i feel like a "quitter" for going back home . I am not bothered about having the uni experience because i will be studying most of my time anyway. But i feel ashamed i couldn't adult and had to go back home.

I guess i could say though that having the option to come back home makes it a lot harder to accept the living conditions there.

Every morning i see beer bottles on the dinner table, i have to make small talk with my flatmate, this is all character building but am i a wimp for not wanting to stay here ? My mental health isn't doing well here.

Despite what people say; no it’s totally up to you it’s your university experience and money. You have plenty of opportunities to meet people if you make the effort to join societies and activities of interest.

I made myself stay in halls despite not getting on with flatmates and it causes me so much stress and anxiety. My home environment was bad tho so I stayed at uni but if you work well there then that’s good. It doesn’t have to be permanent; u could keep an open mind and think if first year goes well you might consider a flat share with friends you make for second year etc.

I just feel so much shame that i cant cope with it whereas other medical students can.

I tried freshers week and am doing a medical degree.

I don't think i will be able to cope there ; my flatmates are all quite loud girls who like to party. There is only one guy i get along with.

I am doing a medical degree and have the option to stay at home. Every night i have sat in my room unable to leave my room because i don't have the energy to socialise with my flatmates and i don't have the energy to put on a "formal" social act. What I'm saying is I am never truly comfortable in this building like i would be if i lived out with my close friends or family.

I cant see myself being able to concentrate here and study for 5 hours after a long day. When i am here, i cant wait to just sleep and for the day to end because i have nothing to look forward to staying in this accommodation.

IIt is also £175 a week to stay in this accommodation . its extortionate. I feel guilty everytime i think about how much my parents are paying.

The only problem is i feel like a "quitter" for going back home . I am not bothered about having the uni experience because i will be studying most of my time anyway. But i feel ashamed i couldn't adult and had to go back home.

I guess i could say though that having the option to come back home makes it a lot harder to accept the living conditions there.

Every morning i see beer bottles on the dinner table, i have to make small talk with my flatmate, this is all character building but am i a wimp for not wanting to stay here ? My mental health isn't doing well here.

I just feel so much shame that i cant cope with it whereas other medical students can.

I tried freshers week and am doing a medical degree.

I don't think i will be able to cope there ; my flatmates are all quite loud girls who like to party. There is only one guy i get along with.

I am doing a medical degree and have the option to stay at home. Every night i have sat in my room unable to leave my room because i don't have the energy to socialise with my flatmates and i don't have the energy to put on a "formal" social act. What I'm saying is I am never truly comfortable in this building like i would be if i lived out with my close friends or family.

I cant see myself being able to concentrate here and study for 5 hours after a long day. When i am here, i cant wait to just sleep and for the day to end because i have nothing to look forward to staying in this accommodation.

IIt is also £175 a week to stay in this accommodation . its extortionate. I feel guilty everytime i think about how much my parents are paying.

The only problem is i feel like a "quitter" for going back home . I am not bothered about having the uni experience because i will be studying most of my time anyway. But i feel ashamed i couldn't adult and had to go back home.

I guess i could say though that having the option to come back home makes it a lot harder to accept the living conditions there.

Every morning i see beer bottles on the dinner table, i have to make small talk with my flatmate, this is all character building but am i a wimp for not wanting to stay here ? My mental health isn't doing well here.

Have lectures actually started yet? Most people calm down when there is work to do. You can't just move home because you'll need to find a replacement tenant for your room. Why not try to transfer to a quieter hall first or look into a room swap.

It's far too early to give up.

You’re definitely not a wimp for wanting to go home. The party life style at uni definitely isn’t for everyone!

I’m doing nursing and I commute an hour and a quarter everyday because I want to live at home. It’s totally doable and I don’t feel like I miss out on anything!

Sorry you’re having such a tough time settling in, try and stick it out a little longer but if you really hate it it’s okay to go home!

Part of being an adult is doing what you want regardless of peer pressure.

I just feel so much shame that i cant cope with it whereas other medical students can.

I tried freshers week and am doing a medical degree.

I don't think i will be able to cope there ; my flatmates are all quite loud girls who like to party. There is only one guy i get along with.

I am doing a medical degree and have the option to stay at home. Every night i have sat in my room unable to leave my room because i don't have the energy to socialise with my flatmates and i don't have the energy to put on a "formal" social act. What I'm saying is I am never truly comfortable in this building like i would be if i lived out with my close friends or family.

I cant see myself being able to concentrate here and study for 5 hours after a long day. When i am here, i cant wait to just sleep and for the day to end because i have nothing to look forward to staying in this accommodation.

IIt is also £175 a week to stay in this accommodation . its extortionate. I feel guilty everytime i think about how much my parents are paying.

The only problem is i feel like a "quitter" for going back home . I am not bothered about having the uni experience because i will be studying most of my time anyway. But i feel ashamed i couldn't adult and had to go back home.

I guess i could say though that having the option to come back home makes it a lot harder to accept the living conditions there.

Every morning i see beer bottles on the dinner table, i have to make small talk with my flatmate, this is all character building but am i a wimp for not wanting to stay here ? My mental health isn't doing well here.

The only objective difference is that the uni life involves "adulting" - i can do adult things at home though.

You need to try to swap acommodation - you signed a contract and will be liable to pay for hall.

Okay I’m on a vet course and a huge part of the course is work life balance. Spending 5 hours a day on top of your workload is not doable. I can just about manage 2-3. If you did 5 hours that would be till 10 every night. If you can cope with that great but you’re course is so hard you need to be able to unwind. If I did more work I really really don’t think I could cope.

In terms of accomodation do what is best for you. Are you sure you can back out of your accomodation? Because I signed my contract it meant I couldn’t just not pay for it but it might be different for you

There’s no shame I know a lot of vet students (I’m a vet student) who don’t. You are on a difficult course. If there is any way to alleviate stress then you should

I have unique circumstances with family illness of a close relative.