Should I stay at home and commute to a London uni if I live in London?
ok i know theres probably 6 billion questions just like this but they give mixed answers and i need some type of way to alleviate my anxiety 😭
so basically im in year 13 and i live in zone 3 south london and i applied for all london unis: Queens Mary, Greenwich, SOAS, KCL and UCL (but the only ones i only rly care about are KCL and UCL) for many reasons (i dont have the money to move out and live in halls anywhere rly, my friends are all going london unis, my mum is against me moving out) and now im just unsure if i made the right choice or not 😭
The only thing that makes me feel this way is the fact that i fear that ill be missing out on the “university experience” if that makes sense? Like i have a feeling, maybe true maybe not true i dunno that bc im staying at home socially ill just be there like 🧍*♀️ like i wont do anything or have any stories to tell if that makes sense? Id just be there for studying, then out and im sorry but im not paying £27000 for just *that* come on now. And yes i know i can socialise as a commuter and join societies and still make friends and enjoy my time at uni and i 10000% plan on doing that but i dunno if thats enough if that makes sense?
Now dont get me wrong im not trying to live like a euphoria character or whatever, the only things i really would want is to like go to some parties (like maybe once a month or two), clubbing (like once every two weeks), try weed only once or twice ONLY and get a boyfriend (💋) and obviously make good friends. Like im not that ghetto i dont wanna hook up with randos and get stds or whatever that is such a ew thing to do like i dont even know u like that why would ur **** go anywhere near me? And im not about trying molly or drug pussywindX3000 cooked straight from the colombian rainforest im not like that but i do wanna be a lil scandulous 💋😝
BUUUTTTT at the same time the idea of living with a bunch of people and forced to do that for like 3 years makes me wanna rip my hair out and go insane because knowing me id be really social for a few hours then my social battery would deplete and id be really ****ed off and want to be alone and if its always noisy or some **** like that ik im gonna feel very uncomfortable and unhappy. And oh my god there is nothing i hate more than dirty dishes and just living dirty, it send shivers down my spine having to imagine living like that
You see, at home, it’s just me and my mum that lives there, and my mum comes home pretty late so most of the time its just me there, so its not like its a distracting or whatever environment. I still have the opportunity to like grow and gain independence you know cook for myself, clean for myself, do shopping by myself (i do a lot of this stuff already) Like sure maybe its not 100% but i still have the opportunity and i definitely will try to be self sustaining and independent. It’s essentially like one of them private studios with my roommate and that roommate being my mother. Also i get to save money and not go dirt broke and eat moldy bread as my daily meal so yippee 🙏
But im just worried about that one thing. OH and yes i am getting pretty tired of london but the parts im getting tired of are like camberwell or brixton or those kinda places and the unis are in central london aka one of my fav places on earth so its not necessarily the location thats bugging me i mean it kinda is but u get what i mean
So yeah, does anyone have any advice for me i would appreciate it 😭😭 and sorry for writing so much i have a tendency to yap
so basically im in year 13 and i live in zone 3 south london and i applied for all london unis: Queens Mary, Greenwich, SOAS, KCL and UCL (but the only ones i only rly care about are KCL and UCL) for many reasons (i dont have the money to move out and live in halls anywhere rly, my friends are all going london unis, my mum is against me moving out) and now im just unsure if i made the right choice or not 😭
The only thing that makes me feel this way is the fact that i fear that ill be missing out on the “university experience” if that makes sense? Like i have a feeling, maybe true maybe not true i dunno that bc im staying at home socially ill just be there like 🧍*♀️ like i wont do anything or have any stories to tell if that makes sense? Id just be there for studying, then out and im sorry but im not paying £27000 for just *that* come on now. And yes i know i can socialise as a commuter and join societies and still make friends and enjoy my time at uni and i 10000% plan on doing that but i dunno if thats enough if that makes sense?
Now dont get me wrong im not trying to live like a euphoria character or whatever, the only things i really would want is to like go to some parties (like maybe once a month or two), clubbing (like once every two weeks), try weed only once or twice ONLY and get a boyfriend (💋) and obviously make good friends. Like im not that ghetto i dont wanna hook up with randos and get stds or whatever that is such a ew thing to do like i dont even know u like that why would ur **** go anywhere near me? And im not about trying molly or drug pussywindX3000 cooked straight from the colombian rainforest im not like that but i do wanna be a lil scandulous 💋😝
BUUUTTTT at the same time the idea of living with a bunch of people and forced to do that for like 3 years makes me wanna rip my hair out and go insane because knowing me id be really social for a few hours then my social battery would deplete and id be really ****ed off and want to be alone and if its always noisy or some **** like that ik im gonna feel very uncomfortable and unhappy. And oh my god there is nothing i hate more than dirty dishes and just living dirty, it send shivers down my spine having to imagine living like that
You see, at home, it’s just me and my mum that lives there, and my mum comes home pretty late so most of the time its just me there, so its not like its a distracting or whatever environment. I still have the opportunity to like grow and gain independence you know cook for myself, clean for myself, do shopping by myself (i do a lot of this stuff already) Like sure maybe its not 100% but i still have the opportunity and i definitely will try to be self sustaining and independent. It’s essentially like one of them private studios with my roommate and that roommate being my mother. Also i get to save money and not go dirt broke and eat moldy bread as my daily meal so yippee 🙏
But im just worried about that one thing. OH and yes i am getting pretty tired of london but the parts im getting tired of are like camberwell or brixton or those kinda places and the unis are in central london aka one of my fav places on earth so its not necessarily the location thats bugging me i mean it kinda is but u get what i mean
So yeah, does anyone have any advice for me i would appreciate it 😭😭 and sorry for writing so much i have a tendency to yap
honestly i’m usually an advocate for leaving home but based on what i’ve read it seems kind of a win win situation to live at home. you live in zone 3 so not hard to get to central london at all. if your mum is late and most of the time you’re undisturbed that sounds like a pretty good setup and it seems like you have some independence already. also im applying to ucl too (however may end up not going bc london cost of living is so bad) and the expenses are crazy so in these times it’s a great reason - if you feel justified living at home then go for it! as for your concerns i’m in the same boat as you (y13) so hopefully i’m not giving awful advice but just make sure mentally youre prepared to make the effort in uni and you won’t be left out. join societies, go to socials, go out, meet people. your home is just where you sleep but uni is what YOU make it so enjoy it even from home. good luck xxx
Hi,
I completely agree with @hiabsotd reply. By the sounds of it living at home during University is the right way to go! As mentioned home is just where you sleep or just relax and maybe study. You can still live the university life from home nothings stopping you from going to the societies, to socials, and meeting people and partying (Of course remembering to be safe). The only difference is after all this instead of going to student accommodation you'll be going to your own home, that's all. I truly believe you won't be missing out. Of course, as already been stated, just make sure you concentrate on your studies and put the effort in there and the University life will follow not matter if you live at home or at the university.
Hope this helps,
Katie (Film graduate)
University of Wolverhampton
I completely agree with @hiabsotd reply. By the sounds of it living at home during University is the right way to go! As mentioned home is just where you sleep or just relax and maybe study. You can still live the university life from home nothings stopping you from going to the societies, to socials, and meeting people and partying (Of course remembering to be safe). The only difference is after all this instead of going to student accommodation you'll be going to your own home, that's all. I truly believe you won't be missing out. Of course, as already been stated, just make sure you concentrate on your studies and put the effort in there and the University life will follow not matter if you live at home or at the university.
Hope this helps,
Katie (Film graduate)
University of Wolverhampton
I’m normally a big advocate of staying in halls but in this case it sounds like the fact is that you just plain can’t afford it. Your loan should cover it but I don’t know how much halls are in those areas .
Hi I also agree with what's said above already that staying at home would be the best option as living with your mum would mean you save soo much money and as she comes home late you still have the chance to go to parties etc when you wanted and you get to enjoy your mum's company instead of being in halls which can sometimes get lonely and very dirty with a shared kitchen haha. Being in london also means you're super close to uni so you won't be missing out too much!
(edited 2 months ago)
Original post by migueloharasbae
ok i know theres probably 6 billion questions just like this but they give mixed answers and i need some type of way to alleviate my anxiety 😭
so basically im in year 13 and i live in zone 3 south london and i applied for all london unis: Queens Mary, Greenwich, SOAS, KCL and UCL (but the only ones i only rly care about are KCL and UCL) for many reasons (i dont have the money to move out and live in halls anywhere rly, my friends are all going london unis, my mum is against me moving out) and now im just unsure if i made the right choice or not 😭
The only thing that makes me feel this way is the fact that i fear that ill be missing out on the “university experience” if that makes sense? Like i have a feeling, maybe true maybe not true i dunno that bc im staying at home socially ill just be there like 🧍*♀️ like i wont do anything or have any stories to tell if that makes sense? Id just be there for studying, then out and im sorry but im not paying £27000 for just *that* come on now. And yes i know i can socialise as a commuter and join societies and still make friends and enjoy my time at uni and i 10000% plan on doing that but i dunno if thats enough if that makes sense?
Now dont get me wrong im not trying to live like a euphoria character or whatever, the only things i really would want is to like go to some parties (like maybe once a month or two), clubbing (like once every two weeks), try weed only once or twice ONLY and get a boyfriend (💋) and obviously make good friends. Like im not that ghetto i dont wanna hook up with randos and get stds or whatever that is such a ew thing to do like i dont even know u like that why would ur **** go anywhere near me? And im not about trying molly or drug pussywindX3000 cooked straight from the colombian rainforest im not like that but i do wanna be a lil scandulous 💋😝
BUUUTTTT at the same time the idea of living with a bunch of people and forced to do that for like 3 years makes me wanna rip my hair out and go insane because knowing me id be really social for a few hours then my social battery would deplete and id be really ****ed off and want to be alone and if its always noisy or some **** like that ik im gonna feel very uncomfortable and unhappy. And oh my god there is nothing i hate more than dirty dishes and just living dirty, it send shivers down my spine having to imagine living like that
You see, at home, it’s just me and my mum that lives there, and my mum comes home pretty late so most of the time its just me there, so its not like its a distracting or whatever environment. I still have the opportunity to like grow and gain independence you know cook for myself, clean for myself, do shopping by myself (i do a lot of this stuff already) Like sure maybe its not 100% but i still have the opportunity and i definitely will try to be self sustaining and independent. It’s essentially like one of them private studios with my roommate and that roommate being my mother. Also i get to save money and not go dirt broke and eat moldy bread as my daily meal so yippee 🙏
But im just worried about that one thing. OH and yes i am getting pretty tired of london but the parts im getting tired of are like camberwell or brixton or those kinda places and the unis are in central london aka one of my fav places on earth so its not necessarily the location thats bugging me i mean it kinda is but u get what i mean
So yeah, does anyone have any advice for me i would appreciate it 😭😭 and sorry for writing so much i have a tendency to yap
so basically im in year 13 and i live in zone 3 south london and i applied for all london unis: Queens Mary, Greenwich, SOAS, KCL and UCL (but the only ones i only rly care about are KCL and UCL) for many reasons (i dont have the money to move out and live in halls anywhere rly, my friends are all going london unis, my mum is against me moving out) and now im just unsure if i made the right choice or not 😭
The only thing that makes me feel this way is the fact that i fear that ill be missing out on the “university experience” if that makes sense? Like i have a feeling, maybe true maybe not true i dunno that bc im staying at home socially ill just be there like 🧍*♀️ like i wont do anything or have any stories to tell if that makes sense? Id just be there for studying, then out and im sorry but im not paying £27000 for just *that* come on now. And yes i know i can socialise as a commuter and join societies and still make friends and enjoy my time at uni and i 10000% plan on doing that but i dunno if thats enough if that makes sense?
Now dont get me wrong im not trying to live like a euphoria character or whatever, the only things i really would want is to like go to some parties (like maybe once a month or two), clubbing (like once every two weeks), try weed only once or twice ONLY and get a boyfriend (💋) and obviously make good friends. Like im not that ghetto i dont wanna hook up with randos and get stds or whatever that is such a ew thing to do like i dont even know u like that why would ur **** go anywhere near me? And im not about trying molly or drug pussywindX3000 cooked straight from the colombian rainforest im not like that but i do wanna be a lil scandulous 💋😝
BUUUTTTT at the same time the idea of living with a bunch of people and forced to do that for like 3 years makes me wanna rip my hair out and go insane because knowing me id be really social for a few hours then my social battery would deplete and id be really ****ed off and want to be alone and if its always noisy or some **** like that ik im gonna feel very uncomfortable and unhappy. And oh my god there is nothing i hate more than dirty dishes and just living dirty, it send shivers down my spine having to imagine living like that
You see, at home, it’s just me and my mum that lives there, and my mum comes home pretty late so most of the time its just me there, so its not like its a distracting or whatever environment. I still have the opportunity to like grow and gain independence you know cook for myself, clean for myself, do shopping by myself (i do a lot of this stuff already) Like sure maybe its not 100% but i still have the opportunity and i definitely will try to be self sustaining and independent. It’s essentially like one of them private studios with my roommate and that roommate being my mother. Also i get to save money and not go dirt broke and eat moldy bread as my daily meal so yippee 🙏
But im just worried about that one thing. OH and yes i am getting pretty tired of london but the parts im getting tired of are like camberwell or brixton or those kinda places and the unis are in central london aka one of my fav places on earth so its not necessarily the location thats bugging me i mean it kinda is but u get what i mean
So yeah, does anyone have any advice for me i would appreciate it 😭😭 and sorry for writing so much i have a tendency to yap
Hi!
I lived at home at uni and commuted and I would agree with what the other replies have suggested - living at home seems like a win win. I didn't miss out on anything apart from the obvious living in halls but I was still able to be independent like how you are currently at home! I made lots of friends, went to lots of parties and didn't feel like I missed out on the social side. I am excited for you!
Honestly, just make the most out of your uni experience and enjoy it! There will be other people who are also in the same boat as well - you'll meet so many new people
Good luck,
T
Hey @migueloharasbae!
Have to agree with all the other replies here - if you live nearby all your university choices, and you still feel fairly independent living with your mum, it makes much more sense to stay at home. You'll likely have a better university experience than if you lived in halls and were struggling financially (as you'll not have to worry about working part-time constantly to afford basic accommondation) and you won't have to worry about potentially not getting along with/adapting to the living habits of your flatmates.
Everything you want to do socially is completely feasible whilst still living at home - it seems like a bit of a no-brainer to save yourself both the money and hassle of moving out for uni!
Eve (Kingston Rep).
Have to agree with all the other replies here - if you live nearby all your university choices, and you still feel fairly independent living with your mum, it makes much more sense to stay at home. You'll likely have a better university experience than if you lived in halls and were struggling financially (as you'll not have to worry about working part-time constantly to afford basic accommondation) and you won't have to worry about potentially not getting along with/adapting to the living habits of your flatmates.
Everything you want to do socially is completely feasible whilst still living at home - it seems like a bit of a no-brainer to save yourself both the money and hassle of moving out for uni!
Eve (Kingston Rep).
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