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    (Original post by annarchy.)
    I don't think it's fair judging her on her past behaviour. You have no proof that she will do the same again. Just give it a shot because after all you're in a relationship with a person and not their past.

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    Urgh. People who say the past doesnt matter irritate me.

    The past matters. It shows what type of person she is. It's completely fair judging someone on their actions.

    And 5 days before she told me she liked me she was sending pics. I hardly call that a past.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Urgh. People who say the past doesnt matter irritate me.

    The past matters. It shows what type of person she is. It's completely fair judging someone on their actions.

    And 5 days before she told me she liked me she was sending pics. I hardly call that a past.
    She was single and wasn't in a committed relationship, she can do whatever she wants fgs.
    I do agree that sending pics to her friend was iffy though so try and find out why before you make a decision.

    But if you're getting so picky over other irrelevant things then I think she's got a lucky escape tbh.

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    (Original post by annarchy.)
    She was single and wasn't in a committed relationship, she can do whatever she wants fgs.
    I do agree that sending pics to her friend was iffy though so try and find out why before you make a decision.

    But if you're getting so picky over other irrelevant things then I think she's got a lucky escape tbh.

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    Lucky her then.

    How can I break up?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    How is sending pics not a big deal...?

    You're basically showing someone your naked self. If it wasnt a big deal we'd walk around naked.
    Lol
    Its a bigdeal..
    But if that was done before you started dating, then its best to let it go
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    (Original post by fideo94)
    Lol
    Its a bigdeal..
    But if that was done before you started dating, then its best to let it go
    I did. I knew she'd sent pics, and it did bother me. But I dealt with it and stayed.

    Its more the situation and how young she was.

    AND Im friends with the guys who she sent pics to!!! x(
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    I think you should break up with her. She deserves to be treated with some respect. She is allowed to sleep with, kiss, send pictures to, do whatever with whoever she wants to. If she's not doing it while she's with you then you have no right to be angry about it. The only possible issue is cheating and to be honest a lot of young girls cheat because they don't know how to be in a relationship and aren't serious about their partners, it's not necessarily a reflection on what she'll do to you.

    I'd meet up with her and say something along the lines of 'I'm incapable of dealing with the fact my girlfriend had a sex life before me and therefore this isn't going to work, it's not you, it really is me'
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    She deserves someone better than you
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Enuf detayls


    Tell me how to break up and get her out of my heart and head.
    Take her for a nice coffee and explain to her that you're a shallow and judgmental little boy who's not willing to be an adult about her past so you're going to have to break it off because she deserves better.
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    (Original post by doodle_333)
    I think you should break up with her. She deserves to be treated with some respect. She is allowed to sleep with, kiss, send pictures to, do whatever with whoever she wants to. If she's not doing it while she's with you then you have no right to be angry about it. The only possible issue is cheating and to be honest a lot of young girls cheat because they don't know how to be in a relationship and aren't serious about their partners, it's not necessarily a reflection on what she'll do to you.

    I'd meet up with her and say something along the lines of 'I'm incapable of dealing with the fact my girlfriend had a sex life before me and therefore this isn't going to work, it's not you, it really is me'
    That's not the point. Of course she can do what she likes. But I do have a right to an opinion. And I'm of the opinion that what she's done is wrong, immoral, slutty, etc...

    I don't feel I can be with a girl who is like that. So I want to break up with her. That's not bad.


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    She deserves someone better than you
    Wow okay...

    How does this make make me a bad person exactly?
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    (Original post by xOHarriet)
    Take her for a nice coffee and explain to her that you're a shallow and judgmental little boy who's not willing to be an adult about her past so you're going to have to break it off because she deserves better.
    Right thanks. Very helpful.

    So you dont judge people based on their actions do you?

    I have been an adult for 5 months. But I wont tolerate her lying to my face and humiliating me like that.
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    I'm not saying you're unlucky. But if you fell into a barrel full of tits you'd come up sucking your own thumb.
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    (Original post by David Brent.)
    I'm not saying you're unlucky. But if you fell into a barrel full of tits you'd come up sucking your own thumb.
    ...?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    ...?
    Some days you have to accept that you are the pigeon and other days you are the statue...

    s'ya later...
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    (Original post by annarchy.)
    I don't think it's fair judging her on her past behaviour. You have no proof that she will do the same again. Just give it a shot because after all you're in a relationship with a person and not their past.

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    I think the better question is, "Is OP's girlfriend's past behaviour of sexual deviance and cheating on her boyfriend a good indication of her nature and therefore what may occur in the future, and is OP comfortable with a) the to risk having such behaviour occurring and b) such behaviour affecting him?"
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    That's not the point. Of course she can do what she likes. But I do have a right to an opinion. And I'm of the opinion that what she's done is wrong, immoral, slutty, etc...

    I don't feel I can be with a girl who is like that. So I want to break up with her. That's not bad.




    Wow okay...

    How does this make make me a bad person exactly?
    Have you ever seen that John Green quote where he talks about sex as similar to cereal? Say you're now eating Cheerios. You can't go back and
    uneat the other cereals you've tried, but that doesn't mean you don't genuinely love eating Cheerios.
    I.e. she can't change her past. The fact that she wants to be with you means she won't be going around with other guys. So either respect her for wanting to be with you, or let her find someone who appreciates her for who she is
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    (Original post by georgiaswift)
    Have you ever seen that John Green quote where he talks about sex as similar to cereal? Say you're now eating Cheerios. You can't go back and
    uneat the other cereals you've tried, but that doesn't mean you don't genuinely love eating Cheerios.
    I.e. she can't change her past. The fact that she wants to be with you means she won't be going around with other guys. So either respect her for wanting to be with you, or let her find someone who appreciates her for who she is
    That's slightly irrelevant seeing as I'm not a Cheerio
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    (Original post by donutellme)
    That's slightly irrelevant seeing as I'm not a Cheerio
    It's a metaphor, please don't tell me you don't know what a metaphor is? I even summed up what the metaphor was sayig, although I noticed you conveniently ignored that part
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    That's not the point. Of course she can do what she likes. But I do have a right to an opinion. And I'm of the opinion that what she's done is wrong, immoral, slutty, etc...
    Your view is incredibly childish, given your age you're unlikely to ever be in a relationship with someone who hasn't got a sexual past, and if they have a sexual past by the sounds of it there will probably be something you disapprove of it. You're judging her moral character on something that has nothing to do with you and has no effect on you at all.
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    (Original post by doodle_333)
    Your view is incredibly childish, given your age you're unlikely to ever be in a relationship with someone who hasn't got a sexual past, and if they have a sexual past by the sounds of it there will probably be something you disapprove of it. You're judging her moral character on something that has nothing to do with you and has no effect on you at all.
    It isn't childish.

    I have no problem with her having a sexual past, except jealousy which is justified. My problem is the nature of it.
 
 
 
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