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    (Original post by WitnessMO)
    If they listen to rap music, like Little Wayne, think 50 cent is cool, compliment Beyoncy and Rihanna over Shakira, where their jeans baggy, speak like Snoop Dog, wanna touch your weave, hang around with black friends then you can be rest assured that they certainly like black girls.
    I see what you have done here. In other words if it quacks like a duck, it's a duck.
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    I certainly like black women, it's just coming across someone I find attractive and being in a situation of approachability rarely ever intersect given that dark skin is such a minority.

    You'd vastly help your cause if you were a bit more forthright yourselves ladies
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    I've never met a black girl I've been attracted to, otherwise I'd at least try asking them out
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    (Original post by WitnessMO)
    If they listen to rap music, like Little Wayne, think 50 cent is cool, compliment Beyoncy and Rihanna over Shakira, where their jeans baggy, speak like Snoop Dog, wanna touch your weave, hang around with black friends then you can be rest assured that they certainly like black girls.
    This is funny, cos my white boyfriend says I'm the first black friend he's ever had (before we started dating) :lol:. He's from an area where there's hardly any black people though, but he's still somehow grown a liking for them - not that I'm complaining . And he does seem to like many of the black female celebs above most white female celebs. I guess it all just comes down to personal preferences.
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    (Original post by thenewone61)
    I'm mixed and the only guy I've ever actually dated has been white. He's very attractive and is considered to be by the majority of my white friends. Don't generalise lol. I do understand where you're coming from though. There is a culture whereby some black women feel white is best and so they pursue even the ugliest white guys to achieve a relationship.
    You're mixed, to be fair.

    Mixed girls usually have white (single) mums, and tend go for white guys. Nothing new here.
    Mixed girls tend to have mass appeal too.

    I'd definitely agree that an average or below average white man can very often be seen with good looking non-white girls.
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    (Original post by thenewone61)
    My parents have been together for over 25 years. I didn't go for him because of his race. In fact, I'd been avoiding white guys all my life because of the culture clash issue. I do understand what you mean though. I'm really not anything special lol.
    Fair enough.
    Usually the fact that a person is mixed means that their parents are pretty open to interracial dating (provided they haven't been put off by their own experience).

    Where are your parents from?
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    (Original post by Eveiebaby)
    Plenty of Black women love white men. I do for a few reasons, but I have also been socialised to think that white men have all these horrendous stereotyped attitudes about black women or worse, I am scared of being fetishised for my ethnicity rather than who I am as a person.

    It's really irritating when some white guys try to predict my tastes in food and music. It's alarm bells and off I go if Hip Hop, RnB or anything to do with chicken is mentioned. Rude.
    very interesting response......

    the fetish thing...its often been said by asian as a result of asian fever.however a top psychologist denotes the point that it is deeper than that.white people are okay to people attracted to them because theyre white.asians and africans should feel likewise.

    haha regarding the second part id just laugh it off p
    everyone presumes the irish are alcoholics and ginger leprechauns and I never bat an eyelid.
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    (Original post by trustmeimlying1)
    very interesting response......

    the fetish thing...its often been said by asian as a result of asian fever.however a top psychologist denotes the point that it is deeper than that.white people are okay to people attracted to them because theyre white.asians and africans should feel likewise.

    haha regarding the second part id just laugh it off p
    everyone presumes the irish are alcoholics and ginger leprechauns and I never bat an eyelid.
    I think that because the stereotypes about black women are so negative, particularly the hip-hop stripper type "fantasy", the fetish itself becomes insulting as it forms an expectation and prejudice. Also - someone with a fetish would go after any black girl just by virtue of her ethnicity, not because she individually is a cool or attractive person to get to know.

    Black women fetishes are usually based on some really nasty attitudes about black women when in reality most black girls are pretty conservative and church going. I could go on forever about some of the white guys that approach me because they have some idea that black girls are all easy, loud, uneducated hoes that they see on hip hop videos that clap their asses and that.

    It's really insulting and degrading. I do not want to be associated and pursued because someone is projecting their ideas onto me. Skanky ideas.

    The Irish stereotype at least nowadays is in good taste and Jovial. I know the Irish suffered from discrimination in the past but it really isn't the same.
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    (Original post by WitnessMO)
    If they listen to rap music, like Little Wayne, think 50 cent is cool, compliment Beyoncy and Rihanna over Shakira, where their jeans baggy, speak like Snoop Dog, wanna touch your weave, hang around with black friends then you can be rest assured that they certainly like black girls.
    There is a difference between ghetto and black people. Thank you.
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    (Original post by Eveiebaby)
    I think that because the stereotypes about black women are so negative, particularly the hip-hop stripper type "fantasy", the fetish itself becomes insulting as it forms an expectation and prejudice. Also - someone with a fetish would go after any black girl just by virtue of her ethnicity, not because she individually is a cool or attractive person to get to know.

    Black women fetishes are usually based on some really nasty attitudes about black women when in reality most black girls are pretty reserved and church going. I could go on forever about some of the white guys that approach me because they have some idea that black girls are all easy, loud, uneducated hoes that they see on hip hop videos that clap their asses and that.

    It's really insulting and degrading. I do not want to be associated and pursued because someone is projecting their ideas onto me. Skanky ideas.
    haha woah we dont see eye to eye so this is hmm gonna be fun p
    i can have a long chat with yeh but you seem the cautious type so probably not.

    okay..is that the stereotype:? I wasnt aware...any black girls Ive met in general come across as more independent..fun...down to earth...

    hmm perhaps in the uk the fetishes are more like that..however personally I dont see it like that..fetishes can be juvenile and my point in ways that other races shouldnt be so quick to be scared of something like that.if a white guy gets the attention cos hes white..hes proud of it.many a time people dont have fetishes for porn scenes or something...but for the personality and traditions (albeit stereotype) attached to the race.

    think other races should be more proud of that.stereotypically black girls are more "fuller" bodies with more curves etc...
    personality traits and often culture traditions as well as just being something different attracts me. I dont think wee guys should see that as a bad thing but be thankful for it like us whites would do.yee guys should be like proud of your legacy.
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    (Original post by Huskaris)
    I find black girls absolutely stunning. Unfortunately I think that culture differences and (in a lot of cases) racial prejudices from the girls family means that I would probably never do anything about it. Not worth the hassle
    Well that's ridiculous. In England especially, most of us identify as British so there isn't too much prejudice from the family. My family for example, have no qualms with me dating white guys. In fact, my gran just married a white guy and her last husband was white. Anyway, back to the point I was making xD, you shouldn't let the prejudice of some parents stop you. Not every black family is like that, and trust me, they love it when a white person embraces the culture, it shows their open-mindedness!
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    (Original post by trustmeimlying1)
    haha woah we dont see eye to eye so this is hmm gonna be fun p
    i can have a long chat with yeh but you seem the cautious type so probably not.

    okay..is that the stereotype:? I wasnt aware...any black girls Ive met in general come across as more independent..fun...down to earth...

    hmm perhaps in the uk the fetishes are more like that..however personally I dont see it like that..fetishes can be juvenile and my point in ways that other races shouldnt be so quick to be scared of something like that.if a white guy gets the attention cos hes white..hes proud of it.many a time people dont have fetishes for porn scenes or something...but for the personality and traditions (albeit stereotype) attached to the race.

    think other races should be more proud of that.stereotypically black girls are more "fuller" bodies with more curves etc...
    personality traits and often culture traditions as well as just being something different attracts me. I dont think wee guys should see that as a bad thing but be thankful for it like us whites would do.yee guys should be like proud of your legacy.
    Seriously. My experience of being fetishized is not good which is why I described as such. There's nothing wrong with being attracted to curves, but actually having a fetish is removing the human aspect completely. Fetishes are attractions to objects - not people.
    being attracted in general to different races is not the same as holding stereotypical attitudes and prejudices and projecting them on to every attractive black female that you see.

    There isnt really one single black culture and everyone's traditions span back to the constituent countries that they they are from and are affected by how many generations they have been living in the west and class. It's simply unintelligent to project/predict people like that.
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    Just thought I'd share my experiences.

    I'm black and open to dating anyone of any colour. However the experiences I have with white guys that approach me are far too irritating.

    Recently a guy at work was saying some really dumb things, and I responded in annoyance. He then said "Don't worry, I hang around with black girls, I'm used to the attitude." If you don't understand why that statement is wrong and you are a white guy, you are the exact type I would not date.

    The colour of my skin does not determine how I respond to ignorance and stupidity. Instead of the guy to address the fact that he had made a mistake, he decided to flip it on me because I am black. He is the same person who made a disgusting remark to me, telling me that my nickname should be brown suga or some other stupid thing. And he tried to 'school' me once, and tell me that the correct way to refer to a black person is 'coloured'. This is the type of white guy I do not like. I am not a toy, I am not an accessory, I am not a political statement, but the majority of white guys see me as all these things, especially as my skin is dark.

    I never have this problem with Asian, Arabic or Oriental guys. Perhaps if white guys stopped coming out with the cringeworthy chicken and Love & Hip Hop references (Which I do not watch) then black girls would stop seeing them as the friend they go to for group work help.

    As another poster rightly said, do you know how big Africa is? Do you know how diverse the West Indies are? Its very short sighted to not not take the time to get to know that black girl specifically, and to instead make statements based on stereotypes and racial prejudices. I really am not here to educate my boyfriend on cultural relations.
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    (Original post by Eveiebaby)
    Seriously. My experience of being fetishized is not good which is why I described as such. There's nothing wrong with being attracted to curves, but actually having a fetish is removing the human aspect completely. Fetishes are attractions to objects - not people.
    being attracted in general to different races is not the same as holding stereotypical attitudes and prejudices and projecting them on to every attractive black female that you see.

    There isnt really one single black culture and everyone's traditions span back to the constituent countries that they they are from and are affected by how many generations they have been living in the west and class. It's simply unintelligent to project/predict people like that.
    yes ofc im aware of that...blacks come from a range of countries but its natural to hold stereotypes.You were never gonna give the weirdo hardcore fetish guy a chance anyways...

    im saying why not welcome the other type the good characteristics.the irish sometimes are seen as friendly and up for the craic.yes were also seen as the drunks of europe but we should prefer to accept the first stereotype.

    youre just so serious bout it...sure if these weirdos are after a hiphop striper than grand..but theres bound to be a few who just see the good characteristic stereotypes.yes..its removing the person for starters...but theyre talking to you..they like you...because of probably characteristics...they can get to know yeh later.just to make sure p
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    (Original post by brownbearxo)
    Just thought I'd share my experiences.

    I'm black and open to dating anyone of any colour. However the experiences I have with white guys that approach me are far too irritating.

    Recently a guy at work was saying some really dumb things, and I responded in annoyance. He then said "Don't worry, I hang around with black girls, I'm used to the attitude." If you don't understand why that statement is wrong and you are a white guy, you are the exact type I would not date.

    The colour of my skin does not determine how I respond to ignorance and stupidity. Instead of the guy to address the fact that he had made a mistake, he decided to flip it on me because I am black. He is the same person who made a disgusting remark to me, telling me that my nickname should be brown suga or some other stupid thing. And he tried to 'school' me once, and tell me that the correct way to refer to a black person is 'coloured'. This is the type of white guy I do not like. I am not a toy, I am not an accessory, I am not a political statement, but the majority of white guys see me as all these things, especially as my skin is dark.

    I never have this problem with Asian, Arabic or Oriental guys. Perhaps if white guys stopped coming out with the cringeworthy chicken and Love & Hip Hop references (Which I do not watch) then black girls would stop seeing them as the friend they go to for group work help.

    As another poster rightly said, do you know how big Africa is? Do you know how diverse the West Indies are? Its very short sighted to not not take the time to get to know that black girl specifically, and to instead make statements based on stereotypes and racial prejudices. I really am not here to educate my boyfriend on cultural relations.

    lol thats what you call creepy white guys and perhaps also some subconscious racism in that aswell.
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    (Original post by trustmeimlying1)
    yes ofc im aware of that...blacks come from a range of countries but its natural to hold stereotypes.You were never gonna give the weirdo hardcore fetish guy a chance anyways...

    im saying why not welcome the other type the good characteristics.the irish sometimes are seen as friendly and up for the craic.yes were also seen as the drunks of europe but we should prefer to accept the first stereotype.

    youre just so serious bout it...sure if these weirdos are after a hiphop striper than grand..but theres bound to be a few who just see the good characteristic stereotypes.yes..its removing the person for starters...but theyre talking to you..they like you...because of probably characteristics...they can get to know yeh later.just to make sure p
    What you are describing isn't a fetish though. To approach me as you suggest with a positive attitude is a preference rather than a fetish. It can get serious because unfortunately they are more common than you think, the guys who think certain negative things just because I'm black. It is not immediately obvious all the time, but it is extra work to find out what their attitudes are before "going there".

    You are very lucky you don't have to deal with such issues, I know I seem over serious to you but I guess the problem isn't as widespread as you imagines.
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    (Original post by Fruli)
    I know white guys generally aren't attracted to black girls but I wondered, Is there a certain type of white guy that appreciates black girls?
    This thread has been done a million times. And the answer is yes, there are white guys like that. They might be a minority with good taste, but they exist. I think personal chemistry occurs where it occurs, across any ethnic boundary.
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    (Original post by Danz123)
    The issue of approaching is linked in with that. How do those white guys know you like them if you don't go over and say hi and flirt? That's what guys do. Yes, we're expected to do it, but the girl a guy likes wouldn't know he was into her if he didn't make a move. So, instead of thinking there's a catch 22 situation where white guys avoid black girls because they falsely believe they aren't attractive to said girls, why not fix that by making it KNOWN that you're attracted?
    Fix what? This issue does not affect me! I am simply giving a reason why it happens. Telling black girls to approach white guys doesn't give an explanation as to why it happens. Are you just looking for an argument or something? You can equally tell white guys that they should approach more as well if you are looking for a solution to the problem.
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    (Original post by thechemistress)
    Well, now you have. Are you sure? I've met a lot of them xD
    Never. :lol: Only either first or second generation immigrants - and the same with guys too now I think about it.
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    (Original post by stargirl63)
    On average black girls tend to go for guys who would be accepted in their family as well. I know a few girls who wouldn't ever date a white guy because firstly he's white so "how would he know anything about anything we are interested in" and secondly their parents would probably laugh him out of their house. I know a Nigerian girl who dated a Vietnamese guy and she had to end it with him , because her parents didn't accept him - even though both were British.

    Also a lot of black girls have already been with a black guy before - so once you go black...etc etc. I'm mixed and I don't particularly find white guys attractive, although there have been a few exceptions - it's their general vibe they give off which deters me.

    I've also noticed that black guys are better at handling black girls. Black girls tend to be a lot more rowdy, and I know a lot of white guys who would easily back down, given a confrontation with the "single ladies" head movement ting. :rolleyes:
    This is a terrible case of black on black prejudice
 
 
 
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