Girlfirend wants me to work out and get abs?

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    (Original post by TurboCretin)
    I have never been skinny, but with starting gym and altering my diet I attained visible abs in six weeks.*
    without roids men tend to put on 2lbs of muscle a month MAX, [and that's if you're doing EVERYTHING right. perhaps if you are a beginner 3lbs

    in those 6 weeks you wont of put on more than 4lbs muscle naturally.

    im not too convinced that putting 4lbs of muscle is enough to show abs if you are not skinny.

    pics or i'm calling shenanigans
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    (Original post by ANM775)
    without roids men tend to put on 2lbs of muscle a month MAX, [and that's if you're doing EVERYTHING right. perhaps if you are a beginner 3lbs

    in those 6 weeks you wont of put on more than 4lbs muscle naturally.

    im not too convinced that putting 4lbs of muscle is enough to show abs if you are not skinny.

    pics or i'm calling shenanigans
    I could provide pics, but I'm not sure what it would prove - neither of us knows each other and this is the Internet.*

    Abs don't require much building to be discernable. They're predominantly the result of being toned and obtaining low body fat.*
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    Guys I have now started to work out more. It's for my own good as well as something good for her. Hopefully I will get abs, it will be after a long time but I'm determined to get fitter and look better. It's always worth looking good I guess. Thanks for the advice
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    (Original post by Applepiex3)
    Yes, I would if my partner told me.

    Apart from being respectful to one another, if one suggests to their partner how to improve themselves then it means that they both are very open to one another.

    You want a partner who is able to tell you what to improve about yourself and for you to do the same towards your partner. Rather than have a suffering relationship where both of you can't express how you truly feel about one another.
    If this is the case you're the only girl I've ever heard of that wouldn't breathe fire at the merest hint.
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    As others have said, working out is good just because it helps you stay healthy and in shape. But you should do it because you want to and not because your girls wants you to. You can suggest you could both start doing it together.

    But thing is, if you have no wish to work out then she should be fine with it. You don't want to be with someone who just cared about your body.
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    (Original post by Devify)
    As others have said, working out is good just because it helps you stay healthy and in shape. But you should do it because you want to and not because your girls wants you to. You can suggest you could both start doing it together.

    But thing is, if you have no wish to work out then she should be fine with it. You don't want to be with someone who just cared about your body.
    Yeah I am working out more now. It's not just because of her but because I want to improve and get fitter. I doubt she'd want to work out tbh, she already goes for a run every week and I don't really want to pressure her or anything.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Basically, me and my girlfriend have been going out for nearly a year and we started living together. I'm not a fat guy by any means- I'm of average build but I'm not that muscular. My girlfriend isn't muscular either but she is lean and has a good body (not biased)

    The thing is that when we watch movies and tv and there is some Channing Tatum/Brad Pitt/Ryan Gosling kind of guy with a great body and abs, she always points it out and says what a great body they have. She's never told me to work out and get ripped but it's kinda clear that she would probably prefer me to be more built in terms of my upper body.

    My question is: should I do it? Do girls actually find it a big turn on? Or is it just a small difference in terms of attraction? I am a tally considering going to the gym and putting some effort in to look better and get visible abs but it's a lot of work so I wanna know whether it's actually worth it? We're pretty serious now in terms of the relationship.
    Do it if it's something YOU want. If you're just doing it to please here, no. You be you
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    (Original post by TurboCretin)
    If this is the case you're the only girl I've ever heard of that wouldn't breathe fire at the merest hint.
    Hahahaha I hope I'm not the only one
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    She likes you or she wouldn't be with you. She hasn't actually said she wants you to change. Perhaps you should call her out on what she says in the moment at some point and she will probably reassure you.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yeah I am working out more now. It's not just because of her but because I want to improve and get fitter. I doubt she'd want to work out tbh, she already goes for a run every week and I don't really want to pressure her or anything.
    Good lad, go for it
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    (Original post by Trapz99)
    Good lad, go for it
    thanks for the support, I've been working out for a week and a bit now and it's been great. I'm feeling better and look better and hopefully I'll look great after a while.
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    I just looked back on this thread I made a few months ago. Happy to say that I'm half way there- I'm working out regularly and the abs are starting to come through. I've lost a lot of body fat and look a lot better. I'm really proud of what I've achieved so far, my GF is so happy and proud as well. I would encourage anyone to work out and get some exercise, it improves your happiness and confidence as well as your health.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I just looked back on this thread I made a few months ago. Happy to say that I'm half way there- I'm working out regularly and the abs are starting to come through. I've lost a lot of body fat and look a lot better. I'm really proud of what I've achieved so far, my GF is so happy and proud as well. I would encourage anyone to work out and get some exercise, it improves your happiness and confidence as well as your health.
    Nice to hear of this PROGRESS! Well done, I wish I could do this, very inspiring
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    Lol imagine the TSR outrage if a guy told his girlfriend to start going to the gym, so she could look like attractive women on TV.
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    (Original post by Chief Wiggum)
    Lol imagine the TSR outrage if a guy told his girlfriend to start going to the gym, so she could look like attractive women on TV.
    Tbh it's not the same thing, perhaps his girlfriend already looks fine
 
 
 
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