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    So since being at uni, a day hasn't gone by when i haven't seen lots of goodlooking girls! Problem is im very shy, and so find it hard to talk to girls who i like. So, how the hell am i supposed to go about talking to random girls! Where do i go? What do i say to someone who iv only just seen? There have been many times when i have caught eyes with girls...i just duno how to capitalise on that!
    Before people start saying go to a club and chat up girls...i dont do that, and dont want to do that. A lot of girls there will be sluts (not all) .... and you cant have a proper conversation in a club, you can just shout at each other and grind against each other :rolleyes:
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    Societies are the next best thing if you don't like talking to girls in clubs.
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    Approaching people randomly in the street in the UK is going to be difficult. We have a weird socialising culture which forbids you making chat with people you don't know...unless you're drinking. I know, weird right?

    That aside. Societies/events where you can talk about a shared interest is good. Also meet friends of friends and get chatting!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Before people start saying go to a club and chat up girls...i dont do that, and dont want to do that. A lot of girls there will be sluts (not all)
    Wow, I'd suggest you first get a healthier pov on women. What makes you think this? That's a pretty disgusting way of thinking about people who're doing what a huge majority are doing at that age. (these 'sluts' are the same girls you're ogling at at uni)
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    You just be yourself, find something to say... interests? Hobbies? Find something you have in common with them and become friends and once you get to know each other you will be able to talk alot more freely than you would to a stranger
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    (Original post by fist)
    Wow, I'd suggest you first get a healthier pov on women. What makes you think this? That's a pretty disgusting way of thinking about people who're doing what a huge majority are doing at that age. (these 'sluts' are the same girls you're ogling at at uni)
    Why is it disgusting to think that way? Its the truth...you just said it yourself...just because its what the majority of what people do doesn't stop someone being a slut. Its irrelevant anyway as i dont go for girls like that...
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    (Original post by Kaya:))
    You just be yourself, find something to say... interests? Hobbies? Find something you have in common with them and become friends and once you get to know each other you will be able to talk alot more freely than you would to a stranger
    Where thooooo lol do i just walk up to them? I mean the girls im talking about, i see sitting down at lunch, or on a break, or walking past them to go lectures....
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    talk about stereotyping! Most poeple at Uni go clubbing and this DOES NOT make them 'sluts' it means they like loud music and having a good time! Chill out mate!
    Secondly first place to start would be if you have any mutual friends? or become friends without appearing like a stalker. If you see someone in the library sit near them, try and make a conversation. Wouldn't recommend you just go upto a random girl and start blabbering as its plain wierd
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    Ask them what their favourite colour is.

    When they answer, as long as they don't say purple reply with "ah right mines is purple."

    Say nothing else.

    If she doesn't say anything then what's the harm and if she makes a conversation from that she's probably going to like you.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Where thooooo lol do i just walk up to them? I mean the girls im talking about, i see sitting down at lunch, or on a break, or walking past them to go lectures....
    Does it really make a difference where you talk to them? or what you talk to them about? Just talk to them whenever theyy are free
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Why is it disgusting to think that way? Its the truth...you just said it yourself...just because its what the majority of what people do doesn't stop someone being a slut. Its irrelevant anyway as i dont go for girls like that...
    It's disgusting because you're labelling girls having fun on a night out as 'sluts' for some reason. What is it about these girls that make you think they're sluts? And yes, this is relevant as you're going to have to get over your misogyny if you want to be able to be social and have meaningful relationships with them. Chances are you'll end up being asked to go out with them one night.
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    Library and campus cafe's are a godsend. You can just talk to random people. Then wait until you have some ONS's and then awkwardly see them again on campus...
 
 
 
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