My boyfriend avoids sexual contact, it upsets me but I can't break up with him...

Is he a believer in no sex before marriage?

Use your charms on him

Low sex drive or secretly gay.

Yes, how do I help him not be self conscious about it?

could be something medical. ie medication?

Lol, only charms I have are my Lucky Charms.

He's going to be tested for testosterone but he's also supposed to be on anti anxiety meds, could it make that much difference?

Do you know if he felt the same in his previous relationship(s)?

Maybe, he's stressed or exhausted from work or something.

Seduce him, you know what I'm getting at. What's his favourite fantasy? Find out, if he likes the idea of maids - get an outfit from Anne Summers. Be inventive! Also watch Game of Thrones, plenty of good tips in there xD

Thought that might be it. It depends how small it is. Does he give you pleasure? I assume so if you say you want to have sex with him, so make sure he knows it. Not in a 'OMG baby your d***k is so huge, you rock my world' kind of way. But perhaps moaning if you aren't already, without making it too superficial and pornstarish.

Most men want sex. A lot. It's natural and normal. He might be one of the few who don't, but it's more likely that he's avoiding it because he's embarrassed and doesn't think he's good at it.

Although there's a fascination with penis size, men really care about whether they're good at sex or not. Most men would rather be very good at sex and have an average penis than be average at sex and have a colossal penis.

Buy a vibrator?

Wait he's on anti-anxiety medication? Stuff like that like anti-depressants can completely destroy your libido, he could try a different type of medication.

It's not the same, I like the whole act of sex and getting him off as much as myself.

He's not on them but he's meant to be, ie he does have anxiety problems.

Tried it a bit but I'm not attractive so it's not really the kind of thing that would work.

Well surely his anxiety problems could include performance anxiety over having sex, even if he has nothing to base this on, an anxiety disorder is not logical after all. Have you asked whether or not his anxiety issues include sexual matters? Sensitive subject obviously.