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I am 21 and still a virgin, I think it is my body

I have gained about 1 stone over the past month as I have been depressed over my appearance. The problem is my body and how horrible it looks. I have no energy and find it very hard to exercise. My arms and hand make me very insecure because they are different to most people. So this is the first time I have worn a shirt in years. If I am out wearing a T-shirt, I find other people looking and judging so I go to public toilets as I am very stressed. My BMI is around 27 ish for my stats. Last time I weighed myself I was 6 feet 1 and around 14.5 stone thereabouts. I feel like I am an old man already. I am 21 and I feel like my body is so old and worn out. I fee like my arms are too big when I walk and I can feel people's eyes burn into them as though they are expanding as I walk. Please tell me I am not deluded.

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Reply 1

Hjoi

anyone please tell me there is a problem

Reply 2

Eelam5

Original post by Hjoi

anyone please tell me there is a problem

Na your fine

u made it sound like you were the big show :biggrin:

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Reply 3

Wardaa_

Where is the problem ? Their is no problem... Your completely fine

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Reply 4

Hjoi

Original post by Eelam5

Na your fine

u made it sound like you were the big show :biggrin:

What? Don't you see how horrible my arms are. I have seen arms like mine on a deformed person and I cannot wear t shirts because of them. If I cannot wear a t shirt then obviously there is a problem and people laugh and point at me.

Reply 5

Katie.R.S.

You are completely fine, in the pictures you look like you are a perfectly normal weight, no problems with your body :smile:

Reply 6

Hjoi

Original post by Eelam5

Na your fine

u made it sound like you were the big show :biggrin:

but look at this guy. He has different arms to me and for some reason girls like them. Why is this?

http://thumbs.dreamstime.com/z/male-body-13441812.jpg

Reply 7

Eelam5

Original post by Hjoi

but look at this guy. He has different arms to me and for some reason girls like them. Why is this?

http://thumbs.dreamstime.com/z/male-body-13441812.jpg

lol your fine.

Reply 8

émiliemilia

I think you're just feeling a little insecure, everything looks fine and well proportioned so no need to worry

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Reply 9

Hjoi

Original post by Eelam5

lol your fine.

clearly not as I am a virgin and my arms are fat

Reply 10

LostGear

look there is nothing wrong with you!

what you see we cant see

Reply 11

Hjoi

Original post by émiliemilia

I think you're just feeling a little insecure, everything looks fine and well proportioned so no need to worry

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Nope. This is why I wear a hoody or jacket so no one can see my arms.

Reply 12

Silver Arrows

Give it a year, see what it's like when you're 22.

Reply 13

M1011

Are you in Birmingham? Could swear I recognise that accommodation, although I suspect it may just be generic.

Reply 14

Hjoi

Original post by M1011

Are you in Birmingham? Could swear I recognise that accommodation, although I suspect it may just be generic.

It is generic student accommodation. I am in New York

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Reply 15

MidnightDream

Come of it you're fine :smile:

Reply 16

Eelam5

Original post by Hjoi

clearly not as I am a virgin and my arms are fat

Being a virgin is a good thing,I'm 18 and never kissed or had any sexual contact with girls because I'm religious.I'm the happiest man in the world.

Reply 17

Hjoi

Original post by Eelam5

Being a virgin is a good thing,I'm 18 and never kissed or had any sexual contact with girls because I'm religious.I'm the happiest man in the world.

But my appearance, mainly my body, makes me look like an old man and I am very fat and hideous. A lot of girls seem to like muscle but I have only fat to offer them. I don't think I am capable of muscle as I am very unfit and lazy