Oh sorry
i had absolutely no idea. I guess like you say it's good in the way that you don't spend your time missing him lots, cos if you were really close i can imagine how hard it would be. And like you say with him & your mum still together, it probably does make it easier for you both to still keep a decent relationship with him, rather than him always being there and you both falling out with him in a really awkward way, cos that'd be worse. Going to uni must have worked out for the best anyway though, all your new friends, Simon especially
trips to Abisko. All stuff you'd never get chance to have done so soon if you hadn't, so i guess you have him to thank for that
I used to have big fights with my dad too because i was immature and he would always argue back so it would escalate loads cos he always wanted the last word etc
At one point my mum seriously thought they would have to split up because she thought it was tearing the family apart cos he'd get quite nasty with me, and she couldn't see how things would work as a "family" if we both carried on the way we were with each other. But that's a long story and it all sorted itself out. I blame myself for it mainly though, and it stopped pretty quickly when i saw how much it was wearing my mum out with it all and how upset she was that her husband and daughter couldn't even get along at one stage! I don't even think FiL knows all the details about that
But yeah, odd story and it's all in the past fortunately and we've somehow become quite close, but we had a scary amount of hate for each other at one point :s We still have petty arguments, but since being at uni and spending time apart we've totally changed with each other and actually show each other some kind of respect
It's true that you don't realise what you have until it's not there, and i guess being apart shows you that you do care really.
Anyway! It's very odd how you have no idea about other people at uni. Like you say, your school friends know pretty much everything about you, but we barely know anything beyond the surface! I guess we have plenty of time to find out random things though