Basically I'm in a very emotional place right now...
I get insecure and envious of people. I always put myself down and compare and contrast. I don't find myself attractive, handsome or in any way a 'catch' I wonder often why I have a girlfriend. I always dwell on the past....on failures, on the things I've done wrong and also on my rivals achievements.
I have had a long history of depression and anxiety so this isn't all new to me, but I'm just so fed up and sick and tired of my life. To the point where I feel I'd rather just curl up and die.
I am finding it hard to break out of this cycle of putting myself down, trusting people (especially in relationships). My girlfriend is everything I'm not she is confident, outgoing, bubbly, and had many friends. She is a socialite and has connections all over. She is very chatty and goes out a lot. She studies a drama based subject at university, and so is naturally bubbly and loves meeting new people. She is dynamic, can adapt to change well...is so relaxed and care-free, and is very flirty and expressive.
I am the opposite, I'm socially awkward, anxious, depressed/dark, sad and generally stuck in a rut.
I often get annoyed because whenever I text my girlfriend she takes ages to respond, although I know she is busy with her job, as she has told me, but she takes considerably longer than me.
Because of this I often feel annoyed and unhappy, like she doesn't care. I often get irritated because she doesn't take the same amount of time to reply to me. Of course this sounds possessive and nasty but I just feel like I'm here thinking of her 24/7 waiting by my phone (like a sad person) texting her immediately. Yet she has friends goes out and about and has mates to see and is much happier as a person, and replies when she wants., usually a while later. I think maybe I invest a lot more into the relationship than she does out of my own insecurity. I feel pathetic and sad and so low.
Can anybody relate to my low self esteem or offer advice?