Sorry for continuing on my original thread but there were a lot of rude people/trolls, and it got deleted. Maybe this thread can be friendlier?
Basically, me and my best guy friend are 18, I'm openly gay and he's straight (so he says). We got really drunk on Tuesday night and had sex. He initiated it and although he was very drunk, he could still get it up.
Since then he has acted completely normal, so I suspected he might not remember, or maybe he's just fine since we're good friends.
But this afternoon he texted me telling me that someone told him about it, and he doesn't remember. He claims he remembers passing out in the bed (which he never did, apart from going to sleep after we had sex), and that if anything I've said is true then I raped him. He said if he was so drunk that he wasn't unconscious but was doing it, then that was still rape. And he said the only other alternative is that I'm making this up, in which case he still has no respect for me.
Basically, he has told me that we are no longer friends and that I shouldn't ever talk to him again. I've talked to my bff and she thinks he just regrets sleeping with me because he will be known as having unprotected sex with a gay guy, which may put girls off him (he has a big reputation as a bit of a player) since us gays aren't exactly known for being clean and STD-free.
To make matters worse, it turns out that he has got back together with his ex, so I've had her yelling at me the whole afternoon for sleeping with her boyfriend (because obviously he can't take the blame for cheating, right). She was a good friend but I fear I've lost her too.
Essentially I've really screwed up my friendship with my best friend and he says he believes I am either a liar or a rapist, and I have no idea what to do. Any advice is welcome