Which is more realistic going college or forgetting dreams and paid cleaning job?

I mean there's a lot of options inbetween those two anyway, but pursuing a qualification and getting relevant work experience by doing volunteering isn't unrealistic. I mean it's actually a very practical thing to do, even if you may not necessarily achieve the end goal, as it will give you experience to get other jobs with better development opportunities than a cleaning job might (as opportunities to advance are somewhat limited there outside of starting your own business). Plus you may well achieve the end goal anyway.

In any case, it's literally, biologically impossible that you were the cause of your grandmother being in a care home with dementia. Your mother sounds like a rather cruel and unusual person based on the information provided

I mean there's a lot of options inbetween those two anyway, but pursuing a qualification and getting relevant work experience by doing volunteering isn't unrealistic. I mean it's actually a very practical thing to do, even if you may not necessarily achieve the end goal, as it will give you experience to get other jobs with better development opportunities than a cleaning job might (as opportunities to advance are somewhat limited there outside of starting your own business). Plus you may well achieve the end goal anyway.

In any case, it's literally, biologically impossible that you were the cause of your grandmother being in a care home with dementia. Your mother sounds like a rather cruel and unusual person based on the information provided.

I mean there's a lot of options inbetween those two anyway, but pursuing a qualification and getting relevant work experience by doing volunteering isn't unrealistic. I mean it's actually a very practical thing to do, even if you may not necessarily achieve the end goal, as it will give you experience to get other jobs with better development opportunities than a cleaning job might (as opportunities to advance are somewhat limited there outside of starting your own business). Plus you may well achieve the end goal anyway.

In any case, it's literally, biologically impossible that you were the cause of your grandmother being in a care home with dementia. Your mother sounds like a rather cruel and unusual person based on the information provided.

Are you looking for people on here to tell you to get a paid job?

No I'm asking the truth of which is more realistic and which ones a fantasy it's not a difficult question

both are realistic

In terms of increased cost of living tho I'd imagine a paid cleaning job is more realistic than an unpaid college course and unpaid volunteer work

go to college. im sorry those things happened to you. people attend college at all ages, and my friend is close friends with a 29 year old, so 34 really isnt old. i hope you succeed

There's nothing stopping you looking for and taking a paid job, or going to college, if you wish. Why do you think someone else should force you to do something when you can decide for yourself?

Have you had support and counselling for your past traumas? It sounds as though you still carry a lot of anger and resentment and this is impacting your freedom of choice.

Because I've put my mother through enough trauma of not doing as I'm told and then today I'm getting accused of being an abuse victim when it's just my mother wanting what's best for me knowing what's best for me and me being disrespectful and a selfish brat by persuing a career I want that she disagrees with what if I lose any chance of fixing mother daughter relationship we had cos of MY selfishness?

Because I've put my mother through enough trauma of not doing as I'm told and then today I'm getting accused of being an abuse victim when it's just my mother wanting what's best for me knowing what's best for me and me being disrespectful and a selfish brat by persuing a career I want that she disagrees with what if I lose any chance of fixing mother daughter relationship we had cos of MY selfishness?

Because I've put my mother through enough trauma of not doing as I'm told and then today I'm getting accused of being an abuse victim when it's just my mother wanting what's best for me knowing what's best for me and me being disrespectful and a selfish brat by persuing a career I want that she disagrees with what if I lose any chance of fixing mother daughter relationship we had cos of MY selfishness?