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Kissless, handholdless virgin @ 24

Hi, I'm a kissless 24 year old virgin.
I feel very bad about this. I don't know anyone else like me, even my cousin that was virgin till 25 wasn't a kissless virgin for like a decade before that. No one in my school or uni was a kissless virgin. I feel not normal.
Because of this I decided to pursue powerlifting, but with time I switched to bodybuilding or aesthetics oriented training. And it actually made things worse, the more bodyfat I lost (I'm now at ~10%BF@200lbs 6'1) the more and more girls noticed me. I know it should made me feel better, but it didn't. They would never suspect that I'm a kissless virgin, so if I do something it would be incredible humiliation for me and letdown for her.
I feel worse and worse as the weeks and months go by. I see much less aesthetic guith girls. Even 12 year old's have more experience than me. Some girls anys wd guys my age are getting married and having kids and I haven't even held hands with a girl.
What should I do?

I must add that my voice has changed a lot and I have a full beard, so I don't look like a young virgin guy. It's women of all ages that notice me.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 1

PhoenixFire17

Stop over thinking it. I've screwed up relationships with guys(or at least potential relationships) because I was so self concious about being inexperienced. There were other reasons as well, but feeling self concious was definitely a big reason. In all reality, most girls aren't bothered. Some may even be relieved that they won't be compared to other girls, and feel like they won't be as good!! Whether it's because you don't have the confidence to ask a girl you're interested in out, or you haven't met the person who's worth feeling uncomfortable for, you will meet them. There are 12 year olds with more experience, but really how does that enhance their lives? They don't understand really what it means to be in a relationship.

You will meet someone, they won't care, you will kiss someone, and no longer be a virgin eventually, and at the end of your life, it won't matter whether you did it at 12 or 25 or 30 or 40, all you'll care about is you found the one person who mattered.

Reply 2

dmallsick

I don't want to find one person. I want to be like a cool dude that ****s a lot of girls.

Reply 3

Mankytoes

I wouldn't worry too much about embarrassing yourself kissing, it's pretty instinctive. The only real important thing is not to over kiss, don't munch on her face, don't rush the tongue in. Gentle kissing shows much more confidence, build it up.

Reply 4

PhoenixFire17

Original post by dmallsick

I don't want to find one person. I want to be like a cool dude that ****s a lot of girls.

Then go to a club or somewhere. You're not going to find anyone if you shy away from it. You've got to fake it before you make it. In all reality, you don't even have to tell them you have no experience if you don't want to.

Reply 5

dmallsick

I hate clubs. I hate parties.

Reply 6

C_tinie_D

Original post by dmallsick

I don't want to find one person. I want to be like a cool dude that ****s a lot of girls.

That doesn't make you a "cool dude", ye it's nice to experience different girls but what does it all count for in the end once you've settled down and had a family?