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    Hey all. Am posting as anonymous as I do not want those who know me to think any less of me.

    At home, I had a ****e time. For four years I was clinically depressed. I was bullied for no good reason. I self harmed. I attempted suicide twice. I had few close friend. No one has ever 'liked liked' me. My family are awful.

    I have now gone to Uni, and i know it's only a week and a half in, but I am basically now feeling so lonely here. I have one close friend, but she is a Postgrad and she too is unhappy and thinking about leaving. I'm not even thinking of leaving, as life back home is too awful to return to.

    Tonight was our Freshers Ball, and I spent all of those four hours either following my group of 'friends' about (no real response from them), or on my own trying to socialise with people. Generally, for whatever reason, people do not want to get to know me and be loyal to me.

    I am a nice guy, very loyal to all my friends, always trying to socialise. Yet, seemingly because I am not good looking, I get cast aside. And no this isn't a 'no one will go out with me' relationship problem. More a 'when can i just be happy please' problem.

    Sorry, not really expecting anyone to solve it for me, just a rant I needed to let rip on.
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    Hey all. Am posting as anonymous as I do not want those who know me to think any less of me.

    At home, I had a ****e time. For four years I was clinically depressed. I was bullied for no good reason. I self harmed. I attempted suicide twice. I had few close friend. No one has ever 'liked liked' me. My family are awful.

    I have now gone to Uni, and i know it's only a week and a half in, but I am basically now feeling so lonely here. I have one close friend, but she is a Postgrad and she too is unhappy and thinking about leaving. I'm not even thinking of leaving, as life back home is too awful to return to.

    Tonight was our Freshers Ball, and I spent all of those four hours either following my group of 'friends' about (no real response from them), or on my own trying to socialise with people. Generally, for whatever reason, people do not want to get to know me and be loyal to me.

    I am a nice guy, very loyal to all my friends, always trying to socialise. Yet, seemingly because I am not good looking, I get cast aside. And no this isn't a 'no one will go out with me' relationship problem. More a 'when can i just be happy please' problem.

    Sorry, not really expecting anyone to solve it for me, just a rant I needed to let rip on.
    What is it about your home life that you didn't like?
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    Well generally the bullying, the family all being self-absorbed and disinterested and generally unfamily-like, and having few close friends will do it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Well generally the bullying, the family all being self-absorbed and disinterested and generally unfamily-like, and having few close friends will do it.
    So you felt that you wasn't getting any positive attention at home?
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    No positive attention, or negative. Any would have been nice.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    No positive attention, or negative. Any would have been nice.
    Who are you closest to within your family unit?
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    Who are you closest to within your family unit?
    None. 2 years my Mum ran off with a bloke off the internet, then came back. Then she did it again, and came back. They're separated but live at home together cause neither can afford to move out. Lots of arguing. They live with me and they haven't even realised I've been depressed for 4 years. And my sister is just selfish and immature. So no, don't get on or am 'close' with any of them.
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    None. 2 years my Mum ran off with a bloke off the internet, then came back. Then she did it again, and came back. They're separated but live at home together cause neither can afford to move out. Lots of arguing. They live with me and they haven't even realised I've been depressed for 4 years. And my sister is just selfish and immature. So no, don't get on or am 'close' with any of them.
    What about your father?
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    And you feel certain you can't connect with anyone in your family? Perhaps you could speak to one or more of them about how you feel. If you feel ignored by them then it's one of two reasons. They're not concerned about you or they genuinley don't know how you feel. Perhaps being male they assume that you should be more emotionally resiliant and it could improve your situation to branch out to them and tell them how you feel...
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    Yet, seemingly because I am not good looking, I get cast aside
    I have this problem to We had this TSR meet up at uni and there was one particular girl who I used to talked to loads online and got along so well but ever since we met at uni shes been avoiding me like the plague, maybe it is because I'm ugly
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    Try having a more 'dominant personality', see what you can do..
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    Why don't you absord yourself in academia? Friends who don't really 'pay attention' maybe just aren't worth being friends with. You obviously are a kind guy and are sensitive, but many aren't. Just relax and let University roll in - you never know!
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    it doesnt matter if ur ugly... lots of ugly ppl i know are VERY popular. Just imagine ur the hottest guy in the room when u walk into a room. That u look like a well groomed machine and all the girls want you. (confidence is the key)
 
 
 
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