Running away

Why do I feel like I'm running away from the girl I love. We talk but I don't further the conversation and I just run away because I don't know what to do. Every time I fall in love with someone I just begin to run and distance myself from them.

You're not ready.

What are the reasons for your running away? That's what we have to establish first of all.

Is it that you actually don't have something official going on, or she doesn't know about it?

Is it that you actually don't have something official going on, or she doesn't know about it?

Don't fall in love with someone if you're going to run away!!!

But part of me wants too the other half wants to run away. Please help I want to stop running.

Why are you running away? Just can't handle close relationships perhaps? Can't open up?

I can't understand why I am running this is the problem. As soon as I develop emotions for someone I want to just run away.

The idea of communication is that you try and give us some answers in order to help you otherwise we might aswell be talking to a brick wall. Perhaps this is down to some childhood experience, I could be wrong but then again you are not saying much so all people can do is speculate.

Why are you running away? Just can't handle close relationships perhaps? Can't open up?

After thinking I realised I was neglected as a child by my mother. Any help in overcoming this?

Outside visiting a psychologist for cbt therapy , I would say you tackle it head on. You had problems with your mother in the past well talk about it with your girlfriend use it as something that brings you together rather then separates you. This way at least she may understand you, get close to her and have a good cuddle this can be very therapeutic in itself. You have to learn to slowly destroy this psychological problem that is controlling you and ending your relationships. Eventually you may be more confident in communicating with your partner in relationships, if you can't do it with romantic partners yet do it with friends you trust.

Thanks for your post. Because of what happened I never really ever had any close close friends. Ones that i shared personal stuff with as this happened when I was quite young. I built my defences up high and never let myself be vulnerable again this was a terrible mistake. The good thing is I am rediscovering myself, everything always corrects itself and these past few months have been very eye opening to me. I realise now how important the parent-child bond is and the consequences it can have on a child. Thanks for your post it really helped me. I am still 16 atm so it's a good thing I realised now and the future looks bright.

Why do I feel like I'm running away from the girl I love. We talk but I don't further the conversation and I just run away because I don't know what to do. Every time I fall in love with someone I just begin to run and distance myself from them.