Is anyone addicted to porn/sex when depressed?
I am.
I have a sex addiction where i spend over £200 on webcam sex and watching porn at least 8 times a week. This is because my depression is worse and i need escape. I also drink a lot in my uni halls alone and i'm possibly gonna take up weed.
Anyone similar to me? I could ask for advice on how to stop but this site is just full of trolls.
I have a sex addiction where i spend over £200 on webcam sex and watching porn at least 8 times a week. This is because my depression is worse and i need escape. I also drink a lot in my uni halls alone and i'm possibly gonna take up weed.
Anyone similar to me? I could ask for advice on how to stop but this site is just full of trolls.
Spoiler
I do watch porn when I'm going through a difficult time but I certainly won't pay! There's a ton of free porn everywhere
I also really want to sleep with a church girl as well 
Any Christians about
Any Christians about
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Who the **** pays for porn??
On a more serious note,why don't you go to your university counsellor for help?
Do you have friends you can turn to?
Do you have a gf or something of that nature that you could turn your sexual desires to instead?
Who the **** pays for porn??
On a more serious note,why don't you go to your university counsellor for help?
Do you have friends you can turn to?
Do you have a gf or something of that nature that you could turn your sexual desires to instead?
(edited 8 years ago)
Original post by Anonymous
I am.
I have a sex addiction where i spend over £200 on webcam sex and watching porn at least 8 times a week. This is because my depression is worse and i need escape. I also drink a lot in my uni halls alone and i'm possibly gonna take up weed.
Anyone similar to me? I could ask for advice on how to stop but this site is just full of trolls.
I have a sex addiction where i spend over £200 on webcam sex and watching porn at least 8 times a week. This is because my depression is worse and i need escape. I also drink a lot in my uni halls alone and i'm possibly gonna take up weed.
Anyone similar to me? I could ask for advice on how to stop but this site is just full of trolls.
Spoiler
stop spending money on webcam sex.
stick to porn, it's free and won't get you into ****.
get high and then watch porn.
if you're depressed you should go see the GP. it will help.
Original post by Kadak
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Who the **** pays for porn?? It's webcam sex, not a porn site.
On a more serious note,why don't you go to your university counsellor for help?
I am going to a uni counsellor but she is ****ing useless (but shes hot)
Do you have friends you can turn to? No i don't
Do you have a gf or something of that nature that you could turn your sexual desires to instead? I have a feamle friend who goes to church and i really want to **** her badly
Who the **** pays for porn?? It's webcam sex, not a porn site.
On a more serious note,why don't you go to your university counsellor for help?
I am going to a uni counsellor but she is ****ing useless (but shes hot)
Do you have friends you can turn to? No i don't
Do you have a gf or something of that nature that you could turn your sexual desires to instead? I have a feamle friend who goes to church and i really want to **** her badly
I answered your questions.
I may be mentally ill idk
Original post by Anonymous
stop spending money on webcam sex.
stick to porn, it's free and won't get you into ****.
get high and then watch porn.
if you're depressed you should go see the GP. it will help.
stick to porn, it's free and won't get you into ****.
get high and then watch porn.
if you're depressed you should go see the GP. it will help.
But i'm addicted to the site. I can't stop it. I also like following girls on twitter who suggest meets up (some are stil in sixth form).
It's hard to find a drug dealer but i'm looking into it deeply.
First you need to identify what triggers you to act out like you described.
1.Take out a piece of paper and a pen or pencil. Find a quiet, private place to record your thoughts during this exercise. Be aware that this exercise may cause you some distress (because you'll be thinking about situations that trigger your symptoms), so plan to do something soothing afterward.
2. On your piece of paper, make three columns. On the top of the first column, write "Trigger." On the top of the second column, write "Emotion." On the top of the third column, write "Response to Emotion."
3. Call to mind the last time you had an intense emotional response. This could be intense anger, loneliness, fear, sadness, shame, or emptiness. Under the "Trigger" column, write whatever event was happening just before you had the emotional response. Remember, a trigger can be an internal or an external event -- it may have been something that happened in the environment around you (i.e., a conflict with a friend), or it may have been something that happened in your mind (i.e., a memory, thought, or image.)
4.In the "Emotion" column, write the emotional responses you had to the trigger (this could be more than one emotion). If you struggle to identify emotions, you can leave this column blank, but try your best to identify at least one emotion you had in reaction to the trigger.
5. In the "Response to Emotion" column, write the response you had to the emotions you wrote in the second column. For example, perhaps you felt intense shame in response to the trigger, and as a result you engaged in self-harm. Or, maybe you felt anger, but used coping skills to manage your anger effectively. Whatever your response was to the emotion, record that.
6. See if you can identify two or three recent (i.e., within the last month) times that you have experienced intense emotional responses. For each of these episodes, repeat steps three, four, and five.
7. Now, take a look back at the list you have created. In particular, look at the column labeled "triggers." Do you notice any pattern developing? That is, are there particular types of triggers that come up repeatedly for you? See if you can identify one or two categories of triggers that consistently bring up strong emotions. For example, many people report that experiences of perceived rejection are a strong trigger.
8.Keep this piece of paper, and after you experience episodes of intense emotion, add to your list by reflecting on the event that triggered the emotion, the emotional response you had, and what you did in response to that emotion or emotions. See if you can identify other patterns of triggers.
9. As you add to your list, you will begin to be able to predict situations that trigger you. Having this knowledge will help you to create a plan for coping with triggers
1. Avoid Triggers
One of the easiest ways to cope with triggers is to avoid them in the first place. There are some triggers that are easy to avoid. For example, perhaps you had a favorite movie you used to watch with your ex-girlfriend that now triggers you. Don't watch it!Unfortunately, there are many triggers that either can't or shouldn't be avoided. For example, if you are triggered by someone in your family, you often can't avoid them, or may choose not to avoid them because you love them.Avoidance is a strategy that you should use sparingly. If you start to avoid all the people, places, or situations that trigger you, you could end up with a very limited life, and that is certainly not the goal.
2. Approach Triggers Strategically
Another option is to take a more strategic approach and gradually face your triggers. This may be one that is best tried with the help of a therapist.To do this, first you must know what triggers trouble you. Pick something small, make a plan for how you will cope with the trigger once it happens, and then intentionally face the trigger.For example, perhaps the thought that you have failed at something is a huge trigger for you. Pick a yoga pose that you know you can't do, try it, and when you fail notice all of the emotions and responses this brings up, but cope with those emotions in a healthy way (e.g., practice relaxation, or tell yourself, "It's okay.") Notice that you can face failing without doing something destructive.
3.Develop a Trigger Plan
If you know what triggers tend to send you for a loop, you can make a plan to manage those triggers constructively. Once you have identified your top two or three triggers, write down five things you can do to manage your distress the next time one of those triggers happens. Keep the list in your pocket.When the trigger comes along, pull out that list, and start with the first coping skill you wrote down. If that doesn't help reduce your distress, try the next, and the next. Go through the whole list if you need to (and start again at the top) until your distress resolves.
4.Talk With A Therapist
It is not uncommon for people to do dangerous things when they are triggered. These types of behaviors can range from unsafe sex to self harm or suicide attempts. If these types of impulsive events happen when you are triggered, you should have professional help. It is possible to get these behaviors under control, but a therapist knows how to guide you through it in a way that keeps you safe.
Perhaps get out of the house when u next feel that you want to go online for the sex sites. Go for a walk, anything that will remove you from the situation. Don't stress about the money you have wasted! that's been and gone. No need to use that as fuel for your fire.
Go to a meeting!
Sexaholics Anonymous
http://www.sauk.org/
Use this site to listen to other addicts in the stories and recording link
http://www.sauk.org/personal-stories-masterbation-pornography-prostitution/
call the helpline on 0300 111 7777
it might be hard to make these first steps for your recovery. But you must do so in order to overcome this struggle your having.
1.Take out a piece of paper and a pen or pencil. Find a quiet, private place to record your thoughts during this exercise. Be aware that this exercise may cause you some distress (because you'll be thinking about situations that trigger your symptoms), so plan to do something soothing afterward.
2. On your piece of paper, make three columns. On the top of the first column, write "Trigger." On the top of the second column, write "Emotion." On the top of the third column, write "Response to Emotion."
3. Call to mind the last time you had an intense emotional response. This could be intense anger, loneliness, fear, sadness, shame, or emptiness. Under the "Trigger" column, write whatever event was happening just before you had the emotional response. Remember, a trigger can be an internal or an external event -- it may have been something that happened in the environment around you (i.e., a conflict with a friend), or it may have been something that happened in your mind (i.e., a memory, thought, or image.)
4.In the "Emotion" column, write the emotional responses you had to the trigger (this could be more than one emotion). If you struggle to identify emotions, you can leave this column blank, but try your best to identify at least one emotion you had in reaction to the trigger.
5. In the "Response to Emotion" column, write the response you had to the emotions you wrote in the second column. For example, perhaps you felt intense shame in response to the trigger, and as a result you engaged in self-harm. Or, maybe you felt anger, but used coping skills to manage your anger effectively. Whatever your response was to the emotion, record that.
6. See if you can identify two or three recent (i.e., within the last month) times that you have experienced intense emotional responses. For each of these episodes, repeat steps three, four, and five.
7. Now, take a look back at the list you have created. In particular, look at the column labeled "triggers." Do you notice any pattern developing? That is, are there particular types of triggers that come up repeatedly for you? See if you can identify one or two categories of triggers that consistently bring up strong emotions. For example, many people report that experiences of perceived rejection are a strong trigger.
8.Keep this piece of paper, and after you experience episodes of intense emotion, add to your list by reflecting on the event that triggered the emotion, the emotional response you had, and what you did in response to that emotion or emotions. See if you can identify other patterns of triggers.
9. As you add to your list, you will begin to be able to predict situations that trigger you. Having this knowledge will help you to create a plan for coping with triggers
1. Avoid Triggers
One of the easiest ways to cope with triggers is to avoid them in the first place. There are some triggers that are easy to avoid. For example, perhaps you had a favorite movie you used to watch with your ex-girlfriend that now triggers you. Don't watch it!Unfortunately, there are many triggers that either can't or shouldn't be avoided. For example, if you are triggered by someone in your family, you often can't avoid them, or may choose not to avoid them because you love them.Avoidance is a strategy that you should use sparingly. If you start to avoid all the people, places, or situations that trigger you, you could end up with a very limited life, and that is certainly not the goal.
2. Approach Triggers Strategically
Another option is to take a more strategic approach and gradually face your triggers. This may be one that is best tried with the help of a therapist.To do this, first you must know what triggers trouble you. Pick something small, make a plan for how you will cope with the trigger once it happens, and then intentionally face the trigger.For example, perhaps the thought that you have failed at something is a huge trigger for you. Pick a yoga pose that you know you can't do, try it, and when you fail notice all of the emotions and responses this brings up, but cope with those emotions in a healthy way (e.g., practice relaxation, or tell yourself, "It's okay.") Notice that you can face failing without doing something destructive.
3.Develop a Trigger Plan
If you know what triggers tend to send you for a loop, you can make a plan to manage those triggers constructively. Once you have identified your top two or three triggers, write down five things you can do to manage your distress the next time one of those triggers happens. Keep the list in your pocket.When the trigger comes along, pull out that list, and start with the first coping skill you wrote down. If that doesn't help reduce your distress, try the next, and the next. Go through the whole list if you need to (and start again at the top) until your distress resolves.
4.Talk With A Therapist
It is not uncommon for people to do dangerous things when they are triggered. These types of behaviors can range from unsafe sex to self harm or suicide attempts. If these types of impulsive events happen when you are triggered, you should have professional help. It is possible to get these behaviors under control, but a therapist knows how to guide you through it in a way that keeps you safe.
Perhaps get out of the house when u next feel that you want to go online for the sex sites. Go for a walk, anything that will remove you from the situation. Don't stress about the money you have wasted! that's been and gone. No need to use that as fuel for your fire.
Go to a meeting!
Sexaholics Anonymous
http://www.sauk.org/
Use this site to listen to other addicts in the stories and recording link
http://www.sauk.org/personal-stories-masterbation-pornography-prostitution/
call the helpline on 0300 111 7777
it might be hard to make these first steps for your recovery. But you must do so in order to overcome this struggle your having.
the porn is acting out! this is a reaction! you must find the action which brings you to this
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