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Watched straight and gay porn

Hi 26M all I’ve watched straight and gay porn now my mind has been mixed up as I’ve watched a lot off times whilst drinking and smoking the ganja but do it makes me gay if I watched it but don’t want to the gay stuff in real life and just wondering has just messed up my mind?
Maybe don’t smoke the ganja while watching porn, full stop. One vice at a time.
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Original post by Sorcerer of Old
Maybe don’t smoke the ganja while watching porn, full stop. One vice at a time.

Is it because my mind is al messed up from watching too much off it but I’m actually straight?
Original post by Anonymous
Is it because my mind is al messed up from watching too much off it but I’m actually straight?

It can happen. Abstain from porn for a while and your brain will rewire itself to normal stimuli.

And lay off the green/booze, it's obviously not doing you any favours.
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is watching gay porn... gay? Most definitely. Does this make you gay? Not necessarily. I would argue that it probably makes you Bi at the very least.

unless this is stopping you from living your normal life & are getting the right grades/doing proper jobs at work i don't see much of an issue.
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Original post by weeglewum
is watching gay porn... gay? Most definitely. Does this make you gay? Not necessarily. I would argue that it probably makes you Bi at the very least.

unless this is stopping you from living your normal life & are getting the right grades/doing proper jobs at work i don't see much of an issue.

My mind has been sort messed up but I don’t mean do disrespect people who are gay or being homophobic I respect everyone’s decision whether it is gay or straight on here just my brain is confused if I liked men or but the truth am I attracted to girls I’ve could of been in a relationship with an attractive girl.

but I wasn’t sure if I was ready or not so I don’t really what’s going on tbh.
Original post by ICEcold_Stoic
And lay off the green/booze, it's obviously not doing you any favours.


Seems a strange connection to make? :tongue:
Original post by StriderHort
Seems a strange connection to make? :tongue:

How so? I know this is a week old so feel free to not reply if you feel it's irrelevant now lol
Original post by ICEcold_Stoic
How so? I know this is a week old so feel free to not reply if you feel it's irrelevant now lol

It seemed odd telling someone to quit those vices in the circumstances, implying they were responsible for what porn someone enjoys or their sexual orientation. As said I don't think they are really connected here.
Original post by StriderHort
It seemed odd telling someone to quit those vices in the circumstances, implying they were responsible for what porn someone enjoys or their sexual orientation. As said I don't think they are really connected here.

OP said he watches whilst drinking and smoking a doobie and we all know both those things alter one's perception and ability to think rationally, therefore based on that conclusion it would be wise to not watch porn when engaging in such things.

If he's of a clear mind and wants to watch porn then that's his prerogative, but like I said, probably not wise to do so whilst under the influence.
Original post by ICEcold_Stoic
OP said he watches whilst drinking and smoking a doobie and we all know both those things alter one's perception and ability to think rationally, therefore based on that conclusion it would be wise to not watch porn when engaging in such things.

If he's of a clear mind and wants to watch porn then that's his prerogative, but like I said, probably not wise to do so whilst under the influence.


I don't think I agree with the logic of that conclusion tho, its too wide of a leap between 'altered perception' and 'sexual preference' by that logic anyone who has had a drink or a smoke shouldn't watch TV, read a book or even interact with others, as they won't be able to be 'rational' about it? I find that an extreme conclusion and should add I indulge in both vices often, neither has ever made me question my sexuality or think TV shows are real, I would consider those separate issues. Basically I don't feel they are really relevant to what the OP is talking about and unlikely to change anything if you removed them.
Original post by StriderHort
I don't think I agree with the logic of that conclusion tho, its too wide of a leap between 'altered perception' and 'sexual preference' by that logic anyone who has had a drink or a smoke shouldn't watch TV, read a book or even interact with others, as they won't be able to be 'rational' about it? I find that an extreme conclusion and should add I indulge in both vices often, neither has ever made me question my sexuality or think TV shows are real, I would consider those separate issues. Basically I don't feel they are really relevant to what the OP is talking about and unlikely to change anything if you removed them.

We can't draw a definitive conclusion as to what OP's sexual preference is though. We need more context. For all we know his deviation into gay material may be a result of addiction and not something representable of his actual tastes. He did claim in one of his replies that he watches too much of it, and studies on porn addiction, malleability of the brain, neuroplasticity and things like that have to gone to show that the brain on porn once addicted will grow tired of the same old stimuli and seek out more extreme types of material, the likes of which don't actually represent their innate sexuality. My initial reply was based on the assumption that he was watching too much of it and he started delving into gay material. The fact that he mentions he drinks and smokes whilst engaging in porn isn't gonna help him decipher whether he actually enjoys the material he's watching or not as he's not able to think rationally. It may also act as a catalyst to his behaviour. Better to be of sober mind, abstain from porn/weed/alcohol for 90 days or so and then figure out whether his tastes have reverted back to normal or not. Again, this is going based on the assumption that's he's addicted. Does that make sense? Explanations aren't my forte lol.

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Original post by ICEcold_Stoic
We can't draw a definitive conclusion as to what OP's sexual preference is though. We need more context. For all we know his deviation into gay material may be a result of addiction and not something representable of his actual tastes. He did claim in one of his replies that he watches too much of it, and studies on porn addiction, malleability of the brain, neuroplasticity and things like that have to gone to show that the brain on porn once addicted will grow tired of the same old stimuli and seek out more extreme types of material, the likes of which don't actually represent their innate sexuality. My initial reply was based on the assumption that he was watching too much of it and he started delving into gay material. The fact that he mentions he drinks and smokes whilst engaging in porn isn't gonna help him decipher whether he actually enjoys the material he's watching or not as he's not able to think rationally. It may also act as a catalyst to his behaviour. Better to be of sober mind, abstain from porn/weed/alcohol for 90 days or so and then figure out whether his tastes have reverted back to normal or not. Again, this is going based on the assumption that's he's addicted. Does that make sense? Explanations aren't my forte lol.

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Thank you for the reply I think during my time I’m university and being able to achieve on getting two jobs now. I used to watch porn maybe at least 4 times a day whether it is mixed genders but I’m fully aware of my attractiveness is towards girls. I think spending far half. The time jerking off on my laptop rather apologise for the inappropriate statements.

Besides smoking and drinking whilst it definitely made things worse for me and I don’t want to go down the rabbit hole because I’m not sure if it has effected my brain from long term use of porn. I am trying to quit fully starting from now one as it doesn’t feel good for anymore.

I’d much do that intimate stuff with a girl but I’m more focused on keeping myself clean being more productive with work.ensuring my room is a clean tidy at all times as that’s what’s make me feels good and it for me having a clear state of my mind and being clean. I’m not even sure if the porn use is addictive or not I don’t consider it as being addiction I just watch too much off it.

and I going my hardest to quit I was worried because I don’t know why haven’t got a girlfriend or if might be gay because is taking me such a very long tie to get one but I am attracted girls I just what I am attracted but obviously noting wrong for people being gay I didn’t want seem coming across as homophobic
Original post by Anonymous
Hi 26M all I’ve watched straight and gay porn now my mind has been mixed up as I’ve watched a lot off times whilst drinking and smoking the ganja but do it makes me gay if I watched it but don’t want to the gay stuff in real life and just wondering has just messed up my mind?


Accept your true self and come out to the world.
Original post by Anonymous
Thank you for the reply I think during my time I’m university and being able to achieve on getting two jobs now. I used to watch porn maybe at least 4 times a day whether it is mixed genders but I’m fully aware of my attractiveness is towards girls. I think spending far half. The time jerking off on my laptop rather apologise for the inappropriate statements.

Besides smoking and drinking whilst it definitely made things worse for me and I don’t want to go down the rabbit hole because I’m not sure if it has effected my brain from long term use of porn. I am trying to quit fully starting from now one as it doesn’t feel good for anymore.

I’d much do that intimate stuff with a girl but I’m more focused on keeping myself clean being more productive with work.ensuring my room is a clean tidy at all times as that’s what’s make me feels good and it for me having a clear state of my mind and being clean. I’m not even sure if the porn use is addictive or not I don’t consider it as being addiction I just watch too much off it.

and I going my hardest to quit I was worried because I don’t know why haven’t got a girlfriend or if might be gay because is taking me such a very long tie to get one but I am attracted girls I just what I am attracted but obviously noting wrong for people being gay I didn’t want seem coming across as homophobic

Best of luck on your journey man, you got this 💪
Original post by ICEcold_Stoic
Best of luck on your journey man, you got this 💪

Sorry if this a long over due reply lol so I have not been smoking for about two months and I drink less now relatively still have on going vivid dreams maybe I take that as normal for dreams anyway. I cut back porn but relapsed after 20 days.

But mostly watched straight porn don’t get me wrong I respect people who are gay there is nothing wrong that. I am just figuring out if I’m gay/bi. And really I am more comfortable with a girl as I would feel really uncomfortable with a guy.

So I guess that means I’m straight/bi?

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