My scenario about the "reformed" pedophile dream guy was to highlight the flaw in the your logic of your argument about people being fools to not date someone based on their past.
Yes, there have been pedophiles who have offended in the past and got "help" who have legitimately "changed" and no longer engage in illegal activity in regards to children. But the fact of the matter is, no one in their right mind would take that guy as a bf because there is always a significant risk that a person who says they've "changed" has not changed and will continue to engage in such behavior.
If you don't like the pedophile scenario I could use a dream guy as a former wife beater. Judging by your past posts on the subject i'm pretty sure you would refuse to have anything romantically to do with this guy either.
Or dream guy who had 8 girlfriends in his past and cheated on each and every one of them. Most girls considering him as a bf armed with that information would atleast think "twice", and a fair few i'm sure would decide to not take a chance on him. Are those girls "fools"?
I could go on and on with scenario's and i'm sure you wouldn't be able to rebuff them all using cherrypicked scientific claims.
and is pedophilia really a "disorder"?
50 years ago so was being gay.
being gay is still punishable by law in many countries.
seems to me like the scientific community likes to class a sexual preference as a "disorder" when it does not fit the norm/mainstream public opinion.
A couple of hundred years ago a man could sleep with a 12 year old, and that was completely acceptable in the eye's of the law.
heck, in another couple of hundred years it might be acceptable again.
I do not think much of all these scientific classifications specialists like to give on such matters as they chop and change in tune with public opinion.
Regarding past sexual behaviors or tendencies, The way I see it, if someone has a history of such behaviors ...there is a noticeable risk of them engaging in such behaviors again, despite any claims they make of "i've changed"
OP's girl is hanging around ex's and flirting with all her male friends.
I put her risk of relapse similar to that of a reformed pedophile working as a teaching assistant in an Infant school.
Everything might turn out fine and dandy.
Pete the pedo might manage to stay on the straight and narrow and not let the young ones play with his "pikachu"
and 30 year old norah the nympho might not have a little bit too much to drink one night and end up in a home made bangbros movie
but that doesn't take away from the fact that there is risk