Hey all,
I've met a guy and we both seem to really like each other, things are going pretty good right now (much to my surprise) and we just love each other's company. We met online and initially I never even had a second thought about his age, nor did it really bother me. He said it didn't bother him either. I don't know, maybe if it was the other way round, it might not be so frowned upon if it was the male who was younger, however I am just concerned if things do progress more that I will have to tell my family. I've never really had a proper relationship before so my mother doesn't expect these kind of things, so I am worried that after primarily getting over the shock of me being involved with someone, she might be shocked by the age difference given that she is quite conservative and old fashioned. I have been seeing this guy quite often, without my mum knowing, and it's getting to the stage where (especially if we progress further) I need to tell her, even if I say he is a friend for the time being. The problem is, I don't know if she will be more shocked by how old he is, or the fact that he is Polish (she can selectively be xenophobic, on one hand she says how she was randomly talking to two Polish girls in town and they were very nice, to making sweeping generalisations about a few cases she reads about in the newspapers).
With there being a 12 year age difference, how would your parents react? My mother isn't strict, and she is pretty laid back - I believe that at the end of the day she will say the old 'as long as you're happy' kind of thing, but I'm still really wary given this age difference.
Thanks.